i'm going to disney in about a month with my 5yr old triplets-here is what we are doing-we are buying 3 umbrella strollers & will get the connector sets to link them together so that I can take them back to our cabin at ft wilderness by myself if need be- they have the boats/water taxi feature at that resort making it easier on us to access magic kingdom & the transportation center (the hub of getting where you need to go centrally located)
3 normal sized (i'm going for the smallest ones i can find) umbrella strollers should easily measure less than the 36inch requirement which is just basic wheelchair accomodation size-literally any wider & you cant get it up a handicap ramp-been there, done that with my runabout-i also have the blue graco i think is who makes it, limo-sized stroller which i hated because my kids would put on their best punch & judy act or 3stooges act in it-anything to bother each other from early age to present!
not sure how easy it will be with the 3 connecting strollers, but if you have 1yr olds they should easily fit & not put up too much of a fight adding in the developmental delay issues you cited...
as for keeping shoes on- kids always toss them-just smile at whoever gives you grief & say kids, they never can keep their shoes on & leave it at that-they should leave you alone afterwards, if not, they are probably triplet stalker types & want more info or to just gawk-yes to those who dont have multiples this is a HUGE problem for us...we get treated like the animals in the zoo & are often followed, have people throw themselves in front of us just to stare, sometimes they say ugly awful things about & to us over our kids & our kids realize it after a certain point & it creeps the kids out & makes them cry ruining whatever we were out trying to do in the first place!!! people are awful & not everyone is ready to offer accomodations for higher order multiples- to combat the firecode issue, book 2 rooms if you want, or get a suite or stay at the allstar-you can play around with different reservations on the site til you are happy with what you end up with-ours kept kicking us back to the cabins @ ft wilderness-it has the boatride option access which i love-my kids will get a kick out of it, we get our own trailer sized type spot with no wall-sharing so my kids can be obnoxious all they want & scream (i have one with full blown sensory integration disorder & he will be getting his gac for certain to protect those who would stare or be peeved over his groping grabbing or getting cuddly in the line-he is five & either makes new friends in a way that some folks are not happy with-he likes textures & ran his hand up someone's leg in line once when he was very small before we knew he had the sensory probs-they took it well, another instance someone in line freaked totally even though he was a toddler...he also gets overwhelmed by crowds (think similar to claustrophobia but different) & he tends to meltdown & tune the world out into fits of epic flailing arms & legs proportions-he cannot help himself & i do everything i can to head these off before it gets past the point of no return, but sometimes there are triggers i cannot forsee or even fathom & it just happens!!! im petrified of the well-meaning outside help, the idea that it the gac may get us uwanted attention from the mundanes & that my other kids will realize what is going on & say something back-they are 5 afterall!!! but i'm going to try this anyways- the resort is good for us & it will be a learning experience!!!
like i said, i ran into options for our triplet problem but the solutions were there if I played in the system enough! if you dont find something that works for you, just call the reps & explain the situation -AFTER you've calmed down- i freaked at first when mine were little & we kicked around all of us going on a school trip with my eldest who was 11 at the time-i stayed home because the trio were 1...things have changed since then, for the better- i soo get the wagon & length prohibitions on strollers though- had some old man actually turn around & almost sit in my limo-length stroller which would have crushed kian literally...he just got overwhelmed by the magnitude i guess & lost his balance-i caught him thankfully because it was walmart & there was nowhere to go, no way to turn the stroller away from them easily without tipping (they are anything but aerodynamic & most dont even have brakes on them if they do they dont work well!) i dont want anyone hurting my kids period-people already mow over them because they dont look down (usualy those who dont have kids of their own & they get mad because the kid was there) or folks seperate us when we are walking together-think redrover only adults forcefully seperating little hands being held trying to stay together in a crowd!!! so its scary even when they are older!!!
we have a dining plan & i purposefully downgraded to quickservice(it was free for regular) so we wouldnt have to worry about wait or meltdowns at the tableservices or having to leave because our kid melted down or my others were doing a comedy act which does happen because it might disturb others- sure i'm mindful of most situations, but in a kid-oriented spot i tend to err on the side of its for the kids & mine are beingkids-so deal with it...you were a kid once too & were tolerated rule of thumb- i may be a horrid mom, so sue me!!! i'm lucky in this case now though, my eldest is 16 & he sorta counts as an adult -i sure did my ride homework before deciding this was a go for us-a 14+child counts on rides as an adult enough to ride with younger kids making more rides accessible for my 5yr olds...hooray!!!
anyways, thats my triplet disney gameplan & we leave in a little over a month-will let you know how it goes if you want!!! anyone with ideas or even things that might not work in my gameplan please let me know so i can adjust! i'm not expecting royal treatment, but I have worked really hard to make this doable for my family of 6, 3 of which happen to be barely 5 one with asd/sensory disorder (the sensory is diagnosed the asd is in the proces-they are working towards aspie)...