Feeling horribly guilty!!

luvthemagic

luvthemagic

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I know I will get a bashing, but here goes. DH and I are leaving for WDW this Saturday, and leaving our daughter behind!(guilty part) Yes she is 19 years old, but has had life threatening illness in the past , and I feel bad leaving her. She has a job and just completed her first semester of college. Hubby and I have never been on a honeymoon or celebrated our anniversaries. It is our 26th coming up. We need to rekindle our lives and I thought this trip would help, but I feel bad leaving DD. Please boost my moral so I can spend a romantic time with DH of 26 years!! Thanks
 
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KevinPage

KevinPage

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The kids have to leave the nest sometimes. Heck any human being needs their OWN time. (take that coming from the parent of a 11 month old). :D

Have fun, the kids will still be there when ou get back (a bummer, I know). :lol: :lol: :lol:
 
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wyldstalyn84

wyldstalyn84

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colliera said:
For as much as you do Disney for your kids you also do it for yourself.

The first time the wife and I did Disney together without the kids was Jan 2004. Our last "at home" daughter had plans to see her fiancé and not having to take her made it financially possible for the two of us to go to Disney while she was on her trip. She didn't like it but I pointed out it was her choice.

The second time was Sept. 2004 and we didn't tell her. The "what she doesn't know doesn't hurt her syndrome." She had moved to be with her fiancé in late May.

Our next trip will be Jan 2005 and we did tell her. Surprise! She is OK with that. Just goes to show you that your kids aren't as self-centered as you might think.

BTW, when you get to Disney it will work it's magic and block out the "outside world" so you can enjoy being with your better half and tour at the pace and choice you two enjoy. We did things in Sept. that we never would have done with the kids with us because they wouldn't have liked it due to their youthfulness. As I told my older daughter when I took her and her family to Disney, "This is how you put it together to make memories for your kids." You have passed the torch. Now it's time to discover a new relationship and Disney experience with just your spouse.
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As long as you still plan to take me again dad!!!:kiss:
 
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Badger Brent

Badger Brent

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I do know how your feeling. My DD 14 is cool with me taking just my wife. But my DS 12 will have the issues of us not taking him in October. It's just a quick 4 day trip. But I also need "alone time" with my wife.

The last trip we took without the kids was pretty special. Except for whole "I got into an altercation at F&W" bit, it was pretty special to walk where we wanted, sit where we wanted, eat without pleasing both kids. It was just a nice change of pace to do disney. The more I write, the more I convince myself that a adult only trip is needed. :lol:

GO, have fun and enjoy yourselves... I think were going to also. :wave:
 
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pinkrose

pinkrose

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My husband and I went to WDW back in Feb. with out the kids. I felt so bad the whole time we were getting ready for the trip. The kids though (ages 8 and 10) were fine with it. They know they are going again. lol Once we arrived in WDW, my guilt was no more. We had the best time! Of course, we brought back a lot of surprises for the kids. Have a great time! :)
 
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Marge10369

Marge10369

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luvthemagic said:
I know I will get a bashing, but here goes. DH and I are leaving for WDW this Saturday, and leaving our daughter behind!(guilty part) Yes she is 19 years old, but has had life threatening illness in the past , and I feel bad leaving her. She has a job and just completed her first semester of college. Hubby and I have never been on a honeymoon or celebrated our anniversaries. It is our 26th coming up. We need to rekindle our lives and I thought this trip would help, but I feel bad leaving DD. Please boost my moral so I can spend a romantic time with DH of 26 years!! Thanks
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And you feel guilty why? You sound like wonderful parents that need and deserve this trip. I bet your DD is happy for you. Enjoy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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MouseMadness

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LMAO I would hope to God not. :lol:

I was actually reading through to make sure I wasn't going to repeat what somebody else had said... and a little forum fairy popped up on my shoulder and told me to check the dates. :lookaroun
 
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Shaman

Shaman

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MouseMadness said:
LMAO I would hope to God not. :lol:

I was actually reading through to make sure I wasn't going to repeat what somebody else had said... and a little forum fairy popped up on my shoulder and told me to check the dates. :lookaroun
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:lol:

I did the SAME thing...and people say I'm paranoid...pfft...:lookaroun

What? :lookaroun
 
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righttrack

righttrack

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Wow, vacation guilt exists even with a 19 year old?!? I guess it will never end. And here I thought it would go away around high school age. My wife and I will likely never get away alone again!

Either way, enjoy yourself, and use the time to work on your relationship. You guys have something special there, time to refuel.
 
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Scooter

Scooter

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Be careful

I have friends that went to Walt Disney World without their kids.

9 months later they ended up having an additional kid. :lookaroun :lol:
 
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luvthemagic

luvthemagic

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Thanks for thinking about us!

Yes, we had a wonderful time, no I don't feel guilty anymore. If fact DH and I went to Disneyland this past July to celebrate the 50th!!! We LOVE being alone together!!! Especially at Disney!!!!!:sohappy: :sohappy: :sohappy:
 
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DisneyMissy

DisneyMissy

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I am sure your DD will understand and there is NOTHING to feel guilty about. You are entiteled to some alone time. Have fun, enjoy the time alone and don't worry!
 
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MSTINKHERBELL01

MSTINKHERBELL01

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I understand how you feel...I really do. My son was born preemie and has had over 2 blood transfusions. He weighed 1 pound and 15 oz. when he was born (seven years ago). My partner and I go to WDW at least once a month and we don't always take him with us. At times, parents need to release tensions and reconnect with each other...it makes you better parents and better lovers. My son actually prefers to stay w/ grandma (who spoils him and whos house is like WDW to him). Sure, you'll miss your daughter BUT know that she will be fine. IF anything this gives you a reason to return to WDW w/ daughter, hubby, and yourself for a nice family trip. Enjoy yourself okay??!!! Hakuna Matata Ohana!:wave:

MSTINKHERBELL01
 
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