I’d start with the festivals. I was skeptical first of flower & garden, then food & wine, then festival of the arts. I really enjoy them all!last one we did was the arts in feb, and there was fantastic art - I loved the Star Wars works - but even better was talking to the artists.
I’ll mix the run around into a day: rope drop rnrc @ dhs, breakfast at ohana, leisurely afternoon at the flower and garden playgrounds, then ak for Everest, maybe dinosaur and rivers of light (this was an actual day). Make sure you’ll get the stuff you want. That day it was the first and last things I did. The rest was pretty chill. Staying at the poly and having your own car helps park hopping. So for FoP, when I finally got fp+ for it, that was the focus of our day. Do some of our usual AK, FoP fp, take in pandora, then call it a day. I also tried to do things I’d never done (Astro orbiter) or things I hadn’t done in a long time (enchanted tiki room).
Scheduling ‘mellow time’ to go with the rushing is how I balance. Make an effort to do the less popular attractions - bonuses are their lines are short and they often have A/C.