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Nicole220

Nicole220

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I should be going...We're leaving the house at 6am. :dazzle::cry:
Good night, Connor.
Don't miss me too much. :kiss:
To everyone:
I'll miss you all....I love you so much!! :kiss::kiss:
Talk to y'all Tuesday!
Steph and Jo- I can't wait to finally meet up with you girls on Sunday! :sohappy::D
 
Nemo14

Nemo14

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Just a quick hello from Flagstaff. We're having a fantastic time. Floated down the Colorado River yesterday - totallly awesome!!!
Got to go, but I'll talk to you all next week. :kiss:
 
Dukeblue1016

Dukeblue1016

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okay ladies... I need a little advice from you...

so obviously, Disney, January, is my goal for proposing...

we'll both be 24 which to me seems like a good age; get married at 26... I think that sounds just about right... ya know?

so... we also are going to buy a house right after we get back from Disney... we both kinda wanna move in first before being engaged; but... a couple weeks probably not a problem... my issue though is I think she feels, maybe like a year from now is perfect time... next summer... and it would be, that's perfect... if I wasn't going to disney, I'd wait until then...

but Disney is OUR THING... I've (obviously look where I am right now) been like 20 times, her and I 5 times together... so... we've really become a "disney couple..."

it seems perfect, and it'd be a surprise and it'd be amazing and that's what I want...


I'm just afraid she'll almost be like "I don't want to get engaged right now!!!" and I feel like... it's almost 100% up the guy to make this decision himself... and gauge when she's ready, and spend a lot of money without knowing...

but, we've been together 7 years, by then it'll be 7.5 years... that's absurd... and so I feel like, she'll definitely be ready...



so my question really is... well first, I want this to be the biggest surprise ever in life, and I want nothing to take away from that....

with that said, my best friend from school is proposing to his gf, and my gf knows and we talk about it... and it's been beneficial too me because I've been like "chris can't figure out her ring size and is freaking out!!! just so, whenever the day is, can i have your ring size now so i'm not in the position down the road??" and that worked out well for me...

and now i feel like... I want to know exactly when she would like to get engaged, what are her thoughts.. so should I just come out and be like... "everything in a relationship is a mutual agreement/decision... nothing besides proposing is a i ask onetime, you give a onetime answer... I wouldn't buy a house then be like HEY LET'S MOVE IN... i wouldn't buy protection and then ask to... advance that way... ya know? everythign is a mutual agreement... so, I just want to know, when you want to get engaged; just a timeframe... or, when you're ready at least... not saying let's do this together, but I don't want to propose if you're not ready... even though by the time I can afford it, I'm sure you will be"


i mean... is there anything wrong with just trying to approach it in that kinda way, just so I know if disney will DEFINITELY be too soon for her...

it shouldn't be... 7.5 years, but... i don't know...

thoughts?
 
PotteryGal

PotteryGal

Active Member
Quick stop...
I'm pretty upset right now. One of Mike's cousins (2nd cousin actually) has unexpectedly passed away. She was 29. She and her sisters were very small when we began dating and we enjoyed spending time with them, because they were so excited we were getting married. Her youngest sister caught our bridal bouquet, now that I think of it.
Anyway, she was married with two small boys. We don't know yet the exact cause of death, she hasn't been well for a little while. There was some speculation of a blood clot. :shrug:I haven't seen any of them for years, in fact the last time I did I was pregnant with Joel. However, this has really hit me hard - her mother passed away from cancer and now this. The visitation is Saturday. :cry:
 
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Disnut

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PotteryGal said:
Quick stop...
I'm pretty upset right now. One of Mike's cousins (2nd cousin actually) has unexpectedly passed away. She was 29. She and her sisters were very small when we began dating and we enjoyed spending time with them, because they were so excited we were getting married. Her youngest sister caught our bridal bouquet, now that I think of it.
Anyway, she was married with two small boys. We don't know yet the exact cause of death, she hasn't been well for a little while. There was some speculation of a blood clot. :shrug:I haven't seen any of them for years, in fact the last time I did I was pregnant with Joel. However, this has really hit me hard - her mother passed away from cancer and now this. The visitation is Saturday. :cry:
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Oh Jenny
I am sooo sorry.
My prayers and thoughts are with all of ya'll.
((Hugs))
 
nibblesandbits

nibblesandbits

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PotteryGal said:
Quick stop...
I'm pretty upset right now. One of Mike's cousins (2nd cousin actually) has unexpectedly passed away. She was 29. She and her sisters were very small when we began dating and we enjoyed spending time with them, because they were so excited we were getting married. Her youngest sister caught our bridal bouquet, now that I think of it.
Anyway, she was married with two small boys. We don't know yet the exact cause of death, she hasn't been well for a little while. There was some speculation of a blood clot. :shrug:I haven't seen any of them for years, in fact the last time I did I was pregnant with Joel. However, this has really hit me hard - her mother passed away from cancer and now this. The visitation is Saturday. :cry:
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Oh Jenny! Huge ((Hugs))

It seems like we here have had a very sad week. :(
 
nibblesandbits

nibblesandbits

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Well, I'm not the best advice giver here Joe, b/c I was ready to get engaged when WHF proposed to me. So, it makes it harder, since it seems you are feeling that she wants to wait until next summer.

I mean you could do it both ways and feasably get married still when you're 26. I say keep feeling her out...hint at it both ways and see what she's feeling. If you get the definite feeling that she doesn't want to get engaged next January...then I'd say don't do it. (Even though I think she's nuts...:lol: That's exactly where I'd want to get engaged...and did. Actually, if it were me, I'd be looking for it in January b/c I'd assume you'd get engaged on a trip.) However, if you think she's might be ready for it in January, I'd say go for it.

I know I'm not much help and part of it is b/c I did want to get engaged and told WHF of this all the time. (Not in an annoying way...he felt the same...we were just waiting for the right time. Florida was it and we both knew it.)
 
Dukeblue1016

Dukeblue1016

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nibblesandbits said:
Well, I'm not the best advice giver here Joe, b/c I was ready to get engaged when WHF proposed to me. So, it makes it harder, since it seems you are feeling that she wants to wait until next summer.

I mean you could do it both ways and feasably get married still when you're 26. I say keep feeling her out...hint at it both ways and see what she's feeling. If you get the definite feeling that she doesn't want to get engaged next January...then I'd say don't do it. (Even though I think she's nuts...:lol: That's exactly where I'd want to get engaged...and did. Actually, if it were me, I'd be looking for it in January b/c I'd assume you'd get engaged on a trip.) However, if you think she's might be ready for it in January, I'd say go for it.

I know I'm not much help and part of it is b/c I did want to get engaged and told WHF of this all the time. (Not in an annoying way...he felt the same...we were just waiting for the right time. Florida was it and we both knew it.)
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i know... you think she's nuts cuz WHO WOULDN'T WANNA MARRY ME!!!

;)




anywho...

I asked her... i just said what i was thinking "it should be a mutual agreement and still be a surprise..." and I asked when she would want to/be ready...

basically, she said "i would probably say at least a year... maybe a year from this summer... just so we had time to settle into a house and not have too much change at once... but, with that said... if you proposed today i'd obviously say yes, i just wouldn't want to get married for awhile..."


which, while i don't fluently speak female, i'm conversational and took it like...

"if i had to do it, i'd do it in a year so we could settle in... but you don't need to worry, or feel insecure, i'd obviously say yes whenever because I'm ready..."



so...

should I do it in January???


I feel like I gotta... hahaha, I really want to do it in Disney, and I'm not going to book another Disney trip in the summer, nor am I gonna wanna wait a full year to do it the following January if i did the half marathon again... so...

thoughts?


(and Nibbs, you are helpful, but also kind of a spaz so it makes it somewhat counterproductive... :p)


juuuuuuuuuuuust teasing you
 
nibblesandbits

nibblesandbits

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Dukeblue1016 said:
i know... you think she's nuts cuz WHO WOULDN'T WANNA MARRY ME!!!

;)




anywho...

I asked her... i just said what i was thinking "it should be a mutual agreement and still be a surprise..." and I asked when she would want to/be ready...

basically, she said "i would probably say at least a year... maybe a year from this summer... just so we had time to settle into a house and not have too much change at once... but, with that said... if you proposed today i'd obviously say yes, i just wouldn't want to get married for awhile..."


which, while i don't fluently speak female, i'm conversational and took it like...

"if i had to do it, i'd do it in a year so we could settle in... but you don't need to worry, or feel insecure, i'd obviously say yes whenever because I'm ready..."



so...

should I do it in January???


I feel like I gotta... hahaha, I really want to do it in Disney, and I'm not going to book another Disney trip in the summer, nor am I gonna wanna wait a full year to do it the following January if i did the half marathon again... so...

thoughts?


(and Nibbs, you are helpful, but also kind of a spaz so it makes it somewhat counterproductive... :p)


juuuuuuuuuuuust teasing you
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Hey...at least I'm helping you jerk! :fork:



:lookaroun




Well, the good news is she's ready to get engaged...she's just wanting to wait until the summer b/c she thinks that's the optimal time to get engaged in her head. (Especially with the moving in toghether thing.) I understand the not wanting too much change at once...but really, I personally don't see it as too much change. But I can see how she can.

This one is hard but to me...I say do what your heart tells you. If it tells you to do it in Jan, then do it then...if it tells you to do it in summer, do it then. However, don't just do it in Disney b/c that's where YOU want it done. You have to do it in a way that she wants it too. For me, Disney was perfect b/c that was how I wanted it done. Does Allie want it done there though? That's the question?
 
Dukeblue1016

Dukeblue1016

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nibblesandbits said:
Hey...at least I'm helping you jerk! :fork:



:lookaroun




Well, the good news is she's ready to get engaged...she's just wanting to wait until the summer b/c she thinks that's the optimal time to get engaged in her head. (Especially with the moving in toghether thing.) I understand the not wanting too much change at once...but really, I personally don't see it as too much change. But I can see how she can.

This one is hard but to me...I say do what your heart tells you. If it tells you to do it in Jan, then do it then...if it tells you to do it in summer, do it then. However, don't just do it in Disney b/c that's where YOU want it done. You have to do it in a way that she wants it too. For me, Disney was perfect b/c that was how I wanted it done. Does Allie want it done there though? That's the question?
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i totally agree with the last part there... entirely...

i was thinking about it last night like... "am i being naive, insensitive, or just flatout selfish because i so desperately wanna do it in Disney I'm not considering anything else..."

Which is why I wanted to ask her and see how she felt about it… at least have an understanding… and honestly… I think she will be ready, obviously I know her and know what she’s thinking so I can judge what she said better… and truly I think… I mean now if I just shut up about it entirely… we’re talking NINE MONTHS… that’s a long time… so… time will pass… and we’ll be older, nine months is practically a year… I fear she would be expecting me to do it in Disney… except… she knows we’re going to Disney so I can run the race (BY THE WAY NIBBS… I ran four miles Tuesday night!!!!! I was stuck at 1… I ran FOUR!!!)

So… I think, I’m going to try to cool down thinking about it… just let the next 6 months play out… and then revisit it then… and… I don’t think January will be too early from what she said, and I agree… I don’t think “too much is changing” either… and I’ll throw that into my little spiel when I propose…

By the way… my buddy proposing soon wants to do a scavenger hunt ending at a him sitting on a bench in a park with a lake… and he said “should I dress in a huge box like I’m the prize???”

I was like… goooood god no… hahahahahaha
 

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