Looking for a girlfriend

[mharrington]

Some of my relatives are happily married and I am their age. But I have no girlfriend, and I'm lonely. I'm looking for a girl who is at least a year younger than me, but no more than six years younger.

My sister once introduced our family to one likely prospect, over this website called Aspie Affection, which is for people with Apserger's Syndrome, which I have. She was four years younger than me. The problem with this prospect was she was bipolar, so that was out. Plus, she lived a bit too far away. I also found another girl, but she is a shade too young, and also one who lives right across the street from me, but my parents keep saying that I should not look so close to home, and she may already have a boyfriend besides.

So I'm trying to find a new girlfriend. I looked for other likely candidates on the Aspie Affection website. But they either live too far away or are not the same nationality or they smoke.

So what can I do?

 

[trr1]

do you have to have a girlfriend with this condition?

 

[mharrington]

do you have to have a girlfriend with this condition?

That's just it, I don't have any girlfriends at all.

 

[jeffk410]

aw. man. Don't worry about nationatly or age. Just try to let it happen , but don't force it.

 

[mharrington]

Well, I don't have a lot of standards for women. But there is one that I do have, though: that a woman be at least a year younger than me, but no more than six years younger than me.

 

[cdunbar]

aw. man. Don't worry about nationatly or age. Just try to let it happen , but don't force it.

See that's just it, he has asbergers he doesn't probably do alot or if any social interaction well which is probably why he was meeting people online. Give dating that girl across the street a try or do you attend an asbergers support group? Perhaps that would be some where to look. As someone who has a very serious anxiety disorder I have to deal with similiar situations, obvioulsy not nearly as serious as yours, and I do share you're feelings. If you do decide to date that woman that lives across the street from your parents just remember to choose a place where you're both comfortable because if you're both dealing with your anxiety you won't be any fun to each other. :wave:

 

[mharrington]

Well, I think I'm going to have to take a pass on that girl across the street.

 

[DznyGrlSD]

Try these free sites:

okcupid.com
plentyoffish.com

 

[TubaGeek]

...But they either live too far away or are not the same nationality or they smoke.

Well, I don't have a lot of standards for women. But there is one that I do have, though: that a woman be at least a year younger than me, but no more than six years younger than me.

I cannot understand why nationality has anything to do with finding a significant other. Also, why do they have to be at least a year younger? My current girlfriend is only 9 years and four days younger than me, and it's certainly not an issue. Heck, the only other two girlfriends I've ever had were older than me.
If you forget some of these (in my opinion) silly limitations, your options will be much wider.

 

[mharrington]

Well, I'm not racist by any means. I guess maybe the age thing is probably what concerns me most. You see, I'm the youngest in my immediate family. And sometimes, it bothers me that I'm like that.

 

[captain marvel1]

well heres the thing finding someone on dating sites wont work. what you need to do is ask your local disabled networks where you live. like autism groups or arc gateway or arc. they may have an idea that they be able to help. i have autism and i have 2 girlfriends with autism 1 lives near me the other 1 lives in midland michigan take her shes 29 almost 30 but she still acts young. hint hint start looking their. ask for jan lampman of the midland arc she has a client thats looking for someone too shes the guardian of the certain client.

 

[captain marvel1]

to follow up im from sacramento as well. so if i find out she gets hurt or not treated right. i have friends lets just say is not a problem.

 

[mousebymarriage]

Love happens when it happens. Keep your mind open about age and nationality, it's what's in a persons heart that matters.

 

[TubaGeek]

Love happens when it happens. Keep your mind open about age and nationality, it's what's in a persons heart that matters.

Exactly. Would you rather be incredibly happy with someone who's less than a year younger than you and a different nationality, or lonely and without someone altogether?

 

[trr1]

why not a woman who is a year or two older?

 

[Horizons1]

Just don't sweat it. Being single isn't the end of the world. It's really nice actually. And no, I know where you're coming from. I'm not sitting here with a girl beside me. I'm single too, but you know what? It's ok! The world is still turning and you'll still be breathing!

And besides, if you put all your time and effort into finding a girl, it'll never happen.

 

[Hrudey3032]

I cannot understand why nationality has anything to do with finding a significant other. Also, why do they have to be at least a year younger? My current girlfriend is only 9 and four days younger than me, and it's certainly not an issue. Heck, the only other two girlfriends I've ever had were older than me.
If you forget some of these (in my opinion) silly limitations, your options will be much wider.

Wow you write very well for a 9 year old! :ROFLOL:

 

[protiius]

don't start putting quotas on the girl that you're looking for before you've even met her. you could meet a chick who's 6 years younger than you but who is more mature than a girl who is six years your senior, age is far too ambiguous a factor to judge people by. just remain open minded and leave yourself free to meet people. any girl could be the next mrs mharrington if you give them the chance

 

[maelstrom]

The problem with this prospect was she was bipolar, so that was out.

So you couldn't possibly date someone with a (likely controlled) mental illness?

Honestly, you're setting yourself up for failure with all of these requirements that your potential significant other has to meet. Love is blind to age and ethnicity.

 

[mharrington]

So you couldn't possibly date someone with a (likely controlled) mental illness?

Well, I didn't know what "bipolar" really meant at first, but when I did, my parents didn't think that she was a good fit for me. Besides, she lived some distance away, in Oakland.

Besides, the age thing is really the only thing I care about. Everything else is secondary.