DManRightHere
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Tantruming Children..has it ever been yours?
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DisneyDebNJ
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Yep, me too Nemo ..... it even works on my husband LOL
Nemo14
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*fist bump*
DisneyDebNJ
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The *look* is inherited and perfected ... I am sure of this LOL
englanddg
One Little Spark...
I'm sure, just like the "tone"...my kid responds the same way to "the tone"...and I find myself using it.
Yeesh, I turned into my mom...
Magenta Panther
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I have often said - and I stand by my statement - that the Disney parks are too good for kids. At least today's kids. They have too much entertainment at their fingertips. They are too indulged. I see flocks of them at WDW looking bored and playing with their iPhones and Fireflys and iPads. God forbid their weak parents deprived them of these vital devices even at the best theme parks in the world. Yeesh. So glad I'm single.
WDWmazprty
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Too bad society has changed so much that spankings are considered abuses now. Really? There's a big difference. The kids haven't changed, unfortunately the parents have, theyre less involved and want to be their kids friend instead of their parents.
Soarin' Over Pgh
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For the record, I got The Look once in wdw and it stopped me dead in my tracks. I know better. And I'm 29.
I don't have kids but I do remember throwing a fantastic fit at DL when I was a child. My mom had bought both me and my cousin a princess hat with hanging glittery threads and whatever else, and mine was pink and hers was purple. But she's the princess (or at least she acts like it... Hey, something's never change...she hasn't) and wanted the pink one...she proceeded to rip it off of my head, taking a handful of hair with it. I screamed bloody murder and yet I was the one who got punished...not her.
You could say that I learned the difference between fair and unfair at a young age and launched into a full body slam, crying FIT of a lifetime. Not because she got my hat, but because I knew I wasn't in the wrong and she was.
Even though mom did, years later, admit she didn't want to tell at my idiot princess cousin (after all, we were staying with them and they were driving us back and forth, lol) that she was wrong, she knew that she was.
I was like, five (she was six)..and there was no consoling me. I held a grudge (even at five, haha) for years against her for that.
I hope to god I never have kids because this world can't handle the level of stubbornness and bold headed ness and arrogance that my offspring would have, if they're anything like me as a child. Makes me wanna drink just thinking about it.
I don't have kids but I do remember throwing a fantastic fit at DL when I was a child. My mom had bought both me and my cousin a princess hat with hanging glittery threads and whatever else, and mine was pink and hers was purple. But she's the princess (or at least she acts like it... Hey, something's never change...she hasn't) and wanted the pink one...she proceeded to rip it off of my head, taking a handful of hair with it. I screamed bloody murder and yet I was the one who got punished...not her.
You could say that I learned the difference between fair and unfair at a young age and launched into a full body slam, crying FIT of a lifetime. Not because she got my hat, but because I knew I wasn't in the wrong and she was.
Even though mom did, years later, admit she didn't want to tell at my idiot princess cousin (after all, we were staying with them and they were driving us back and forth, lol) that she was wrong, she knew that she was.
I was like, five (she was six)..and there was no consoling me. I held a grudge (even at five, haha) for years against her for that.
I hope to god I never have kids because this world can't handle the level of stubbornness and bold headed ness and arrogance that my offspring would have, if they're anything like me as a child. Makes me wanna drink just thinking about it.
luv
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There's the key, parents. Don't give in. Don't explain why the rules make sense. Don't ask the child to comply because it is a good rule.
Demand that they obey and don't give an inch.
If the kids know you mean business, there will not be tantrums.
It's so much nicer for both the child and the parent. (Not to mention the people around you who don't want to listen to Princess throwing her fit.)
Nemo14
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My husband survived being married to a Taurus and having a Taurus daughter. You'll be fine!
Californian Elitist
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Exactly. My mom works for the school district here in Los Angeles. She's always talking about how rude and bad the children are nowadays because the principle at the school forbids the staff from disciplining them (they can't even bench the students) and she's afraid of lawsuits. Sad.
JenniferS
When you're the leader, you don't have to follow.
The belt. Oh the memories.
My friends were always threatened with "a wooden spoon" - sissies! My parents went straight for "the belt".
I never actually got the belt, but two of my brothers did.
And we NEVER threw public tantrums. There were four of us, and not a lot of money. When we went out, we were on our best behaviour for three reasons. 1) Going out was a rare treat. 2) My parents would not hesitate to have everything packed up, and hustle us straight to the car. And 3) The belt (or threat therof, in my case).
Not to start a corporal punishment debate here, but my mom used to slap me upside the arm all the time. My brothers got the belt once or twice ... and we all turned out fine. Happy, healthy, respectful, and full of love for our parents. They both passed away in the past few years (each at the ripe old age of 62), and my brothers and I reminisce often about what great childhoods we had and how much we miss them.
Soarin' Over Pgh
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That's in past tense...doesn't boad well, lol!
I'm living with a Taurus. Next time, I check astrology signs at the door.
englanddg
One Little Spark...
I could only imagine what it's like working for LAUSD...
Your mother is a hero, not for being a teacher alone, but for putting up with all of the other things that come with it! <grin>
englanddg
One Little Spark...
When I was a kid, I knew I was in deep doodoo trouble when they went for the brush.
My dad has short curly hair, and a stiff brush like this...
They'd use the back of it...That thing hurt!
Nemo14
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Oh he's still around - even suffered through menopause/PMS days with the 2 of us.
Californian Elitist
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First, I want to say I'm sorry for your losses.
My mom would slap me across my arm as well! Or pinch me. The only other thing my mom hit us with, besides a belt, was a comb, but that was only when she couldn't find a belt (she always had a comb in her purse, and still does to this day). My mom and her siblings always told us stories about my grandma making them go out to the tree in front of the house and picking twigs out so she could braid them up and hit them with those. Switches, they called them. I'll take a belt over a switch.
My siblings and I also turned out great. We love the times we had as children and our parent as well. I'm glad my parents disciplined us the way they did... I don't care what this country says, about spankings being considered as abuse. I'll be damned if I let my future kids talk back at me, disrespect me or any kind of other nonsense they try to pull.
DisneyDebNJ
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Exactly right, IMHO. My son when he was 20 or 21, said I was like * a friend* (I guess it was his way of showing Kudos, or kissing my cinnamon buns) I corrected him, and told him, I will always be Mom, and demand the respect that goes with that title. TOO many kids today (there I go, sounding like an old fazool) have a sense of *entitlement*, including my own, well, he USED to LOL. Seems mid teens they think they're Tony Montana and the world is THEIRS... guess again.... like I said earlier.... Mama Deb don't play that.