The Chit Chat Chit Chat Thread

[Songbird76]

Today's level of laziness...

Went to Starbucks to get breakfast...
Ordered in for lunch...
Takeout for dinner...

Normally I'm too cheap for this, but today I am both too tired and lazy to think about food.

Are you still feeling yucky or are you on the mend? Sometimes it's good to splurge just a bit and take it easy on yourself.

 

[MOXOMUMD]

Been reading the discussion about parents being careful to protect their kids from unsavory types in the parks. It must be very hard to be a good parent, and I give you all credit for what you do every single day,, and the sacrifices you all make for your kids.

Just a passing thought I had here--I'm sure there are also some very nice gentlemen guests who might compliment your family--and offer it with the kindest of intentions only--and then they move on with their day. Although the protection of all children is always the number one priority, (and maybe sometimes that means an innocent, adult person's feathers may get ruffled, if they were met with a distant, protective stance from a parent)--I do hope that we don't come to an impasse in present society, where every stranger that approaches a family is to be feared (in a sense).

For us, we have always gotten comments on my daughter's hair from all types of people because she's always had big Diana Ross hair. She was born with a lot of hair and would never sleep with braids--still won't. (A normal scrunchie will only go around her hair once.) When someone would say something I taught her to politely say thank you and I would say thank you and move on. Words are words. If a situation set my momma senses off or I knew either of us were uncomfortable I would immediately take ourselves out of that situation.

I've paid compliments to kids and talked to them and their parents while waiting in line. I always try to commend parents on how well behaved their kids are when the situation warrants it. Sometimes parents just need to hear that. I think, IMO, that in today's society people are so easily offended by anything when 99% of the time it is harmless conversation but then there's that 1% of weirdos out there as a parent we need to be on guard for.

 

[StarWarsGirl]

Are you still feeling yucky or are you on the mend? Sometimes it's good to splurge just a bit and take it easy on yourself.

On the mend, just very tired. Belle also decoded to wake me up at 5 am yesterday. Not helping cat! And normally, Jasmine is the bad one...

 

[MOXOMUMD]

No. That just sounds too weird...

Thought the same thing!

 

[BAChicagoGal]

What's weird this time?

Well they marry off Laura to Kevin, and then Laura is gone from the show. Kevin is a psychiatrist, and after the creepiest villain, Faison dies, they have him/Kevin acquire his brain for research. Not too mention that Anna is suppose to have had a child with Faison, and he knew nothing of that child? Weird, and just makes no sense according to what I've been watching all these years.

 

[MOXOMUMD]

I'm watching the live stream for the first time ever, and I mean...... this is more corny than I ever could have imagined.... it's a bunch of grown men pretending they can talk to a groundhog as long as they're holding a magical stick.....

https://www.usatoday.com/story/weat...018-punxsutawney-phils-prediction/1086134001/

Their incredible misuse of Dilly! Dilly! was annoying! You can't Dilly! Dilly! Six more weeks of winter!

 

[DryerLintFan]

For us, we have always gotten comments on my daughter's hair from all types of people because she's always had big Diana Ross hair. She was born with a lot of hair and would never sleep with braids--still won't. (A normal scrunchie will only go around her hair once.) When someone would say something I taught her to politely say thank you and I would say thank you and move on. Words are words. If a situation set my momma senses off or I knew either of us were uncomfortable I would immediately take ourselves out of that situation.

I've paid compliments to kids and talked to them and their parents while waiting in line. I always try to commend parents on how well behaved their kids are when the situation warrants it. Sometimes parents just need to hear that. I think, IMO, that in today's society people are so easily offended by anything when 99% of the time it is harmless conversation but then there's that 1% of weirdos out there as a parent we need to be on guard for.

The one I hear the most for my daughter is that she has beautiful eyes. People will go into diatribes about how pretty her eyes are. Well, that, and that she's a beautiful princess (because she can't be bothered to wear normal clothing ). I'm teaching her to politely say thank you, as well, but I do think there's merit in teaching her the difference between a compliment and a "loaded compliment".

Loaded compliments can be dangerous, but not always obvious.

 

[Figgy1]

Well they marry off Laura to Kevin, and then Laura is gone from the show. Kevin is a psychiatrist, and after the creepiest villain, Faison dies, they have him/Kevin acquire his brain for research. Not too mention that Anna is suppose to have had a child with Faison, and he knew nothing of that child? Weird, and just makes no sense according to what I've been watching all these years.

ok I figured they'd marry off Laura, but she's gone again? Wait Anna has another child?????????????????

 

[Figgy1]

For us, we have always gotten comments on my daughter's hair from all types of people because she's always had big Diana Ross hair. She was born with a lot of hair and would never sleep with braids--still won't. (A normal scrunchie will only go around her hair once.) When someone would say something I taught her to politely say thank you and I would say thank you and move on. Words are words. If a situation set my momma senses off or I knew either of us were uncomfortable I would immediately take ourselves out of that situation.

I've paid compliments to kids and talked to them and their parents while waiting in line. I always try to commend parents on how well behaved their kids are when the situation warrants it. Sometimes parents just need to hear that. I think, IMO, that in today's society people are so easily offended by anything when 99% of the time it is harmless conversation but then there's that 1% of weirdos out there as a parent we need to be on guard for.

OMG there are days I'd love to have that hair and days I'm happy it's "normal" whatever that is hair

 

[Figgy1]

I'm so happy not to be buying clothes this year. I did a little bit of on line looking and everything I liked had one of those yucky choker bands

 

[Songbird76]

Being a single parent of one child I can absolutely say this is NOT true.

Growing up in a single parent home, I can absolutely say that it is. Statistically, children from single parent homes are more vulnerable. Did you know that a child living in a home with a man who is not their biological father (eg: mom's new boyfriend) is 33 times more likely to be molested? They have asked pedaphiles how they choose their victims and the resounding answer from convicted pedaphiles is that they look for a child who is missing something in their lives and they fill that need...most often that need is the missing parent. Most often, dad is not there much and the child already feels a bit abandoned, and along comes the really nice guy who fills that need and does all the dad things with them.
I didn't say this to attack you, and I'm sorry if it's offensive to you, but statistically, it has been proven that certain people are more vulnerable to certain things....some people are more prone to getting breast cancer. It's not anything YOU have done, it's just the way it is. And pedaphiles target children from single-parent homes, because they see an opportunity to get close to the child. I'm sure you are a great mom, and I'm sure your daughter knows you love her, and maybe her dad is quite involved and she isn't in the category of kids who feel like they are missing a father figure, so maybe YOUR daughter ISN'T more vulnerable. But strictly speaking of the statistics, children from single-parent homes ARE more vulnerable.

 

[StarWarsGirl]

Been reading the discussion about parents being careful to protect their kids from unsavory types in the parks. It must be very hard to be a good parent, and I give you all credit for what you do every single day,, and the sacrifices you all make for your kids.

Just a passing thought I had here--I'm sure there are also some very nice gentlemen guests who might compliment your family--and offer it with the kindest of intentions only--and then they move on with their day. Although the protection of all children is always the number one priority, (and maybe sometimes that means an innocent, adult person's feathers may get ruffled, if they were met with a distant, protective stance from a parent)--I do hope that we don't come to an impasse in present society, where every stranger that approaches a family is to be feared (in a sense).

I do avree with you, but I also think it's good when youcre the stranger to realize that there is that fear and be respectful accordingly.

If I speak to a child in WDW or anywhere or pay them a compliment, I make sure everyone is comfortable with the situation. I make eye contact with the parent fairly quickly, and if the child doesn't want to talk, I leave him or her alone. I also make sure I'm not standing very close to the child. Space is a good thing. And lots of talk with the parent as well, not all the focus on the child. I've had lots of interactions with other guests at WDW, and I think part of it is just being aware of how youre coming across and that you are a stranger.

 

[Songbird76]

Been reading the discussion about parents being careful to protect their kids from unsavory types in the parks. It must be very hard to be a good parent, and I give you all credit for what you do every single day,, and the sacrifices you all make for your kids.

Just a passing thought I had here--I'm sure there are also some very nice gentlemen guests who might compliment your family--and offer it with the kindest of intentions only--and then they move on with their day. Although the protection of all children is always the number one priority, (and maybe sometimes that means an innocent, adult person's feathers may get ruffled, if they were met with a distant, protective stance from a parent)--I do hope that we don't come to an impasse in present society, where every stranger that approaches a family is to be feared (in a sense).

Yeah...sometimes it's scary as a parent, because on the one hand, you DON'T want your children to be vulnerable, but you also can't be there every second. I remember being at an indoor play center and DS was probably 5 or so, and he needed to go to the bathroom. Do I send him into the mens bathroom alone or do I take him into the women's bathroom? At 5, I just took him into the womens room, and there was a little girl who said "HEY! This bathroom is for GIRLS, he can't come in here!" I wasn't particularly bothered because she wasn't very old and probably didn't understand the situation. But, as DS got older, it was no longer appropriate for him to be in a women's room. I HAD to send him into the men's room alone....and you DON'T know who is waiting. And there are some really nice people who will talk to children, but as a parent, you also have to be a bit wary of that. I am so fortunate that I have my husband...I have a lot of respect for single moms...I don't know if I could do it. My brother and I always had to ask a family friend to do the dad things...Girl Scout daddy Daughter tea....my dad was working and didn't want to switch shifts or take time off for a girl scout thing. My brother used to go hunting and fishing with the same family friend, and he went camping with his best friend's family. There was a sort of void in our lives that we filled with stand-ins. Part of the reason my mom was so strict was because she was apparently terrified something would happen to me...that my dad was going to kidnap me or some of his friends would do something to me. I wasn't allowed to go anywhere alone, or go to a friend's house if the parents weren't home, because she didn't want me unprotected. It must have been so scary to have to be solely responsible for another human. At least I have my husband, and I have my in-laws, etc...my mom had no one else to rely on or to get help from. It must have been very lonely and stressful! How do you know who you can trust?

 

[MouseDreaming]

@MouseDreaming Check this out. You can stream the UDA competition on Varsity TV. You have to pay, but maybe you can get some other parents to chip in?
https://tv.varsity.com/events/6031383-2018-uda-national-dance-team-championship
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Thanks for the heads up. I will have to check it out.

 

[Songbird76]

Me: how was your day today, bear?

A: you didn't put jelly in my sandwich and that made me sooooo sad

Me: but did you eat it

A: I was sooooooo sad. You don't want to make me happy, mommy??

Me: do you want me to put jelly in your sandwich tomorrow?

A: yes!! And then I'll be sooooo happy!!

Me: okay but did you eat your sandwich today?

A: I was too busy crying because you made me sooooo sad...

Funny, she looks happy enough I guess I should start saving for her therapy.....

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Ha!! What kind of sandwich did you make her? I learned pretty early to ask what kind of sandwich the kids wanted each day because inevitably it wasn't what I made for them if I didn't ask. My son got upset once because he wanted the chocolate paste on the top piece of bread. I was like....so turn it over, and then it's on the top.

 

[Songbird76]

Oldest DD and SonIL invited us over to their place and then out to dinner.
While we were at their place this happened...

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...!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Congratulations!! How exciting!

 

[MouseDreaming]

I am in the midst of Ketchup. I will get there, eventually.

Brought DD to school very early...she had to be there at 4:15. (I know, perfect time for you @figmentfan423 ). I have been keeping track of her plane. She should be landing in a little under 30 minutes.

 

[Songbird76]

Six more weeks of winter....... looking at the calendar...... it looks like Spring isn't going to start until.... oh wait, it's six weeks until spring anyway

I never realized the groundhog doesn't actually get to decide. The guy with the magic stick got to decide.

The whole practice always seemed ridiculous to me for several reasons....1: If the groundhog sees his shadow, wouldn't you see your own? Can't you just look and see if you see your own shadow instead of stalking a groundhog? 2: How do you know if the groundhog saw his shadow? He can't tell you. And why blame the groundhog for seeing his shadow? It's not like he controls it. I just never understood the significance of the groundhog.

 

[DryerLintFan]

Ha!! What kind of sandwich did you make her? I learned pretty early to ask what kind of sandwich the kids wanted each day because inevitably it wasn't what I made for them if I didn't ask. My son got upset once because he wanted the chocolate paste on the top piece of bread. I was like....so turn it over, and then it's on the top.

I've only ever made her sunbutter sandwiches (like peanut butter but made with sunflower seeds because she goes to a nut free school). This jelly thing is new. I would ask her what she wanted except that I get her lunch ready for her before I wake her up. We're out the door by 6:20 am so I want her to sleep as late as possible. Asking her the night before is no good, either. Last night I asked what she wanted and this morning she told me I packed the wrong thing for breakfast because she wanted cereal instead of graham crackers.

 

[DryerLintFan]

The whole practice always seemed ridiculous to me for several reasons....1: If the groundhog sees his shadow, wouldn't you see your own? Can't you just look and see if you see your own shadow instead of stalking a groundhog? 2: How do you know if the groundhog saw his shadow? He can't tell you. And why blame the groundhog for seeing his shadow? It's not like he controls it. I just never understood the significance of the groundhog.

Those are all logical questions to ask, however watching it today.... those questions are irrelevant. They keep the groundhog in a cage that resembles a stump. They put two scrolls on top of the stump, one for more winter and one for early spring. Then they take the groundhog out of the cage and put him on top of the stump too. Then the guy with the magic stick that "allows him to talk to and understand groundhogs" says, "he chooses this scroll" and taps one of the scrolls with his magic stick. Then they read the scroll and the groundhog goes off to take photos with people.

My biggest beef here is that they report this poor groundhog only has a 40% accuracy rate, when he doesn't get to do the predicting at all. Some old white guy decides and they blame it on the rodent.