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Cyber-bullying
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donaldtoo
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I quit givin' a drunken monkeys a$$ about what every single person I ever ran into thought about me long before there ever was an internet. When I was younger, I used to always want to to be the pleaser and wanted everyone to like me, which, to me, is a normal human longing...everyone, for the most part, wants to be liked. I was always so dejected and wanted to know answers and I used to obsess over "How can they possibly not like me?!"
For a long time now, I have just acted like my own true, silly, genuine self and I get along GREAT with almost everyone. And if ya' don't like me, that's fine too. Ultimately, it is of no consequence to my or the other persons existence on the planet...I'm not losin' sleep over it.
These sad people seem to have gone WAY out of their way to make you feel like crap about yourself. Really (and as corny/psycobabbly as it sounds), when it comes right down to it, in my mind anyway, only YOU can make YOU feel like crap.
Above all, the only ones you really need to please are those that are dear to you.
And, on that note, I'll leave it at one short thought...
The surest path to failure is to try to please everyone.
"We go on...!"
For a long time now, I have just acted like my own true, silly, genuine self and I get along GREAT with almost everyone. And if ya' don't like me, that's fine too. Ultimately, it is of no consequence to my or the other persons existence on the planet...I'm not losin' sleep over it.
These sad people seem to have gone WAY out of their way to make you feel like crap about yourself. Really (and as corny/psycobabbly as it sounds), when it comes right down to it, in my mind anyway, only YOU can make YOU feel like crap.
Above all, the only ones you really need to please are those that are dear to you.
And, on that note, I'll leave it at one short thought...
The surest path to failure is to try to please everyone.
"We go on...!"
eeyoremum
Well-Known Member
If it is the forum I think it is. I too experienced issues, especially with one poster who made it their mission to post nasty responses to anything I posted. I finally posted an incredibly undisney like response and never looked back.
I have been a member here for a long time but got sucked into the other forum. I am back here now and will never look back.
I agree with others run don't walk away and never look back.
I have been a member here for a long time but got sucked into the other forum. I am back here now and will never look back.
I agree with others run don't walk away and never look back.
sweetpee_1993
Well-Known Member
I think this might be another of those things in life I'd be far happier enjoying my ignorance in bliss. No clue what forum this is but I can assure you it sounds like there is absolutely nothing there that can offer anything positive to my life. That said, why would anyone go there???
I feel like I did the night I was over visiting a cabbage patch collector friend who was waaaaay more connected in "the community" than me. I learned so much about things and people I never dreamed. Doll collectors who had a dedicated forum where they go to bash people, talk smack behind their back, totally unmoderated, totally full of hate-mongering and misery. I never went to that online club (as we called them) even after I knew of it's existance. I even found out what was said about me and who said it. Yep, someone I loosely "knew". She said I talk too much all the time. Well, that's true. So what? And, you know, a few years later she owned up to it privately with me with an apology after I paid her a particular unwarranted kindness...even after I knew she had said something in an unkind spirit about me. I refuse to allow other people's garbage and baggage be unloaded onto my shoulders. I've had enough battles in my life with self-loathing and doubt. I don't need other people's crap projected onto me. I just don't have it in me to carry it around on top of my own burdens. So, you know, I find some way to pay that person a kindness in spite of their trespasses because those people, my friend, who are lower than low and need it the most. If nothing else whoever these bullies are they're...uh...expressive...or maybe persistant??? Dedicated? There! We said something nice to counter the juju. Now we shall move on! Yes?!
@captainkidd, don't fret. Don't let other people with problems burden you with their baggage. YOU know you are a good person with a good heart. The right thing is to pity people who live such miserable existances even if they themselves don't realize it. Move on to places and people who have something positive to bring to your life. Life is too short for that kind of juvenile stuff. Don't drag yourself down by allowing any part of you to get tangled up in such. Hold your head high, close that door, and walk away. Picture yourself doing it and do it. You are better than that stuff. I don't know you all personally 'n junk but I've seen you around enough to know you're not like those people in that negative space. I believe in you. Those other people can get over it or die with it. No consequence to whether or not the sun will be rising in the morning. Right? Right! Here's a hug for ya ----> (((((((hug))))))) Take care of you. We're here for ya, buddy.
I like your father's wisdom! That's a good one! Have to remember it!
I quit givin' a drunken monkeys a$$ about what every single person I ever ran into thought about me long before there ever was an internet. When I was younger, I used to always want to to be the pleaser and wanted everyone to like me, which, to me, is a normal human longing...everyone, for the most part, wants to be liked. I was always so dejected and wanted to know answers and I used to obsess over "How can they possibly not like me?!"
For a long time now, I have just acted like my own true, silly, genuine self and I get along GREAT with almost everyone. And if ya' don't like me, that's fine too. Ultimately, it is of no consequence to my or the other persons existence on the planet...I'm not losin' sleep over it.
These sad people seem to have gone WAY out of their way to make you feel like crap about yourself. Really (and as corny/psycobabbly as it sounds), when it comes right down to it, in my mind anyway, only YOU can make YOU feel like crap.
Above all, the only ones you really need to please are those that are dear to you.
And, on that note, I'll leave it at one short thought...
The surest path to failure is to try to please everyone.
"We go on...!"
Very well stated. You nailed it.
StarWarsGirl
Well-Known Member
- In the Parks
- No
I wasn't cyber bullied, but I was bullied in real life. I wrote a paper on self worth and included my experiences for a health class a few days ago, and I copied it below:
I was a bullied teen. It’s strange to think about it now in retrospect because I didn’t put a word to it at the time. I was in eighth grade. I’m now in twelfth grade. I reflected back on it after the fact and put a word with it: bully.
She would come out of nowhere. She was a tiny thing, too thin, I realized. But I said nothing. I am kind, not like her. She would laugh at me, taunt me, make me feel miserable. The feeling of intimidation lies imprinted in my memory.
“Missy, you’re fat!” she’d say.
She said the dreaded words. Normally, you can say whatever you please about me and I don’t care one bit. But that is a sensitive topic, to say the least. I’ve struggled with my weight my entire life. I was never fat, but I was never thin either. At that point, I was on the heavier side. And those words stung like sunburned skin against hot water. I would run, and she would taunt, “Fat, fat, fat, fat, fat!”
It wasn’t just that she did it; it was that she did it with her friends around. They’d laugh as she would taunt. Those cackles would surround me in the hallway. There were times that they would surround me, making any hopes of an escape impossible. It got to the point where I could not walk alone in the halls, lest she would find me and I’d find myself in trouble.
“You’re a b----!” she said.
“That’s okay; I don’t like you either,” I responded. I tried to get away, but I couldn’t. She surrounded me, repeating the insult, tormenting me, laughing at me. My only escape was into the nurse’s office, where I quickly began sobbing.
You know what the worst part was? My parents believed me, but the administration didn’t, particularly the administrator who was dealing with it. He chalked it up to teen girl trouble. We weren’t friends. I never instigated this. I never did anything besides defend myself, which he told me not to do. He said that the words, “Shut up” were not school appropriate and only made the situation worse. The fact is that nothing worked. I tried ignoring her. I tried walking away. The taunts only grew louder.
Had it not been for my best friend, it would have been worse. She walked with me whenever possible. She was big and rather intimidating herself. And she was tough. You did not dare cross her. I remember one particular instance when I was in the gym, surrounded by a group of friends, with my best friend at my side. She tried to come over. She opened her mouth.
“Go away,” my friend said said.
She opened her mouth again.
“Turn around, and walk away.”
She did just that. All of us sat there completely shocked. I was, and still am, in awe of her power, of how she managed to do what I couldn’t. Looking back, it should have been frustrating, but I was grateful.
Eventually, my father got involved. He called the administrator and told him to fix it. The administrator was going to sit us down and talk about it. Beforehand, my father asked me if this is what I wanted. I told him I just wanted her to leave me alone, and that I didn’t even want to be in the same room with her. The administrator retorted that I should not have told her to shut up. My dad told him that if those were the words I chose to use in self defense, he did not have a problem with it. He threatened to call the police if the problem wasn’t solved. Shockingly, it stopped.
But in retrospect, if she had to target someone, I’m glad I was the target. Her words would sting then, and the intimidation left me in morbid fear every day, but when I was with others or at home, I barely even thought about it. She was an idiot, and that was all there was too it. I was better than her. I had confidence. She was insecure. I knew it was true.
I have high self worth. Since she’s been gone, I’ve been accepted to multiple colleges, gotten a giant scholarship, and I’m on the announcements at school. The freshman idolize me, see me as a role model. It’s an incredible feeling. I’m worth something. No one, not her, not a teacher, not anyone but myself, can change that. I live by Eleanor Roosevelt’s words, that no one can make me feel inferior without my consent.
But her words cannot ring true with everyone. I shudder to think what would have happened if she had targeted someone else. Bullying causes suicide. What if it hadn’t been me? What if it was someone with low self worth? Or someone without an amazing group of friends around her who supported her? Or someone who, for whatever reason, chose not to report it?
When I think about the bullies like her and the kids they torment, my heart is heavy. No one deserves this. And not everyone can handle it as well as I did. While that period of my life was painful, I share it, not only to prevent bullying, but to show others that they can live through it if they are the target. You are more than the words of others, especially a bully. In the end, the only one who should be able to determine your self-worth is you.
I wanna know what forum. Trollolz would be good
Jimmy Thick
Well-Known Member
May I have a link to this forum, even if in PM?
Oh, back in the day...
Jimmy Thick- Lets just keep it at that...
Oh, back in the day...
Jimmy Thick- Lets just keep it at that...
I want to thank you all. Last night was a pretty rough night for me, but all the kind words and support from you good people really made things a whole lot easier. Your kindness did not go unnoticed and will never be forgotten.
popcenturylover
Well-Known Member
I belong to 2 other forums but, quit posting on them about 6 months ago because of rude comments. People would also ask for your opinion then slam you when you did post it. I really wouldn't worry about it! Just keep posting here. Everyone here is really nice & you can definitely post your opinion & not get a rude comment back!
NYwdwfan
Well-Known Member
Words to live by: you cannot control how other people act, only how you react to them.
Don't let fake personas in an imaginary world impact your real life.
And since this is you @captainkidd, I'll call upon the words of Jon Bon Jovi:
Better stand tall when they're calling you out
Don't bend, don't break - baby, don't back down
Don't let fake personas in an imaginary world impact your real life.
And since this is you @captainkidd, I'll call upon the words of Jon Bon Jovi:
Better stand tall when they're calling you out
Don't bend, don't break - baby, don't back down
StarWarsGirl
Well-Known Member
- In the Parks
- No
I must say that while other forums contain some real bimbos, this one generally has kind people. I've only had to use the ignore button once since I've been on here. On other forums, I hide my age because people won't take me seriously if I don't, but I've never felt the need to on here.
I just don't get why other people would say such nasty things. My philosophy is: Be nice to everyone.
I just don't get why other people would say such nasty things. My philosophy is: Be nice to everyone.
disneypearl
Well-Known Member
Glad things seem to be looking better today. Try to avoid the other forum and don't go back. I have no idea what site you are talking about, but can pretty much guarantee it isn't worth going back.
luv
Well-Known Member
Mean, stupid, little people really don't deserve your anger. Once you know what they are, you should dismiss them as trash you do not care about. Just let them go on about their ridiculous lives and don't worry about them.
You should ask yourself why you even care what someone who is beneath you thinks. Work that out and I bet you'll feel better with yourself and not even care about what other people say. Until then, stay out of the threads or the board.
Once I know someone is beneath me, I honestly never care WHAT their opinion might be.
You should ask yourself why you even care what someone who is beneath you thinks. Work that out and I bet you'll feel better with yourself and not even care about what other people say. Until then, stay out of the threads or the board.
Once I know someone is beneath me, I honestly never care WHAT their opinion might be.
Just a heads up - The hate mongering sewing circle found out about this thread, and will probably start trolling over here shortly. No doubt they will try and make up lies just as they do on their board. If you have any questions and want to know the truth, just ask.