The Chit Chat Chit Chat Thread

[21stamps]

OK so I have all of T’s Schedule for all of his teams for next few months (minus b-ball tourneys).

I’ve spent the last few days trying to work out conflicts and have most of them under control now and found alternate solutions.

We will be spending an average of four hours every Sunday at an indoor soccer facility between two of his teams. At least they are in the same place now, And we share three players between his select team and our school team. I just spoke to one of the moms and we are going to bring cards and some games and just camp out at tables between games and hang out with us three parents and the kids. They do serve alcohol there but depending on which game comes first I may not be able to drink because I have to coach lol.

Anyway, it’s not as hectic as it could have been..at least Sundays, Saturdays are still a mess between futsal and b-ball. I’m actually looking forward to Sundays. Good soccer and good people, the boys will have fun together.

 

[21stamps]

… And because that’s not enough. I decided to o coach 2 futsal teams in an upcoming tournament. It’s a one day only tournament so will be spending half the day there and that’s it. I registered the teams but then decided that I would like another parent to coach one of them, because it’s just too much to do both especially when they play each other. So that is sorted out too.
Who needs a holiday/schedule break anyway.

I feel a bit more relaxed today now that this is all taken care of. T is training with a different team during the first three weeks of team training. The training for spring season started last night... another bot from his team is also doing that night due to b-ball conflicts.. and they know all of the players and coach anyway. He enjoyed it

 

[MySmallWorldof4]

Random thought this morning. Very close to this time 48 years ago I got married for the first and only time. Sadly it only lasted 29 years, but those years gave me things that were worth more then money. My two daughters are my pride and measure of accomplishment, even though my initial participation was not all that burdensome.

I did have this dream, at a very young age, that I would go into old age with someone by my side and because that didn't happen, I do feel a little sadness, but overall most of those married years were good and I have done OK during the years after. My plea would be if you are having mental illness problems, don't think that you can cure it alone. Seek help while you still can think clearly and listen to things you perhaps do not want to hear. My X went off on her own because she felt that being married held her down, unfortunately with the encouragement of her mental illness professional she just walked out, so be careful. She changed therapist with the frequency people change underwear until she found one that agreed with her and helped her blame everyone else on her problems. Her experience after the divorce was awful. All those things she thought were going to be perfect didn't happen because she wasn't able to leave that illness at home when she left. She alienated everyone she came in contact with and ended up alone and living in filth in a low rent apartment. A highly educated woman with no place to go, no promise left and no direction.

All of us had left Vermont and, in spite of her burning bridges with her daughters, they insisted on bringing her down with us so she wouldn't be alone. My son in law and myself flew up to Vermont, rented a truck and headed back south in a blizzard with her meager belongings. However, by then she had entered a place that really wasn't reversible and she mercifully passed away from complications of a stroke four years later, but at least was being cared for during that time. She deserved that at the very least.

At first I felt anger and betrayal, but after seeing her in that state all I felt was upset that there was nothing I could have done about it and all the promise of 48 years ago were no longer possible. Anyway, sorry to vent and probably supplied TMI, in the process. Happily ever after, doesn't always happen.

After how she broke your heart, you showed great character by helping to bring her down to live by her family. This is a sad story for sure, but you give good advice and I appreciate that.

 

[StarWarsGirl]

Disagree. I've always wanted a chauffeur. (Want a job? Oh, I can't pay you anything,, but you'll have the pleasure of driving me around in my vintage, 2007 Chevy Aveo. We could go to the grocery store, Target, the library and local park. Big thrills for you!!)

I used to have one of those.


Then my mom said she was done with it and I needed to learn how to drive.

 

[Dead2009]

@Dead2009 how are you doing with the storm. Safe and inside I hope

Oh I had to work, but luckily I went in before the heaviest of the rain hit and left after it snowed.

 

[StarWarsGirl]

Oh I had to work, but luckily I went in before the heaviest of the rain hit and left after it snowed.

Good. That was not a fun drive for me last night.

 

[Dead2009]

Good. That was not a fun drive for me last night.

I can imagine. I'm surprised my work wasn't off the hook because of the weather, it was really quiet around 7:30.

 

[StarWarsGirl]

I can imagine. I'm surprised my work wasn't off the hook because of the weather, it was really quiet around 7:30.

No mad rush for toilet paper and water?

Roads were terrible. I left at 5. I got home at 5:40. I live 8 miles from work.

I always worry about driving in bad conditions. I mean, I can drive in them. Other drivers are what worry me.

 

[Cesar R M]

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[MinnieM123]

Isn't there normally a SB in target ?

Yes! There is in the Target store that's in my area. Also, next to the Target, is a regular Starbuck's store! So you could get a cup of coffee inside Target, and enjoy that while I browse around. Then, when I'm ready to leave, we can stop in to the Starbucks store next to Target, and get a coffee "to go" in the drive-through!!! (And then, halfway to home, there is another Starbucks on the way -- plenty of coffee for my chauffeur!)

 

[Mr Ferret 75]

Yes! There is in the Target store that's in my area. Also, next to the Target, is a regular Starbuck's store! So you could get a cup of coffee inside Target, and enjoy that while I browse around. Then, when I'm ready to leave, we can stop in to the Starbucks store next to Target, and get a coffee "to go" in the drive-through!!! (And then, halfway to home, there is another Starbucks on the way -- plenty of coffee for my chauffeur!)

Again (against considered wisdom) where do i sign ?

 

[StarWarsGirl]

Yes! There is in the Target store that's in my area. Also, next to the Target, is a regular Starbuck's store! So you could get a cup of coffee inside Target, and enjoy that while I browse around. Then, when I'm ready to leave, we can stop in to the Starbucks store next to Target, and get a coffee "to go" in the drive-through!!! (And then, halfway to home, there is another Starbucks on the way -- plenty of coffee for my chauffeur!)

Honestly, I'm mad there isn't a Starbucks closer to work. I mean, the five-ten minutes either north or south is just so far....

 

[MinnieM123]

Random thought this morning. Very close to this time 48 years ago I got married for the first and only time. Sadly it only lasted 29 years, but those years gave me things that were worth more then money. My two daughters are my pride and measure of accomplishment, even though my initial participation was not all that burdensome.

I did have this dream, at a very young age, that I would go into old age with someone by my side and because that didn't happen, I do feel a little sadness, but overall most of those married years were good and I have done OK during the years after. My plea would be if you are having mental illness problems, don't think that you can cure it alone. Seek help while you still can think clearly and listen to things you perhaps do not want to hear. My X went off on her own because she felt that being married held her down, unfortunately with the encouragement of her mental illness professional she just walked out, so be careful. She changed therapist with the frequency people change underwear until she found one that agreed with her and helped her blame everyone else on her problems. Her experience after the divorce was awful. All those things she thought were going to be perfect didn't happen because she wasn't able to leave that illness at home when she left. She alienated everyone she came in contact with and ended up alone and living in filth in a low rent apartment. A highly educated woman with no place to go, no promise left and no direction.

All of us had left Vermont and, in spite of her burning bridges with her daughters, they insisted on bringing her down with us so she wouldn't be alone. My son in law and myself flew up to Vermont, rented a truck and headed back south in a blizzard with her meager belongings. However, by then she had entered a place that really wasn't reversible and she mercifully passed away from complications of a stroke four years later, but at least was being cared for during that time. She deserved that at the very least.

At first I felt anger and betrayal, but after seeing her in that state all I felt was upset that there was nothing I could have done about it and all the promise of 48 years ago were no longer possible. Anyway, sorry to vent and probably supplied TMI, in the process. Happily ever after, doesn't always happen.

It never ceases to amaze me, the various experiences that people live through in their lifetime. I'm glad you shared the above, and stressed the importance of people reaching out, when they know they are in a battle (emotional, psychological, physical, etc.). Sorry to hear about the psychological path that your ex took, and how that affected the entire family. After your divorce years ago, I was glad to learn that you found a better life for yourself. No one has a perfect life, but whenever possible, we can make the best life we can for ourselves. We all care about you here.

 

[93boomer]

Yes! There is in the Target store that's in my area. Also, next to the Target, is a regular Starbuck's store! So you could get a cup of coffee inside Target, and enjoy that while I browse around. Then, when I'm ready to leave, we can stop in to the Starbucks store next to Target, and get a coffee "to go" in the drive-through!!! (And then, halfway to home, there is another Starbucks on the way -- plenty of coffee for my chauffeur!)

I should have known she had a plan!!

 

[MySmallWorldof4]

It is currently freezing and the wind is blowing with 25mph wind gusts. I have to take youngest to cheer practice. I would rather be in a hot bath. Since I cannot do that, I am sitting on a heating pad and drinking hot tea. I sound pathetic.

 

[wdwfan4ver]

Random thought this morning. Very close to this time 48 years ago I got married for the first and only time. Sadly it only lasted 29 years, but those years gave me things that were worth more then money. My two daughters are my pride and measure of accomplishment, even though my initial participation was not all that burdensome.

I did have this dream, at a very young age, that I would go into old age with someone by my side and because that didn't happen, I do feel a little sadness, but overall most of those married years were good and I have done OK during the years after. My plea would be if you are having mental illness problems, don't think that you can cure it alone. Seek help while you still can think clearly and listen to things you perhaps do not want to hear. My X went off on her own because she felt that being married held her down, unfortunately with the encouragement of her mental illness professional she just walked out, so be careful. She changed therapist with the frequency people change underwear until she found one that agreed with her and helped her blame everyone else on her problems. Her experience after the divorce was awful. All those things she thought were going to be perfect didn't happen because she wasn't able to leave that illness at home when she left. She alienated everyone she came in contact with and ended up alone and living in filth in a low rent apartment. A highly educated woman with no place to go, no promise left and no direction.

I understand what you are saying and what can happen through mental illness. A friend of the family is going through a divorce after 35 years of marriage due to the husband is handling a mental illness.

The husband to my knowledge is suffering from schizophrenia. The husband refused to take medication, and any type of treatment. The husband also did not follow advice through a marriage counselor also. What it sounds like is the ex husband is wacko and was verbally abusing the friend of the family.

It sounds like husband also scared off the his daughters by the way he is now through mental illness also.

 

[Goofyernmost]

It never ceases to amaze me, the various experiences that people live through in their lifetime. I'm glad you shared the above, and stressed the importance of people reaching out, when they know they are in a battle (emotional, psychological, physical, etc.). Sorry to hear about the psychological path that your ex took, and how that affected the entire family. After your divorce years ago, I was glad to learn that you found a better life for yourself. No one has a perfect life, but whenever possible, we can make the best life we can for ourselves. We all care about you here.

How very nice to say Minnie. Now I'm feeling sorry for picking on you about your mad and unnatural enjoyment of cold and snow. I probably should refrain from that in the future. Na, never mind, I won't be able to hold that in.

 

[ajrwdwgirl]

Random thought this morning. Very close to this time 48 years ago I got married for the first and only time. Sadly it only lasted 29 years, but those years gave me things that were worth more then money. My two daughters are my pride and measure of accomplishment, even though my initial participation was not all that burdensome.

I did have this dream, at a very young age, that I would go into old age with someone by my side and because that didn't happen, I do feel a little sadness, but overall most of those married years were good and I have done OK during the years after. My plea would be if you are having mental illness problems, don't think that you can cure it alone. Seek help while you still can think clearly and listen to things you perhaps do not want to hear. My X went off on her own because she felt that being married held her down, unfortunately with the encouragement of her mental illness professional she just walked out, so be careful. She changed therapist with the frequency people change underwear until she found one that agreed with her and helped her blame everyone else on her problems. Her experience after the divorce was awful. All those things she thought were going to be perfect didn't happen because she wasn't able to leave that illness at home when she left. She alienated everyone she came in contact with and ended up alone and living in filth in a low rent apartment. A highly educated woman with no place to go, no promise left and no direction.

All of us had left Vermont and, in spite of her burning bridges with her daughters, they insisted on bringing her down with us so she wouldn't be alone. My son in law and myself flew up to Vermont, rented a truck and headed back south in a blizzard with her meager belongings. However, by then she had entered a place that really wasn't reversible and she mercifully passed away from complications of a stroke four years later, but at least was being cared for during that time. She deserved that at the very least.

At first I felt anger and betrayal, but after seeing her in that state all I felt was upset that there was nothing I could have done about it and all the promise of 48 years ago were no longer possible. Anyway, sorry to vent and probably supplied TMI, in the process. Happily ever after, doesn't always happen.

I don't know if I should like your post or do a sad face. Parts of your post are full of good life experience and I always enjoy when you share your love and pride about your daughters. It is sad though how your wife's life ended up but it is nice that despite her mental health there was still some support in the last years of her life.

 

[Goofyernmost]

I don't know if I should like your post or do a sad face. Parts of your post are full of good life experience and I always enjoy when you share your love and pride about your daughters. It is sad though how your wife's life ended up but it is nice that despite her mental health there was still some support in the last years of her life.

Thanks, but there's even more that I have been looked at like I have two heads. When she died, she died penniless. She had enough money in her account for Cremation and that was it. Since neither of us ever remarried, I was able to share my burial site due to the fact that I have directed Cremation for myself as well. Apparently, highly unusual, but the girls didn't have that much money that they could spend on a burial lot. My plot was paid for and it just seemed like the right thing to do. To be honest I question myself about that decision occasionally and I'm not even sure why. Life do get complicated sometimes don't it?

 

[ajrwdwgirl]

Thanks, but there's even more that I have been looked at like I have two heads over. When she died, she died penniless. She had enough money in her account for Cremation and that was it. Since neither of us ever remarried, I was able to share my burial site due to the fact that I have directed Cremation for myself as well. Apparently, highly unusual, but the girls didn't have that much money that they could spend on a burial lot. My plot was paid for and it just seemed like the right thing to do. To be honest I question myself about that decision occasionally and I'm not even sure why. Life do get complicated sometimes don't it?

Yes, life is complicated. Very nice of you to share your burial site and to take of all that so your daughters don't have that to worry about that. Just curious, is your plot at a Veteran's cemetery? My parents were able to line up burial arrangements at a Veteran's cemetery, my mom is interned there now and space is reserved for my dad. My dad was drafted into peacetime service in the early 60's (?) and was stationed in Germany, but never fought in a war so I'm assuming that you as a wartime Vet would be able to make use of the Veteran's cemetery. Apparently it is quite cheap.