The Chit Chat Chit Chat Thread

ajrwdwgirl

ajrwdwgirl

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Songbird76 said:
That all seems completely rational and like you have realistic expectations! Thank you for the thoughtful response!

Our schools rely on technology the students have at home. They were all given a code to download Microsoft Teams software so they can do the meetings online, like zoom, but some kids don't have webcams, or they have to share a computer with siblings, etc. One of E's friends had you use her brother's computer and I think it was her sister who was in an exam year, so she needed the computer for her graduation requirements. I have no problem asking the kids to turn on the webcams while they are taking the test, IF they have a working webcam. But not everyone has that, and not every family is in a position at the moment to be buying new laptops or accessories for laptops. There are so many people who have lost their jobs, or who work in careers that are not allowed right now....if they have no income, how can you expect them to buy a webcam? Like you said, some kids will figure out a way to cheat, but the honest ones will be honest...and it will be that way whether they are at home or in the classroom.

We contacted her mentor and said we were uncomfortable downloading unknown software onto her computer and we felt that was extreme. He took it up with someone...not sure who, but they decided at this time, they can't determine that it won't invade privacy, so they aren't going to have to download that program. One of E's friends wrote directly to the teacher about how uncomfortable it was making the class, and she wrote back that they wouldn't use the software download (I think because the school told her she's not allowed to require that), but that she really didn't understand what the big deal was about having the webcam on. I don't think anyone was upset about needing to have the webcam on if they HAVE one, but there are a few who don't, and since we're in lockdown, you can't GET one. You can order online, but everyone and their dog is ordering stuff online right now because we can't go to a store to buy anything. Our delivery people are backlogged, inventory is depleted...it can take weeks to get the item you ordered. I'm still waiting on multiple things I ordered at Christmas. So the teacher is saying that if they don't get a webcam by the test today, they get a zero. That's just not fair. If the school provided the technology, it would be ok, but to require them to provide it themselves in just a couple of days with no negotiation for delivery times or for families who can't afford it is really not reasonable. I really like your method of making it open book, but having a time limit. That's really smart! Like you said, they don't have time to look it all up, so they still have to know some of it themselves.

E can't click out of the teams meeting anyway...her computer goes wonky when she tries to switch out of the teams meeting. She took a video...it just starts flashing and turns black. So there's no way for her to look stuff up other than her book or her phone, and you'd see if she looked away from the screen.
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I’m glad she won’t have to download that software,. I had a few kids with a wonky connection and their webcams would change colors, they didn’t have to keep their camera on long when we were virtual so their connection wouldn’t drop.
 
Figgy1

Figgy1

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Songbird76 said:
Hrmmm....makes me wonder about back home. The coal mines are equipped with food stores and such...cots and sleeping bags maybe? in case of a blizzard. It doesn't happen often, but they are prepared for people to not be able to get home, and people not being able to get into work. The schools make all the "country kids" who take the bus have a contact in town so if the buses aren't running, they have someplace to go. They also open the schools, churches, and town hall for travelers who can't make it further. The nearest town is 40 miles away in one direction, 70 in another, and there's NOTHING to the east or west that connects. It's really in the middle of nowhere.
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Dh's job has cots, blankets, "food" in pouches, generators and toilet paper
 
ajrwdwgirl

ajrwdwgirl

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figmentfan423 said:
Fondue mix? You've already grated your chees and added wine. Impressive
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i haven’t done anything. It came in a box, hubs found it in the cheese section of the grocery store. All I have to do is warm it up. 😊. I was going to make it from scratch but hubs came home with this, he bought two boxes and we already had one. It is pretty good.
 
Goofyernmost

Goofyernmost

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Songbird76 said:
I'm not defending him at all....as I said, it's not fair and doesn't excuse him. But you know how unfair it is for him to get angry at you for things you can't control. If he has a legitimate disorder, like bipolar, he can't control that...he can't help what his brain does. It's like getting mad at a person with the stomach flu for throwing up. It's not something they are doing on purpose just to make your life harder. So I was just saying that IF he has a legitimate illness, there are ways to deal with that. You said "He's bipolar." I didn't know from that whether it was an actual diagnosis or just the way you were describing his behavior, but nowhere did I say it was ok how he was treating you. But I have a kid with Autism and some of his behaviors are monumentally frustrating. He can't help it...he's not doing it to be a jerk. So I have to learn how to talk to him, how to explain things to him, how to help him learn new behaviors. No, it's not appropriate for him to scream at me when he doesn't understand something I ask him to do. But he has to learn what to do INSTEAD of screaming at me. And now I know that I need to be more clear when I ask him to do something, that I have to say things specifically. Yes, I'm his mom, and I could go into it with the attitude that it's HIS responsibility to do what I tell him to do, but that doesn't work. So I had to learn what DOES work. All I was trying to do was give you some possible strategies to deal with inyour boss' inappropriate behavior because perhaps he couldn't help it. If you already tried that, I'm sorry that it didn't help, but it's not me who is doing these things to you. I wasn't there, and I don't know every detail. I don't know what you've tried, or who approached whom. But if he was really struggling with a disorder, I have empathy for that...it can't be easy. Since you said that's not the case, then no, he has no reason to be a jerk. But I didn't know that he didn't ACTUALLY have bipolar disorder. But the fact is that what you've tried hasn't worked....the situation isn't getting better. You can get mad and complain about how awful he is, but you can also try something different to see if something different works better. I was trying to help you find something different to try. I wanted to help you in a difficult situation, because I've been there.
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Well the can't control scenario is not always correct. From personal experience, my wife would go on a screaming tangent. spouting things that made no sense at all even if you had time to evaluate it. She would become very agitated and directed her anger at me. However, if both or either of our kids entered the scene, she completely shut it off, instantly. Now as she got worse over the years, she didn't have the control that she had early on, but no one is going to convince me that certain elements of metal illness are not within the control of the individual, they just don't want to. If this guy were seriously deep into uncontrollable mental illness he would have displayed to everyone including his bosses. If that were happening he would be gone by now.
 
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Lilofan

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93boomer said:
Unfortunately, no Pandora coffee for me either today @StarWarsGirl and @Paz Vizla -just local. 🤣View attachment 528837
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When I was younger, I was a barista at a coffee bar. We were taught but it didn't really get followed consistently to brew fresh coffee every hour , there were timers to alert us ( similar to Starbucks ) when the place was operating. We threw out a lot of coffee but there is nothing better tasting than fresh coffee. ( Hint ). Don't order coffee near closing time. The coffee is not always fresh.
 
93boomer

93boomer

Premium Member
Lilofan said:
When I was younger, I was a barista at a coffee bar. We were taught but it didn't really get followed consistently to brew fresh coffee every hour , there were timers to alert us ( similar to Starbucks ) when the place was operating. We threw out a lot of coffee but there is nothing better tasting than fresh coffee. ( Hint ). Don't order coffee near closing time. The coffee is not always fresh.
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My hubby found that out a long time ago. He wasn’t happy.😉
 
MouseDreaming

MouseDreaming

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Gabe1 said:
As restaurants and bars started to reopen. Makes my head hurt. I go nowhere. we stick to our pod of 4.
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Oops. Just for that day, instead of what would have been a snow day. This week, students start Wed. attendance. So, group A is Monday, Wednesday, Thursday. Group B is Tuesday Friday. Next week, Group A is Monday, Thursday. Group B is Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday. The following week, school district has decided all of the students who have been doing hybrid will be back in school, 5 days a week.
 

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