Ex-loves...your opinions

[Dawn S]

Out of curiosity, I wonder....

If you were to hear an update about the life on an ex, would you hope they were doing well? Not talking about evil exes...that goes without saying...But rather, people that you parted with in a friendly way. It's always seen in movies where someone finds out a long-gone ex is getting married, having a baby, etc. & people flip out, even though they've moved on, when they hear about it. How do you take that kind of news?

 

[garyhoov]

Originally posted by Dawn S
Out of curiosity, I wonder....

If you were to hear an update about the life on an ex, would you hope they were doing well? Not talking about evil exes...that goes without saying...But rather, people that you parted with in a friendly way. It's always seen in movies where someone finds out a long-gone ex is getting married, having a baby, etc. & people flip out, even though they've moved on, when they hear about it. How do you take that kind of news?

I can't imagine not wanting anyone I've ever met to not have the best life possible. I've really only had one ex and I felt very guilty leaving her but things just weren't working out. I hope she has a wonderful life now

 

[TravisMT81]

well my first ex he can burn in hell :lol: The second one, I only wish him the best but hearing about him makes me sad.

 

[The Mom]

Unfortunately, at my age the news I hear about them is usually bad! They've been slowly dying off!

I agree with gary; even if we didn't part on the best of terms, they must have had some good qualities that attracted me in the first place (except for Dale...he was just gorgeous ) so I would only want the best for them.

 

[garyhoov]

Originally posted by TravisM
well my first ex he can burn in hell :lol:

It sounds like there's a good story here!

 

[TravisMT81]

ahh yes, I don't deal with cheaters

 

[Invero]

Let's see here... First ex slept with everyone in town...
second ex left me for some internet guy...
third ex used me for the money I dont have...
fourth ex... "Tyler, I love you, and I care about you a lot... and that's why I'm breaking up with you."
We then got back together... and then he slept with my best friend.
Fifth ex... everything was PERFECT... and then... *BAM* overnight he wanted nothing to do with me. (Stood me up on New Years Eve... ...)

So yeah, I agree with Travis...

 

[bamboo7]

i generally want to not hear from my ex girlfriends. usually, it is because i get really hurt during the breakup, and it just hurts to hear from them at all. but now this is making me think about things i am trying to forget, so i am gonna stop here. but the most recent one, i do wish nothing but the very best for. (and things could still work out with me and her) sigh.

 

[DisneyWorldGuru]

My one ex girl friend can go to he!! for all I care. I dont know why I liked her in the first place. My last girl friend and I just drifted apart. I dont mind seeing her. But I am to busy with this girl i like to care about the others.

 

[kaos]

just remember... they are ex's for a reason.

 

[Dawn S]

Originally posted by kaos
just remember... they are ex's for a reason.

You know...you are SOOOOOOOOOOOO right! :sohappy:

 

[Maria]

Re: Re: Ex-loves...your opinions

Originally posted by garyhoov


I can't imagine not wanting anyone I've ever met to not have the best life possible. I've really only had one ex and I felt very guilty leaving her but things just weren't working out. I hope she has a wonderful life now

I agree with you... I can´t wish them bad, and I hope they succeed in life, but as Kaos said... there is a reason why they are ex´s and sometimes I rather not know from them. :animwink:

 

[PrincessAli]

well I guess I want my ex's to be happy but as far away from me as possible. There is a couple of them I'm still friends with but I don't really care about their dating status, Like if they talk about it i'm like "oh that's nice but moving on......." :lol:

 

[conntom]

To Travis M if people dont see the good in you then thay are
Dum it is what is in your heart for people to see. I dont no you
but to me you look like you have a good heart I wish you all the
Best.
TO TYLER I wish I was younger so I could date you but I am to
old thats ok. try and try again you will get it right some day
I hope oh sorry I miss your Birthday so HAPPY BIRTHDAY ALL
THE BEST.

 

[Erika]

Hm, tough question. I have a number of ex-boyfriends but only 1 ex-love. That was a very difficult situation and I certainly did not love him by the end! (I went to court TWICE to keep him as far away from me as possible.)

The first group of people- I wish them all well. I like to hear about a couple of them from time to time.

The other person- Although I may joke around from time to time, I can't truly, sincerely wish harm on anybody. I seriously hope he has gotten some HELP and I really don't care to hear anything specific about him at all. In my mind, he is dead, buried, mostly forgotten!

 

[garyhoov]

Originally posted by Erika
I certainly did not love him by the end! (I went to court TWICE to keep him as far away from me as possible.)

I wonder if you really loved him, or loved an illusion. I am guessing that you never saw that side of him until after things went bad, so maybe you were in love with a character he was playing.

 

[Erika]

Eh, that's a good question but truthfully it does not matter now.

I was always the one trying to help everybody, wanting to fix everything-- he had had a rough life and I pitied him. You're probably right!

At any rate, thankfully I had a friend who was looking out for me. She was SO supportive...and then...she got her entire family to set up a few chance meetings between me and her cousin John...Sneaky family! (now my in-laws, of course)

 

[garyhoov]

Originally posted by Erika
...she got her entire family to set up a few chance meetings between me and her cousin John...Sneaky family! (now my in-laws, of course)

:lol: :lol: :lol:

You always see things like this in movies. I've never heard a real one.

 

[tenchu]

Interesting stories.

I get off very lightly so far then!

 

[Erika]

Originally posted by garyhoov



:lol: :lol: :lol:

You always see things like this in movies. I've never heard a real one.

Oh, it was so funny! First it was, Hey, what are you doing for the 4th of July? Why don't you come over? and they were having a family party.

Then, a few months later, Hey, there's a big surprise party for my parents (I knew her immediate family pretty well) at my grandma's house. You have to be there! and it turned out to be another family party.

Then- another family party right before Valentine's Day, where I made plans with my friend, her sister and the cousins for a Loser's Night Out the following Saturday (Valentine's Day). John showed up with a dozen long-stemmed roses, from one of the best florists in Chicagoland. And he paid for me, at all the places we went to that night. LOL I thought he was just being nice but do you know-- we have talked every single day since that night! That was 2/98 and we got married 7/00.

The best part was, when we first started "having feelings" I was like, Does she know? How should we tell her? Do you think she will be mad? And He just shrugged, I don't know, even though he knew she had set us up all along :lol: