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See your kid a few times a year?
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luv
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I wanted to say something good, but couldn't find the words. Nemo said it, so I'll just say "ditto."
Ditto.
Have the best time!
sweetpee_1993
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sweetpee_1993
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I bet she misses you just as much even if she doesn't always say it.
I know. And she does say it. The previous trips she didn't cry going home...
This year, she did. Most of the flight (before she fell asleep).
I don't want to be the "daddy who always does fun stuff"...but, considering the geography and other concerns, seeing her a few times is best (and most affordable) for us both.
I loved my time with her in person.
We don't lose touch. We use her iTouch and my iPhone to read books, discuss things, etc...so it's not as if I'm absent.
She is hitting an age where I am more concerned about her education...while I think the public school system does an excellent job generally with primary school, I feel it begins to fall apart in Jr. High, and by High School it's a mess...so I have some serious concerns there.
But, none of that has to do with my next year...and, hopefully I'll be able to hug and kiss her again soon as we go off to enjoy another adventure!
She's in Girl Scouts because of me (though, I've also been upset with that organization as a whole, it is not Boy Scouts, so when I can, we'll move to Explorer Scouting, though there is an exchange program, and I'd love to take her Philmont before I'm too old to do it anymore! And Seabase!)
I realized...I may be trying to turn my daughter into myself...
Pain and all...as that pain has rewards.
I'm trying to turn her into a TCK (a term I didn't learn about until a few years ago, and one that is invented)...a "Third Culture Kid"...
And, perhaps, I am.
Since I can't offer her the lifestyle experiences my parents did, I offer her travel all the same. I don't take her to Disney year after year to spoil her or have bragging rights...it's so she can experience new things. At that age, Disney is cheap and works well...
But, while I've felt for years that this was an advantage, that I'm not normal...considering the responses on my thread about taking her out of school for a month, I am not so sure.
Am I just trying to recreate myself? I'll be blunt, I make a lot of money currently, I've never been in want, and I've always been able to find a job. One that pays well. I couldn't think of a better gift to give a child than what it takes (the hard times and the wonderful ones) than to live like that.
And, I barely graduated high school. I never finished college, and had trouble being accepted to it (though I taught it years later)...so funny how that works.
I'm told that I'm unique, that I'm not normal, but, I don't think so. I hear it all the time when I try and get others to hold others accountable. It's crap. I am nothing special. "You are smarter" Nope, I'm a dumbass who barely finished high school. "You had advantages" Nope, I worked since I was 13, and no one knows who I am. List goes on...
I place it directly on how I was raised and what I experienced growing up.
But, after reading posts about taking the kid on the cruise through the Panama Canal...I wonder...
Am I merely trying to recreate myself?
Pain and all...as that pain has rewards.
I'm trying to turn her into a TCK (a term I didn't learn about until a few years ago, and one that is invented)...a "Third Culture Kid"...
And, perhaps, I am.
Since I can't offer her the lifestyle experiences my parents did, I offer her travel all the same. I don't take her to Disney year after year to spoil her or have bragging rights...it's so she can experience new things. At that age, Disney is cheap and works well...
But, while I've felt for years that this was an advantage, that I'm not normal...considering the responses on my thread about taking her out of school for a month, I am not so sure.
Am I just trying to recreate myself? I'll be blunt, I make a lot of money currently, I've never been in want, and I've always been able to find a job. One that pays well. I couldn't think of a better gift to give a child than what it takes (the hard times and the wonderful ones) than to live like that.
And, I barely graduated high school. I never finished college, and had trouble being accepted to it (though I taught it years later)...so funny how that works.
I'm told that I'm unique, that I'm not normal, but, I don't think so. I hear it all the time when I try and get others to hold others accountable. It's crap. I am nothing special. "You are smarter" Nope, I'm a dumbass who barely finished high school. "You had advantages" Nope, I worked since I was 13, and no one knows who I am. List goes on...
I place it directly on how I was raised and what I experienced growing up.
But, after reading posts about taking the kid on the cruise through the Panama Canal...I wonder...
Am I merely trying to recreate myself?
alissafalco
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I didn't see what you wrote about taking your daughter on the cruise? What are the details?