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Songbird76

Songbird76

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betty rose said:
I felt that I had to do the best. That puts so much stress on kids, who try to please. Sis wasn't as good a student, so Mom didn't push her so much. I was the last kid, so brother got away with so many things I couldn't. Sister got away with more. I got away with nothing. I guess I was Mom's last hope.:rolleyes: Older brother was 21 when he married his 17 year old pregnant wife. Sis dated a lot , me I got scrutiny. ;)
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My brother was the scholar of the family. He never had to crack a book open. He never got less than an A. So mom expected that of me and if I couldn't do it, she'd get very upset. But I'm dyslexic, so it was harder for me. I still did well, but I got about one A-/B+ per year. And I was anxious every time. I actually brought home a C once in Calculus. There were only 5 of us in Calculus (advanced math) and I was the only girl in the class. I really struggled in that class and I flunked the first test because I completely BLANKED. My teacher gave me a retake and I got a B or a C, I don't even remember. But I thought my mom was going to blow a gasket. She did go and talk to the teacher about it and was not satisfied with his explanation of why I had a C because I had A's on all my homework assignments, it was only that one test that I had a lower grade on. But I just wasn't the brain my brother was. It didn't come easily to me like it did to him. He almost never had to bring work home, he got it done in class. And I always spent HOURS doing homework in the evening. Hubby is like my brother and it looks like my kids are taking after them, thank GOD. I don't want them to have to struggle like I did. But I also don't want them to feel like they HAVE to get A's to make us happy.
 
Figgy1

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Songbird76 said:
My brother was the scholar of the family. He never had to crack a book open. He never got less than an A. So mom expected that of me and if I couldn't do it, she'd get very upset. But I'm dyslexic, so it was harder for me. I still did well, but I got about one A-/B+ per year. And I was anxious every time. I actually brought home a C once in Calculus. There were only 5 of us in Calculus (advanced math) and I was the only girl in the class. I really struggled in that class and I flunked the first test because I completely BLANKED. My teacher gave me a retake and I got a B or a C, I don't even remember. But I thought my mom was going to blow a gasket. She did go and talk to the teacher about it and was not satisfied with his explanation of why I had a C because I had A's on all my homework assignments, it was only that one test that I had a lower grade on. But I just wasn't the brain my brother was. It didn't come easily to me like it did to him. He almost never had to bring work home, he got it done in class. And I always spent HOURS doing homework in the evening. Hubby is like my brother and it looks like my kids are taking after them, thank GOD. I don't want them to have to struggle like I did. But I also don't want them to feel like they HAVE to get A's to make us happy.
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Songbird76

Songbird76

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French Quarter said:
I used to get A's in middle school without opening a book. It just wasn't challenging. I still should have tried, though. It is good life skill to hone. My parents, unfortunately, didn't care if I gave 100% so long as my grades were fine. They didn't do me any favours. As things got more difficult, it was hard to adjust as I was used to sliding by.

I don't care so much about my kids' grades. I care about their effort. I totally get where @figmentfan423 is coming from and surprised other parents don't expect the same from their kids.
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I don't care about grades as long as they do their best. I was just surprised @figmentfan423 was angry about a B. But once she explained it's the lack of effort, I understand and I completely agree. But to me there's nothing wrong with a B, or even a C if it's really the best they can do.
 
Songbird76

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French Quarter said:
Had a good day today. After church, hubby and I went to a coffee shop to work on a writing project for a magazine that has taken us 7 hours to complete (3 a different day and 4 today). But it's done now and it's the best feeling in the world! Neither of us could eat supper though because we were so full on coffee. I suppose I will be up all night.

Hope everyone is having a sweet ending to their weekend.
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Sounds like you deserved a treat, even if it did keep you up!
 
betty rose

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catmom46 said:
A couple pics of castle with holiday decorations
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Snow White pics - I think this is the first time I've been on it! I don't recall going on it when I was a kid and definitely not as an adult. I think my daughter will enjoy it, though. I plan to bring her the day before Thanksgiving, since she has that day off from school as well.
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The Evil Queen herself!
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Alice in Wonderland - I really enjoyed this ride. So much to look at and the visuals are so vivid.
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And Matterhorn - seemed even bumpier this time, if that's possible. :in pain: Still love it, though.
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Love your pics, thanks for sharing.
 
Songbird76

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MOXOMUMD said:
So you're "assuming" other parents on this thread don't give a carp about their children's education? Because that's the way it's sounding.
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It didn't sound like that to me...just that we were all asking why she was so upset about a B. But that was before she explained that it was more about the lack of effort...at least my reaction was. And I think what @French Quarter was referring to was once @figmentfan423 explained it was the effort, and she thought our reactions were to that, not to being upset with a grade. At least that's how I took it...that she was surprised we wouldn't be upset if our kids weren't putting in the effort. But I think most of the reactions were to the initial post about the grade, not the effort, and once it was explained and people were still ketching up, it looked like we were not supporting her. I took it that she was standing up for @figmentfan423, not saying anything about our parenting.
 
Songbird76

Songbird76

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French Quarter said:
Oh no! Not at all. I certainly didn't mean to say that. I have no idea who is even a parent here or how they feel about education. I was responding specifically to the people who seemed shocked that a parent would be upset with a child for not trying and said things like, "Are you kidding?" I was just trying to be supportive.
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Oh, sorry...you explained yourself better than I did. I was catching up and didn't know you had already responded. That's exactly how I took it.
 
Songbird76

Songbird76

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MOXOMUMD said:
Well then you were responding to ME (a parent) who asked Figgy "You're kidding, right?" and I wasn't being a judgmental smartass and it wasn't meant as a degrading question but a pique of curiousity as a B+/B/B- in the grand scheme of school life is still a B. NOR did I ridicule anyone and I wasn't "shocked" :facepalm: that a parent would want their child to do their best in WHATEVER endeavor they choose to do. What I am "shocked" at (but not really, I feel pity for) those parents that demand nothing but A's and would punish their child for not achieving that goal. What type of life is that to give a son or daughter.
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Sorry to butt in again, but I think that is exactly her point...your initial reaction was about the grade because that's what the first post was about. But then it was explained as a lack of effort rather than about the grade. But I think French Quarter thought we were attacking Figmentfan, similar to how you are feeling attacked now. She was standing up for her, saying she had every right to be upset that her son wasn't putting in effort, when most of us reacted to the GRADE, before seeing it wasn't about that. She was just trying to show support, not single anyone out. She's really not attacking you, or me, or anyone else who responded...just standing up for a friend. And I agree with you, that if it was about the grade, that is no kind of life for a kid...because I lived that, which was why I asked what was wrong with a B. But I think French Quarter was coming from it after it had already been explained, and she thought we were reacting to THAT. I hope that helps...I don't think she meant to offend anyone.
 
MOXOMUMD

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fox_198 said:
So... spirit week started today.

It's nice, I guess, since I'm a senior and we can pretty much boss everyone around this whole week.
I really wish I could talk about something that isn't school!

Like my love of Disney movies... oh wait, I've already done that plenty!
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It's spirit week here too. Do you have "themed" days? Yesterday was messy hair day. Today is sports team day. (My daughter wore her Indians jersey.) Then hat day, pj day and school pride day.
 

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