Question for the ladies regarding an unknown (at least to men) rule of courting.

[tigsmom]

So would the "L" word's premature use be seen as proof that males fall in "L" faster than females, or that they will say what they think the female will want to hear in order to get some action?

I'll vote for the second choice.

The only way I would accept the "L" word as true after 2 dates is if I've known the person "forever" and we decided to see if it could be more than just friendship.

 

[barnum42]

The only way I would accept the "L" word as true after 2 dates is if I've known the person "forever" and we decided to see if it could be more than just friendship.

How about the "L" word on a layaway plan? You know? One letter per date? :lol:

 

[Wilt Dasney]

How about the "L" word on a layaway plan? You know? One letter per date? :lol:

Even then, he wouldn't be able to say it until the 4th date.

 

[ogryn]

When they use the "L" word after two dates. :lookaroun YIKES.

Lesbian?

 

[CleveRoks]

Lesbian?

:lol: ! I was waiting for someone to say that!

 

[ArchiDanDisney]

O i can agree on teh excess calling , I hate that. Thats why you leave a messgage duh!!! I once had a guy on the cp show up at my door all the time after he got off work, I mean sometimes I wouldnt be home , thank goodness, or I would be home believe I was there and ask to see my room. I hid in my trunk in my closet that time and another time me and my friend hid in the bathroom when he wanted to conduct his little search...creepy......

:lookaroun rob? :lookaroun

 

[Dizknee_Phreek]

As for the doors thing, I have be annoyed by more than one raging feminist getting all pi$$y with me for holding a door open for them. It's common manners not to shut it in their face. The rampant feminists have made basic manners and chivalry a mine field for men :lol: If someone has issues with basic manners they need help to balance their lookout on life.

Well, if you had already gone through the door, and were just holding it open, then that's fine. Or if you were already kind of in front of her, and opened it, I don't see a problem in that either. But to run in front of her just to open the door, then yeah, I'd get annoyed by that. And if parked in a parking lot, a guy opens my side of the door and shuts the door for me, even though it's kind of sweet and thoughtful (I guess), it makes me feel like he thinks I'm not capable of doing it myself. I dunno...stuff like that makes me feel babied, and I hate that.

 

[barnum42]

Well, if you had already gone through the door, and were just holding it open, then that's fine. Or if you were already kind of in front of her, and opened it, I don't see a problem in that either. But to run in front of her just to open the door, then yeah, I'd get annoyed by that. And if parked in a parking lot, a guy opens my side of the door and shuts the door for me, even though it's kind of sweet and thoughtful (I guess), it makes me feel like he thinks I'm not capable of doing it myself. I dunno...stuff like that makes me feel babied, and I hate that.

I won't tear- to get to a door first, but if through the application of an extra step I can then I will. It's a kick back to a time of simple chivalry and manners. Same with car doors (though I ride a bike most places and my last two cars could only be opened from the drivers side door so that one has not been used much).

It's not a sign that the man thinks you are too weak and feeble to open a door (that's the rampant feminist looking for an argument just for the sake of it thinking), more a case of he's not totally self centred and can spare a little time to think of someone else.

 

[Pumbas Nakasak]

It's not a sign that the man thinks you are too weak and feeble to open a door (that's the rampant feminist looking for an argument just for the sake of it thinking), more a case of he's not totally self centred and can spare a little time to think of someone else.

Im selfish and self centred (not vain though) and i still open doors help with coats etc its called conditioning.


Funny how Dorises are happy to play the weak little woman card when it suits them though. And funny how mens willingness to help is directly proportional to degree of the Dorises fitness, or cheb size :lookaroun

 

[epcotfan]

:lol: ! I was waiting for someone to say that!

I knew I shouldn't have said that! :lol: :hammer:

 

[tigsmom]

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It's not a sign that the man thinks you are too weak and feeble to open a door (that's the rampant feminist looking for an argument just for the sake of it thinking), more a case of he's not totally self centred and can spare a little time to think of someone else.

I agree totally. I just don't get the idea that someone (male or female) is being condescending by opening a door. Thats just common courtesy and its something I teach my kids (girls) and I know its something that my nieces & nephews were taught.
When I see a younger person hold a door, help with a coat, give up their chair I know they have been taught good manners.

 

[kvan]

My no no’s are:



Meet his family (parents, brothers, sisters…) on the second date. (Didn’t open my mouth, I was chocked).:brick:



Shaving your beard (I’ve never seen him without) just to have a date with me. If you have to change your look for me means that I’m not interested in the first place.:drevil: ( he did it and he didn't get his date).



I hate arrogant man,

Too many telephone calls drives me crazy, I will answer with a “ugh” or “mm” and hang up .( still do this to my husband)
:lookaroun :lol:
Can’t remember any more, married too long lol.

Just act as you do with your friends and you should be all-right