Chicken Soup for the Magic Souls

[nibblesandbits]

I definitely agree with the bolded statement above. And, I guess, hence my opinion on nor overanalyzing things to the point that you're too wrapped up in it.

I definitely think being cautious of a relationship with someone is a good idea. But you're not even to that step yet. You've been with someone for seven years. NEVER have you been single in your adult life. I think it's okay to "put yourself out there" and meet people. But Amy does have a good point in that you need to be cautious.

Though... less than two weeks after my ex of 4.5 years and I broke up I met DH. :shrug: You never know. But it doesn't hurt to be cautious when you get to that point.

I agree with this too....

only you know if you're ready to get out there...if you honestly feel like you aren't...then don't. If you feel like you just want to go on a date...try out the single life, then go for it. But only you truthfully know....


So answer this question...without thinking...do you want to call this girl for a date?


Don't think about the answer...post whatever the first thing that goes through your head is.

 

[k.hunter30]

actually to be honest.... i wouldn't care about rejection at all in the form of rejection...

it really is... over-thinking this keeps my mind occupied from thinking about the past... that's mainly it...

it's not "this girl" it's "this situation" if that makes sense?

and I'd definitely never do something to hurt some girl... never

That TOTALLY makes sense. And just the fact that it's the situation of you moving on, not whether or not this girl is really into you or not, that makes this a good thing I think. And, like I said... you've been getting hit on in bars, on the subway/train, etc... if this situation doesn't work out, there'll be another one.

 

[k.hunter30]

no you're absolutely 100% right. In every way.

Honestly... This isn't about "dating." i would never do that to someone. It'd be unfair to them.

I could meet the most perfect girl in the world and if i tried to date her right now... It'd have a zero percent chance of working.

The situation is moderately complicated (because i made it that way because i'm dumb)

and i'm not gonna go into it on here... I feel bad the convo got this intense on here...

Basically just like got some girls number, wanted me to call her sometime, i don't wanna a) lead the wrong idea, b) crash and burn, cuz we were out at a party and windex was involved, c) not call when i said i would if she actually does still want me to...

But i'm not looking for anything more than just having fun with my friends and whatever happens happens... I'd never do anything dumb... But the fact is i am single now... There is no harm in just harmless flirting and having fun... If you know what i mean because i'm not a "one night" kind of guy... Even if i'd been single my whole life, i wouldn't be like that.

:roflol:
:lol:

 

[Dukeblue1016]

I agree with this too....

only you know if you're ready to get out there...if you honestly feel like you aren't...then don't. If you feel like you just want to go on a date...try out the single life, then go for it. But only you truthfully know....


So answer this question...without thinking...do you want to call this girl for a date?


Don't think about the answer...post whatever the first thing that goes through your head is.

First thing Nibbs to come to mind?

Yes. But not now. And I don't know her that well.

What I would like to do... sox play Friday night... be like hey a bunch of us are hitting the such and such bar, wanna meet us out for the game?

She says no thanks... no big deal and I go to the bar and have fun.

If she says yes... we hangout some more... I get to know her some.

If she seems cool... keep that up for a period of time that allows me to adjust to being single and not doing anything rash or dumb.

 

[WaltzingMatilda]

I definitely agree with the bolded statement above. And, I guess, hence my opinion on nor overanalyzing things to the point that you're too wrapped up in it.

I definitely think being cautious of a relationship with someone is a good idea. But you're not even to that step yet. You've been with someone for seven years. NEVER have you been single in your adult life. I think it's okay to "put yourself out there" and meet people. But Amy does have a good point in that you need to be cautious.

Though... less than two weeks after my ex of 4.5 years and I broke up I met DH. :shrug: You never know. But it doesn't hurt to be cautious when you get to that point.

True true true. Life is to be lived, after all.

:lookaroun


Of course...



Hi sweetie! So, you're having the 9th month "Get This Thing Out of Me" issue too? Apparently SIL isn't doing so great in her 9th month...and she was already kind of a handful. I'd hate to see what she's like right now! :lookaroun

Yes, i am way done with being pregnant. Wee Jack, however, is rather content where he is. Is this SIL's first baby?

No you're absolutely 100% right. In every way.

Honestly... this isn't about "dating." I would never do that to someone. It'd be unfair to them.

I could meet the most perfect girl in the world and if I tried to date her right now... it'd have a zero percent chance of working.

The situation is moderately complicated (because I made it that way because I'm dumb)

and i'm not gonna go into it on here... i feel bad the convo got this intense on here...

basically just like got some girls number, wanted me to call her sometime, I don't wanna a) lead the wrong idea, b) crash and burn, cuz we were out at a party and windex was involved, c) not call when I said I would if she actually does still want me to...

but i'm not looking for anything more than just having fun with MY FRIENDS and whatever happens happens... I'd never do anything dumb... but the fact is I AM SINGLE NOW... there is no harm in just harmless flirting and having fun... if you know what I mean because I'm not a "one night" kind of guy... even if I'd been single my whole life, I wouldn't be like that.

You're a good guy. And an honest one, which is the most important thing. :kiss:

LOL on the "windex was involved". Only on Magic Friends...:lol:

 

[k.hunter30]

First thing Nibbs to come to mind?

Yes. But not now. And I don't know her that well.

What I would like to do... sox play Friday night... be like hey a bunch of us are hitting the such and such bar, wanna meet us out for the game?

She says no thanks... no big deal and I go to the bar and have fun.

If she says yes... we hangout some more... I get to know her some.

If she seems cool... keep that up for a period of time that allows me to adjust to being single and not doing anything rash or dumb.

Sounds PERFECT!!!

See, nothing to worry about.

 

[nibblesandbits]

First thing Nibbs to come to mind?

Yes. But not now. And I don't know her that well.

What I would like to do... sox play Friday night... be like hey a bunch of us are hitting the such and such bar, wanna meet us out for the game?

She says no thanks... no big deal and I go to the bar and have fun.

If she says yes... we hangout some more... I get to know her some.

If she seems cool... keep that up for a period of time that allows me to adjust to being single and not doing anything rash or dumb.

Then go with that idea...because that sounds like the best one for you.

 

[nibblesandbits]

Yes, i am way done with being pregnant. Wee Jack, however, is rather content where he is. Is this SIL's first baby?

Yes, it's her first one.

And it's probably ok that wee Jack is content. Don't want him coming too early.

 

[Dukeblue1016]

thanks guys. I've entirely come down to earth on this.

I'm single. Done. What I do is what I do. Worrying is pointless... I have no one to please but myself.

Sold.

 

[k.hunter30]

thanks guys. I've entirely come down to earth on this.

I'm single. Done. What I do is what I do. Worrying is pointless... I have no one to please but myself.

Sold.

:sohappy:

 

[k.hunter30]

Yes, i am way done with being pregnant. Wee Jack, however, is rather content where he is.

What's the date again? I want to say the 14th...? Though a friend of mine is having a C-section on or around that date... so I can be confusing them.

Nibbs, when is SIL due?

 

[Dukeblue1016]

:sohappy:

it's just been nice (and mutually terrifying when I think about it) to not think about Allie... and not think about what she's doing and to be hung up on her.

this Hootie song "don't think I don't think about it" couldn't be more in line to the breakup and so you'd think listening to it would be painful... and keep me constantly thinking about her... but I'm just... not...

it really is kind of scary. I know I'm not even 1/100th over her... but... maybe 1/1000th...

 

[k.hunter30]

it's just been nice (and mutually terrifying when I think about it) to not think about Allie... and not think about what she's doing and to be hung up on her.

this Hootie song "don't think I don't think about it" couldn't be more in line to the breakup and so you'd think listening to it would be painful... and keep me constantly thinking about her... but I'm just... not...

it really is kind of scary. I know I'm not even 1/100th over her... but... maybe 1/1000th...

That warms my heart... don't know why exactly.. but I'm just happy for you...

 

[WaltzingMatilda]

Yes, it's her first one.

And it's probably ok that wee Jack is content. Don't want him coming too early.

Yea, I guess. But I just wanna sleep on my stomach....or drink a PBR...:lookaroun

No, in all seriousness I know it's best for the baby but oy vey it does get old by 36 weeks. Of course, once he's here I'll be getting even less sleep, so I ought not to complain.

Okay, i really should get back to work.

 

[WaltzingMatilda]

What's the date again? I want to say the 14th...? Though a friend of mine is having a C-section on or around that date... so I can be confusing them.

Nibbs, when is SIL due?

just caught this - the date is 11/5.

Okay, I really must get some work done or I'm not gonna be allowed to go on maternity leave.

 

[nibblesandbits]

thanks guys. I've entirely come down to earth on this.

I'm single. Done. What I do is what I do. Worrying is pointless... I have no one to please but myself.

Sold.

Yay!!!
You're growing!

What's the date again? I want to say the 14th...? Though a friend of mine is having a C-section on or around that date... so I can be confusing them.

Nibbs, when is SIL due?

She's supposed to be due on Halloween. She says she doesn't want to have it then though...so I think she's gonna try and schedule to enduce earlier.

Yea, I guess. But I just wanna sleep on my stomach....or drink a PBR...:lookaroun

No, in all seriousness I know it's best for the baby but oy vey it does get old by 36 weeks. Of course, once he's here I'll be getting even less sleep, so I ought not to complain.

Okay, i really should get back to work.

:kiss:

I know...it's not easy...and it certainly won't be easy when he's here...but life will return back to semi-normal for you soon. As normal as it can with a new wee one.

 

[nibblesandbits]

Gotta run for a bit!

 

[SamnDawn060304]

Hi everyone!:wave:

 

[Nicole220]

Quick hi. :wave:

 

[k.hunter30]

Hi everyone!:wave:

Quick hi. :wave:

Hi Dawn and Nicole! Sorry I missed you!