no longer a brother....

[MajinBuu]

Well, its been a long time comming. Ever since my brother (16 years of age btw) moved to california with his "girlfriend" and her mother i knew this day would come.

This "girl" that he is with is a real B*T*H!!! She doen't let him talk to his own family alone. She has to be right there in the room with him, even if its the bathroom and hes doing his business, and demands that he put us on speaker!!!!

The only rational way to communicate with him is through e-mail, and even that is supervised by her.

Well not too long ago, my parents got an e-mail stating that we are no longer his family and that Cindy, her mother (who is more like her friend than anything!!!!), is his mom, momma, and mommy. This e-mail was from "him." In reality she does all the typing and he barely looks at it.

Today, they basically cut him off from any support they were giving him, except medical, and giving legal guardianship to Cindy.

So basically, i have no brother anymore.

sorry for wasting everyone's time with my (our) problems......

 

[Kenan]

Isnt that called kidnapping?

 

[tigsmom]

Don't give up on him.......
check your pm.:wave:

 

[Steamboat_Kevin]

Oh man, that's awful!
I agree with TigsMom, you shouldn't give up on him!
Wow, 16 years old, that's only 4 years older than I am.
I really hope this works out for you, man, and if you ever need anyone to talk to, you can PM me or something

 

[darthdarrel]

Originally posted by Kenan
Isnt that called kidnapping?

I agree with Kenan, I would get the police involved it sounds like kidnapping and brainwashing to me.

 

[aim]

Please don't give up on our brother. If you can, try to talk to some one about it. Her family can't do that. He's 16 right?

 

[Erika]

Don't give up on him.

This sounds like an emotionally abusive relationship and your brother is so young.

The key thing here is that he moved with the girlfriend and her mother -- everyone else is right-- unless he's been legally emancipated, and you say he has not been, that is kidnapping. And across state lines!

Even if he does come back, your brother may be lost to you for a while. But he'll grow up eventually. When you're in an abusive relationship of any kind- physical, emotional, s*xual- it is really hard to break out and remember what the real world is like. If I were your parents I would 1) press charges against this woman and 2) see that your brother got some counseling. Good luck.

 

[The Mom]

If you read his post, it sounds like his family DID emancipate him, and gave the "other" mother legal guardianship. This is so sad, but I'm not in their shoes, so don't know the circumstances that caused them to believe that this was the best course of action.

I hope that your brother comes to his senses some day, and comes back into your life. Make sure you keep the door open for him, if he ever changes his mind. Update address changes, etc., I would hate to think that some of the "good" ideas I had at 16 were permanent! (Or even some I had at 20 something!!!)

 

[imagineer boy]

This is so sad. His girl friend sounds really awful. I say at night, PUT TOOTH PASTE IN HER HAIR AND SPRAY SHAVING CREAM ALL OVER HER BEAD!!!! BWWWWAHAHAHAHAHAH!!!!!!!!! :goodnevil :fork: :lol: :brick: :hammer:

naah, (j/k) like everyone else has said, don't give up on your brother. You'll find a way.:wave:

 

[Erika]

Originally posted by The Mom
If you read his post, it sounds like his family DID emancipate him, and gave the "other" mother legal guardianship.

I can't tell if he is saying that they DID give her guardianship or if that is part of the exception:

"Today, they basically cut him off from any support they were giving him, except medical, and giving legal guardianship to Cindy."

Help us out, M-Buu!

 

[prberk]

I agree completely with Erika (assuming your folds did NOT give up legal guardianship). Sometimes the legal authorities have gone a little crazy and refuse to prosecute these kinds of cases, but if the laws are on the books (for kidnapping over state lines, etc., then please encourage your parents to push). Your brother may hate you all for a time, but eventually he will know your love for him.

If you parents choose not to prosecute, or if things are otherwise out of your hands, I just want to add myself to the "don't give up on him" list, also. You still have a brother. He just may not know that.

BTW, I hope you will continue to talk to friends and counselors/mentors at school or church. It is a lot to go through, but you are not alone. And you are most certainly NOT a burden here. (I think I can speak for most of the "regulars" on that.)

And if I might finally suggest, keep it all in prayer. I will also.

Paul

 

[MouseMadness]

I'm a bit lost! If his medical is still with his real family, then he'd have to still be under their legal guardianship, correct? He's a minor... I'd be fighting like hell to get that kid back, if I were in this situation. You're right, prberk, he's gonna hate them for a while, but this situation he's in is soooo completely twisted. He's going to get tired of being treated like a child before too long. And if it were my brother, I'd still be trying to email and call, if only to say that I'm thinking about him and I loved him. Let him know he's not been forgotten.

 

[darthdarrel]

Originally posted by MouseMadness
I'm a bit lost! If his medical is still with his real family, then he'd have to still be under their legal guardianship, correct? He's a minor... I'd be fighting like hell to get that kid back, if I were in this situation. You're right, prberk, he's gonna hate them for a while, but this situation he's in is soooo completely twisted. He's going to get tired of being treated like a child before too long. And if it were my brother, I'd still be trying to email and call, if only to say that I'm thinking about him and I loved him. Let him know he's not been forgotten.

The brother probably would never get the E mails, but as I have said before you need to have your parents get the POLICED invoved. INfact I would also get a deprogrammer involved, deprogrammers are people that help family members get their loved ones out of dangerous cults. This boy has OBVIOUSLY been brainwashed and trully beleives that his family does not love him and that his girlfriend and her mom are the only ones that do love him.
They are basically usng techniques that certain cults use to cut them off from their families. Like it was said before, he may hate you for awhile untill the deprogrammer can reprogam him, but in the end it`s way worth it.

 

[The_CEO]

Originally posted by MajinBuu
Well, its been a long time comming. Ever since my brother (16 years of age btw) moved to california with his "girlfriend" and her mother i knew this day would come.

This "girl" that he is with is a real B*T*H!!! She doen't let him talk to his own family alone. She has to be right there in the room with him, even if its the bathroom and hes doing his business, and demands that he put us on speaker!!!!

The only rational way to communicate with him is through e-mail, and even that is supervised by her.

Well not too long ago, my parents got an e-mail stating that we are no longer his family and that Cindy, her mother (who is more like her friend than anything!!!!), is his mom, momma, and mommy. This e-mail was from "him." In reality she does all the typing and he barely looks at it.

Today, they basically cut him off from any support they were giving him, except medical, and giving legal guardianship to Cindy.

So basically, i have no brother anymore.

sorry for wasting everyone's time with my (our) problems......

My dad did this to our family.. I can relate. Sorry to hear this..

 

[Maria]

I am sorry to read this...

What was the motif? I mean, what is the real interest these women have in your brother? Does the gf have a father living with them too?

Make sure you don´t lose track of their address!

I´ll add your family to my prayers.

 

[monorail256]

My Uncle was married to a psycho who liked to write letters. She pretty much kept him away from the family, but not the extreme of saying that we couldn't see him or anything.

Luckily, he noticed what was going on... and... divorced her.


So I sorta know what your going through.. dont give up on him!

 

[guwag]

I'm not a religious person at all (I don't know either way - I have a scientific viewpoint) but I will certainly add your brother and your family to a prayer to anyone that's out there (my first in a while!) because I'm only 3 years older and I feel sorry for anyone younger than me in a difficult predicament - I remember so well when I was 16, all the problems I had, nothing like this though.
Heck, I'm almost so annoyed that I almost typed this whole message in French - J’elle veut frappera et apporter ton frère chez toi.

I hope that you hear from him (himself, not the on his behalf) sometime soon, I couldn't imagine anything like this happening to my sister

 

[MajinBuu]

Sorry for not being here and straightening some stuff out about my post... was studying for my A+ certification test earlier today.... I PASSED!!! There is some good news at least.

And btw, when he turns 17, January 24th, he is officially emancipated.

I have not given up on him nor have my parents.

And we both were addopted. We are not blood brothers....

 

[MouseMadness]

Originally posted by MajinBuu
Sorry for not being here and straightening some stuff out about my post... was studying for my A+ certification test earlier today.... I PASSED!!! There is some good news at least.

And btw, when he turns 17, January 24th, he is officially emancipated.

I have not given up on him nor have my parents.

And we both were addopted. We are not blood brothers....

Brothers are brothers. Keep up the support for him.

 

[darthdarrel]

Originally posted by MajinBuu
Sorry for not being here and straightening some stuff out about my post... was studying for my A+ certification test earlier today.... I PASSED!!! There is some good news at least.

And btw, when he turns 17, January 24th, he is officially emancipated.

I have not given up on him nor have my parents.

And we both were addopted. We are not blood brothers....

It doesn`t matter if you are blood brothers or not, you love him just the same and your parents are legally resposible for him wether he is there biological son or not, they should still get the police involved.