Where in my statement did I ever imply that Rey knew who was controlling this. Kylo says that he knows it's not Rey who is linking them together, that the effort would kill her. Rey was just as confused and didn't know what was going on (not much of a "Mary Sue" is she...) Rey had no idea it was Snoke who was manipulating and connecting their minds until he told her flat out in the Throne Room. But of course actually watching and paying attention to the movie seems a bit to difficult compared to just whining about how nothing makes sense...
And no, I wasn't going to answer that Rey is the stronger Jedi, because the film clearly showed how powerful Luke became before becoming one with the Force. But of course I assume you have a problem with that as well.