Welcome to the forums as a participant and not a filthy lurker, first of all
Wilderness Lodge really is charming. I also like Boardwalk as well (my wife's not crazy about the clown water slide, but she's not crazy about clowns, so grain of salt there). The parks that you think you'll spend the most time might influence your decision a bit - if Epcot and or the Studios, BW should get more of a bias, if MK then WL and Contemporary. I don't know how old DD is and how Disney-fied she is, so consider where you'll spend most of your time.
What's great about the Contemporary (one great thing anyway) is that you don't need the monorail to get to the MK; it's the only resort that has a walkway to MK, as well as the monorail and water launches. But by being on the monorail, you have access to the Poly and GF and the amenities THEY offer. You have boat access to Wilderness Lodge and Fort Wilderness and the amenities THEY offer. And you can monorail to TTC and transfer to the Epcot monorail. The big negative is if you like to get all swept up in theming, Contemporary is decidedly different than Wilderness Lodge & Boardwalk, more abstractly Disney, less in-your-face.
At BW, if you opt for a view that's not of the Boardwalk, that mutes the noise considerably. Not sure how much a view factors into your decision. Wilderness and Contemporary have access to very nice views and there tends to be much less of a noise issue (for me anyway, the times I've spent there).
If you prefer something of an out-of-the-way feeling, WL is your best bet by a long chalk, but what's nice is that there's plenty to do there and you're close to more. There's a boat, a shuttle bus AND a walkway to Fort Wilderness; if you want to go over for Hoop De Do one night, you can walk over to do it. Also, just like Contemporay has a boat to Wilderness Lodge, they take people back too, in case you want to do a meal at Cali Grill or Chef Mickey's. I can see the resemblance to Great Wolf Lodge though.
I'm not helping at all, am I?
Look, I have two little girls, so were I in your shoes, I'd choose Contemporary. Technically, I have; we're Disney Vacation Club member, and our next trip is booked at Bay Lake Tower. It's also where we stayed our last trip, and will probably be my first choice until the kids get into their teens at which point I'd branch out more. For all the reasons I wrote before - proximity/walking distance to MK, monorail and boat access to so many more resorts, monorail access to Epcot, great pool (2 Great pools since we're in the Tower), one of the better food courts in my opinion (one of the things I don't like about WL is how cramped and slow Roaring Forks can be). I actually dig the theme of the Contemporary, as I've written before it reminds me of what we all thought "THE FUTURE" would look like when I was a kid. That's what I would choose. I know no one else has in this thread yet. But those people would sell their grandmother's for a quick buck, I'm the only one you can trust. Have I lied to you yet?
Good.
Now what's your ATM PIN #?