I know this was a rhetorical question, but I actually think you bring up a good, quasi-existential question about Disney theme parks.
Because you're right - we'll drone on and on for days (and years!) about the difference in the Disney experience vs. other parks, and how queues and preshows and elaborate theming are an essential element in that difference . . . and then immediately turn around and fight for a fastpass so we can just get on the dang ride already.
I'm once again gonna relate the experience to that of a Meal - if a Ride is an Entrée then perhaps the Preshow more like an Appetizer, and the Queue maybe more like an Hors D'oeuvre. If you have the choice between two restaurants who serve comparably good Entrées (or not comparable, your mileage may vary), you may yet favor the one with the better appetizers and hors d'ouvres. It is still possible that some days you may simply want just order the Entree, but the additional offerings may still inform your overall favor of restaurant.
I do think this situation doesn't quite exist in a vacuum - if the parks weren't being orchestrated (intentionally or otherwise) to negatively impact the guest's general ability to get on as many rides as possible then there might be less impulse to blow past the queue and preshow and just get on the ride. But I do also think it's fair to say that a trend has grown in recent years where we're being offered more meaningful hors d'oeuvres and appetizers while they scale back on the Entrees, and you wouldn't let that slide in your favorite restaurant. And if they slow service to give you more time to focus on those first parts without delivering fully on the later parts, you might reach a point where you don't necessarily want to invest in a full meal, you just want to skip to the "meat" and then get on with your day.
This can all be true and still have you feeling like you prefer this restaurant's menu over the restaurant down the street.