I'm not talking legit handicaps where you need a wheelchair or have an obvious ailment, I'm talking about people that have only one affliction: obesity.
Bugs, I'm not picking on you or perhaps I'm a bit overly sensitive about the subject today because I've just spent the last 8hrs with my wife in two doctor's appointments... but... there is a word mentioned above that is very much at the heart of the matter.
"obvious"
That's the problem word. It's a word that is the cause of many additional words, thoughts, and feelings.
I don't think anyone would argue about how someone feels about another person or group of persons that they have definative knowledge where someone knowingly manipulates a system for their advantage. Most everyone is capable of feeling the consequences of an injustice that they observe.
Again, the key word is "obvious". How do you know what is obvious when it comes to the reason why someone chooses to use a wheelchair or an ECV? Is it when you see someone who is obese using a vehicle? Is it when you see a person in a wheelchair stand up without effort? Is it when you see person after person go by you while you are in line and question their disability when it isn't obvious to everyone?
I don't know the answers to the question above.
What I do know is the word "obvious" isn't the right way to think about it. Unfortunately, I now have first hand knowledge of why you can't think this way. My wife and I are now facing the tough decision of if an ECV is needed for her on our forthcoming vacation. Due to a chemical spill at her workplace, she now has a severe disability that leaves her with an acute asthma like condition. In addition to not being able to breathe, she has no stamina. Outwardly, she doesn't appear to be disabled if you don't catch her in one of her constant coughing attacks, wheezing, or using one of her many inhaled medications. Her condition is so severe, that she decided it wasn't worth getting sick going with me to Disney earlier this month so it doesn't jeopardize our annual annivesary trip in early February.
Not more than 15 minutes before reading this post, we were on the way back from the doctor's office discussing renting an ECV. We talked about if she wanted to "cut in line" and "get the evil look" from the other guests. She exactly said that she doesn't want people to think she's not disabled because she doesn't look sick. Again, "obvious" is the key word. Ultimately, it a choice she is going to have to make on her own. I don't know how much fun it would be sitting down at waist level all day long. Not seeing over a crowd. Getting those accusing eyes sent your way all day long. I'm sharing with her my thoughts and letting her decide what is appropriate for her.
"Obvious" is a bad word in my opinion. I think the more appropriate way to describe how people feel about what is being discussed in this thread is "control". The question is why don't people have the self control to make the choices I described above when they decide to use an ECV or wheelchair and instead lack the self control when they try to take advantage of a situation by using an ECV or wheelchair. There are multiple reasons why people use these mobility devices. Sometimes it is because they need to. Sometimes it is because they want to. Self control (or lack of) why be the reason why they are in a position where they need to use an ECV.
The one thing I do know is that over the last two years, my thoughts and feelings about this subject have changed considerably now that I have see the other side.
BTW - this problem with the "obvious" isn't just a WDW issue. My wife deals with this daily when she decides to use a handicap parking place at the store.
[Steps down off the soapbox]