What the deal behind the groom not seeing the wedding dress?
Whats the story behind that?
Whats the story behind that?
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Scar Junior
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Hahahah! Awesome.
Scar Junior
Active Member
I'm sure it goes back to some old tradition, probably not from this country... having to do with the virginity and culture. Or else arranged marriages. Who knows! The real question is: why do most brides still wear white? They shouldn't be able to.
HoneyMnShawnee
Member
I believe it has something do with being bad luck if the groom sees the bride (on their wedding day) or her dress.. I didn't really believe in the bad luck when I got married, but I didn't let him see me or the dress non the less.. I just wanted to see the reaction of my husband when I walked down the aisle, looking different than I ever had before.....
cdunbar
Active Member
Alot of brides don't where pure white these days, most tend to decide to go with a beige or off-white color b/c it seems hardly appropriate to wear white for the obvious reasons. The wedding dress deal is an idea that if you see your future wife in her dress before your actually suppose to it will bring bad luck to the marriage.
cdunbar said:
i hope thats not true or has certen exseptions lol.
She and i are a member or a wedding board. she posted a pic of he wedding dress test. not knowing i clicked on a link that took me to it. as soon as i realize what i was i shut my eyes and closed it down.
Just been bothering me all day.
I know its like walking under a ladder etc... and its not really true. but you know dont wanta jinx anything.
Scar Junior
Active Member
I also think that the women are so stressed out that day, the last thing anybody needs is for them to get mad at the groom asking questions like "honey, where are my cufflinks"...
she wants too and i want her to. it was just accedental i saw it.
Luckly i didnt see much so im still in the dark as what it all looks like.
I just felt like a idiot, really didnt want to see it.
Luckly i didnt see much so im still in the dark as what it all looks like.
I just felt like a idiot, really didnt want to see it.
ErickainPA
New Member
it's superstitions and old wives tales that have been passed down for years.
My husband saw my wedding dress before I put it on, had to press it and than he saw me in it about an hour before our wedding took place. We have been married for 5 yrs already. I know at the last weddig I was at the bride didn't let her DH see her dress before the wedding because she wanted to see his face as he saw her for the first time in it.
As for the obvious reasons of not wearing a white dress, the real point of most brides not wearing pure white is because pure white washes most ladies out. Unless they have the perfect coloring, white looks awful. My dress was candlelight white for the simple fact that white looked bad on me, the softer shade looked much better with my skin and hair coloring.
My husband saw my wedding dress before I put it on, had to press it and than he saw me in it about an hour before our wedding took place. We have been married for 5 yrs already. I know at the last weddig I was at the bride didn't let her DH see her dress before the wedding because she wanted to see his face as he saw her for the first time in it.
As for the obvious reasons of not wearing a white dress, the real point of most brides not wearing pure white is because pure white washes most ladies out. Unless they have the perfect coloring, white looks awful. My dress was candlelight white for the simple fact that white looked bad on me, the softer shade looked much better with my skin and hair coloring.
thank you for that.
I was just worried through the day.
like i said i saw it for about 1/2 a second so i still know about as much as i did then.
Whatever she wears im going to be blown aways. she does that now.
i know she hasnt gone for white. its like you said a different shade.
I was just worried through the day.
like i said i saw it for about 1/2 a second so i still know about as much as i did then.
Whatever she wears im going to be blown aways. she does that now.
i know she hasnt gone for white. its like you said a different shade.
wannabeBelle
Well-Known Member
Also I believe it is seeing HER in the dress not seeing a picture of the dress itself. The whole idea of a wedding gown was to advertsie wealth that a family was so wealthy that a girl could afford to buy a gown to wear once in her life!!! I believe White dates back to Queen Elizabeth's time and the whole idea of innocence etc. Well from what I understand from history, that wasnt precisely on the mark then, so I really wouldnt give it a second thought now either!!!! Belle
BeGuy
New Member
I'm new here but I thought I'd chime in due to the fact that I did just get married 2 weeks ago. My wife had her dress sitting in our second bedroom for several months prior to the wedding and I was given very specific instructions not to look at it. Having not been able to look at it all that time really paid off when my wife appeared before me during the wedding. The mystery surrounding what the dress looks like makes the experience of getting married that much more special.
On a less sappy note, if you are planning on spending time in Disney after the wedding, I highly recommend wearing the bride and groom ears. We spent half of our honeymoon in Disneyland wearing the ears and the treatment we receieved was fantastic. We got a lot of extra attention during character meals and even got our own boat for it's a small world.
-Jeff
On a less sappy note, if you are planning on spending time in Disney after the wedding, I highly recommend wearing the bride and groom ears. We spent half of our honeymoon in Disneyland wearing the ears and the treatment we receieved was fantastic. We got a lot of extra attention during character meals and even got our own boat for it's a small world.
-Jeff
wannabeBelle said:
sadly she was wearing the dress in the photo lol. thats y i was abit worried.
but i still havent got much of a clue to what it looks like so the blown away factor will still be there. it would whatever im sure.
Scar Junior said:
Why not? I think the only times it's an embarassment is when the bride has kids, has been married before, or when she lives with the groom. That's the only time it's obvious she's not a virgin. Otherwise, she should be able to wear white if she wants to and it's no one's business and noe one has anyway of knowing if she's a virgin or not. I'm wearing white when I get married, and I'm a Christian, we're not going to live together until we get married, so for all anyone knows, I can justifiably where white...rather or not I have reason to, I'll never tell. :animwink:
I have a friend who is waiting until she gets married to have ______, and she has a boyfriend and they would take trips together, so people would assume they were having ______...I don't think u should make assumptions about people. There are still people who wait until they get married.
Wedding Dress color?
(Alot of brides don't where pure white these days, most tend to decide to go with a beige or off-white color)
I hope this isn't because of the whole "virginity" thing, there's no rule about how your ah, experience should affect the color of your dress anymore!
(Alot of brides don't where pure white these days, most tend to decide to go with a beige or off-white color)
I hope this isn't because of the whole "virginity" thing, there's no rule about how your ah, experience should affect the color of your dress anymore!
MayKit said:
I think a lot of traditions have gone out the window, like the bride's parents pay for pretty much everything, many people are marrying outdoors, or at venues that aren't a church, brides are wearing all sorts of colors, etc. However, there are probably going to be older guests, and they are the ones who get offended, or hold up their noses, not that it matters. I read that it's considered tacky to put your registry information in the invite, and u absolutely should not do it, yet I have NEVER received an invitation that didn't have registry information, except once, when the couple didn't register and spread the word that they just wanted cash... Also, there's a "rule" that you don't wear white to a wedding because it means you're trying to upstage the bride, and u don't wear black because it means u oppose the wedding. i've seen both of these frequently violated and don't even think most people are aware of them anymore. Like I mentioned earlier, I think it's when the bride has children already and wears white that grandma and grandpa raise their eyebrows...:lookaroun :lol: A lot of brides just wear a color that flatters them. Generally it seems like it's up to the bride and groom what traditions they choose to follow. It's their day, and in the end it's their happiness that matters most. If people want to have it their way, they can have their OWN wedding.
Nansafan
Active Member
wannabeBelle said:
When my sister got married the priest's homily actually talked about wearing white at a wedding. He said that in during the feudal times, a bride wore a dress that matched the bridesmaids so that she would look like everyone else so that nobody from an opposing clan would know who the bride was that they might kidnap her before the ceremony. As time progressed wealthy brides would wear white (as Belle stated above) in order to show how wealthy they were, they could afford to buy a dress they would only wear once. The priest told us that the concept of wearing white as a sign of purity etc. was actually something that is more recent in tradition and has no root or basis in the church. A co-worker's daughter wore the most beautiful red dress I've ever seen which he said was a traditional wedding dress of their culture, Japan.