Hard situation for me, personal?

[VoiceGuy07]

You have to move on. Go create new magic memories without her.

Ditto!! Go to Disney and make new memories.

 

[Doombuggy13]

If she broke up with you for no reason you can think of, was she really worth it after all? You need to look past the pain you feel right now, it will get better!!! C'mon, you're young and there are many more fish in the sea. Every time we go to Disney we find that we always manage to hang out with others who love WDW as much as we do and we have made some great friends over the years. Go on the trip, and make friends, forget and move on.

 

[mbroschak]

It will be ok

Hey,

I look at hundreds of posts every week and for the most part, don't care enough to respond to the unimportance of most of them, but yours my friend is worth a response.

Not to compare, but I am a Disney lover down to my bones and my ex wife and I's first trip together was WDW, our honeymoon, 4 disney cruises together and more week to 2 week trips to WDW than I can count over 7 years with someone I thought I would be with for the rest of my life. Three months before she left me to go "find herself" we had one of the most romantic WDW trips we had ever been on, but she took off in a moments notice with no reasonable explanation, go figure. I was a broken person.

Deposits for a trip that fall, a caribbean disney cruise and a mediterranean disney cruise the following may that all got refunded.

I sent out a message on this forum for someone to help me make sense of all of it. I received a lot of support and time will heal all, I promise. It's a cliche, but it is absolutely true. My "new" girlfriend and I went to DL last fall and had the time of our lives and are booked for a 2 week trip to WDW in October and I truly believed I may never go back to Disney after the destruction I experienced.

I'm so happy that I kept my heart open and was willing to let someone into that love I have for Disney. I hope you do the same.

I am the happiest I've ever been in my life...

 

[luv]

A dump's a dump, babe. Move on. Keep busy. Go on your own. Have fun!

 

[sweetpee_1993]

Just like everyone else said, you shouldn't even consider not going. It's all very fresh & painful now but that will subside with each passing day. Like others, I say that from experience. Love, heartache, healing, and growing are all part of the journey thru life. It's okay. Take a breath, embrace this low point, and let it be what it is. Move on. Make new memories. Leave the past behind you and don't carry it around. With each passing day things will slowly but surely get better. And you always have the support of your fellow Disney-Freaks here when ya need it. :wave:

 

[jwsimms42]

I've been with two wives and one long-term girlfriend. I've been on adults-only trips, and trips with my ex-wife's young son. The memories are different now, but no less wonderful every single time. A trip could be just what you need to help you move on and let the past be the past.

 

[PolynesianPrincess]

Definitely GO!!! Disney is THE place to make memories!! Yes, some things there will remind you of her, but when you think of them, smile.. Because they are HAPPY memories!!

I brought my bf to WDW when I was 17 and after we broke up, I was really upse. But now when I go, 11 years later, there are some things I'll see that still make me think of him and I smile.

You can choose to be happy or you can choose to be sad.... Choose to be happy, go to the world and make some new memories

 

[cynic710]

I had the hardest time dealing with losing my girlfriend, but you come to realize who you really are when you hit the lowest of lows. I ended up marrying the girl that left me years later, and i realized that i wasted too much time dwelling over the pain.

Life is way too short to dwell on the bads, especially when you are going to a place that has all the goods. Honestly, try to enjoy yourself, life is going to always be great. if you are like me who is faith driven, then rely on that faith and you will find your path.


i live by this quote, " dont sweat the small stuff, ever...by the way, everything is the small stuff"

 

[Uponastar]

I think it's fortunate for you that this opportunity to make this trip occurred at this time. Instead of staying home and thinking about how you never want to go back because of all those memories, you can go back and start making new ones right away. Sure, some of it won't be easy, but it's a big step in the healing process. And you WILL heal. Just be open to it.

 

[WDWLOYAL1971]

Sorry about your situation, but you can still enjoy Disney. Yes the memories will be there but so will the new one's you will make. Just Cherish the memories for what they are, stay strong and have fun. Life is full of people that once touched our lives in a very special way and due to circumstances they no longer are. Just keep looking up. Best wishes.

 

[Marley's Ghost]

Please go...or....

Please go or send me the $ and I will go. Trust me it will make all the difference in the world when you return to the land where you never are really lost and everything is the right color and smell.(sometimes not on the smell)
I now live in a world where the courts tell me when i can see my three children. I can not wait to go back ex or not. Yes it will be a painful reminder of certain things and yes you will make new memories but for goodness sake go.. or send me the $

 

[Dads 2 Boys]

Go. Part of life is moving on and let me give you a brief story.

* First time I went was in '96 on my honeymoon with my now ex-wife. Great time, great memories. I wasn't a WDW addict yet.

* Next trip was in '07 when my ex and I took our 2 kids for their first trip. We were divorced at that time but neither would let the other take them to WDW for their first trip without the other. Since we are friends, we decided to go together to make the kids' trip special and we'd split the cost. We all stayed in the same room and it was a great trip. The addiction began.

* Went in '09 with my now fiancee without my boys. Got engaged on Main St on that trip. New memories created. The addiction became virtually uncontrollable.... :lol:

* Going on October 22nd of this year with my fiancee (will be wife on 9/10) and with my boys to create more unforgettable memories. Addiction is now out of control.

My point is to create YOUR OWN memories. It will pass and WDW can do amazing things to one's mind if you allow yourself to enjoy it.

 

[Mukta]

Well I've been going through a rough month or so and finally 2 days ago my girlfriend and I of about just 3 years broke up. For reasons I honestly don't even understand, immaturity on her part is the reasoning I guess but whatever..

My first trip ever to WDW was with her last year, and we went again this past March. Now my hard situation is, I have soo many memories with her such as photographs, t-shirts we bought each other, souvenirs etc.

Now my best friend actually is working in Disney for the CP program and really wants me to go. My ex-girlfriend and I actually had a trip planned together on my 21st birthday for me to go (this up coming October) and now that obviously isn't going to happen..

I'm not sure if its a temporary thing or what but I don't know how I feel going alone without her, or even to bring anyone else there with me because I experienced it with her, and it hurts like no tomorrow.


Any comments? suggestions? advice? I would really appreciate it everyone, I need it. Thank you!

I'm really sorry that you are in pain. The pain does lessen and the memories do fade over time.
The easiest way to recover is to get out of the house. Keep busy at work, school, gym, out with friends etc. Don't sit around the house moping and don't give up a trip to Disney. Make new memories and the old ones will fade faster.

 

[ddbowdoin]

Go, enjoy yourself, and make some new memories... you never know who you might meet at the world! A good friend of mine was a single rider on Expedition Space... bumped into a cute girl who was also one, had a common conversation (expected fear of the ride). She ended up living 40 mins from his hometown and bang... theyve been together for a few years now!

 

[WDW2010]

Wow, I've finally had a chance to come online and check my thread for the first time since I last posted.....

Thank you everyone so much for the support is all I can say.

It will take hours for me to personally thank all of you for everything, so I will say this now..

THANK YOU!

Last night I hung out with one of my good friends, and we had a chat about the whole situation and what I wanted to do on my birthday that I thought I wouldn't be able to do now. We talked for a good 2 hours, I actually showed him pictures, maps, videos, etc of WDW.

Needless to say I got the response "WE HAVE TO GO, I AM GOING."

Looks like I am going to go after all! Though it was still up to his mom for the answer...

5 Minutes ago I received a phone call and he sounded pretty darn excited and he talked to his mother. He explained my situation how after 3 years and for no reason she broke up with me (hes actually her friend too and would hang out with her and has no clue either) and how we were supposed to go to Disney World in October for my 21st, and how she made all these promises yaddah yadda yaddahh.

Long story short, she said yes, she wants all the information and she thinks its a great idea for the both of us to get away to meet one of our friends in Disney!

Thank you all again! I feel so much better now especially after talking to him last night figuring out I truly did NOTHING. Yes the memories will be everywhere I go but I will have to forget and continue to make my own memories regardless who I am with even if I had to fly alone and meet my good friend in Disney.

Thank you all! I will be planning this trip in the next few weeks !:wave:

 

[bayoubelle]

I'm so happy that you have someone to go with you to WDW. Have a wonderful trip!!!!

 

[WDW2010]

I'm so happy that you have someone to go with you to WDW. Have a wonderful trip!!!!

Thank you I really am too, we might have another friend come along too going to be difficult because of his college schedule but it's going to be really fun, at least someone will be there

 

[daveo43175]

My first trip ever to WDW was with her last year, and we went again this past March. Now my hard situation is, I have soo many memories with her such as photographs, t-shirts we bought each other, souvenirs etc.

I was once in a situation very simular to yours.

DO NOT DO WHAT I DID! I made the entire trip a trail of tears. Thinking to myself at every turn "I remember when we................" BOO HOO, BOO HOO!

Go! Enjoy your trip! Do the parks in reverse order or jump around from what has been done in the past. Make it your freedom trip! Be the fun loving person you are! Losing the one I had led me to the one I have and I wouldn't trade her for the world! The same can be true for you too!

 

[WDW2010]

I was once in a situation very simular to yours.

DO NOT DO WHAT I DID! I made the entire trip a trail of tears. Thinking to myself at every turn "I remember when we................" BOO HOO, BOO HOO!

Go! Enjoy your trip! Do the parks in reverse order or jump around from what has been done in the past. Make it your freedom trip! Be the fun loving person you are! Losing the one I had led me to the one I have and I wouldn't trade her for the world! The same can be true for you too!

Funny you say that because I would probably do something like that. Her family and I were extremely close also, and they went to a few parks also so almost every attraction has some sort of meaning. Just have to get my mind off of everything and like you said, its my freedom trip and I can't let emotions get the best of me

 

[ArtieJim]

Forget her, go for your 21st birthday, it'll be during the Food and Wine Festival. Can't go wrong there.

Do it!