You don't need to rant - I just don't understand it. Being DVC members ourselves, we pay for our APs on one trip, and we get 3 trips or even 4 trips out of them - and then it's food and gifts. If there are events we'd like to do, we pay for them. We don't think any of the dessert parties are a good value, so we don't pay for them, but they don't affect our trip at all. We do pay for a few events during a Food&Wine trip because we think those are worth it, but they don't affect normal guests in the slightest.Well, if you're going to dismiss my thoughts as "incorrect perceptions" anyway, there's really no point. I will just add this:
Given price increases across the board, I feel strongly that a WDW vacation is not nearly the value it once was (and I say that as a DVC member, so my room is essentially "free").
So if I'm a resort guest with a valid park admission and Disney asks me to take my wallet back out again for anything besides food and gifts, I'm not going to be happy about it. This goes for parking, hard-ticket events that close the park, Fast Passes, you name it. It's that simple. End of rant.
Nowhere in the many trips that we take have we ever been asked to pay for something besides food and gifts that we didn't want. FP costs nothing. If you are DVC then you can buy an AP and parking is free. Hard ticket events that close the park are announced months and months in advance - even before anyone's 180 window opens for ADRs, so it is extremely easy to plan around those. Unless your family only likes going to MK for 7 days during party season, there is no reason you shouldn't be able to find something else to do that you would find equally enjoyable.
So since you don't seem to find good value in a WDW vacation anymore, what else are you going to do? Just continue to go and pay?