Chicken Soup for the Magic Souls

k.hunter30

k.hunter30

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mpoppins76 said:
Went well! It's HUGE! :lol: DF had to help me carry it up. The owner helped me to the car with it and told me when I got home to "take it out, hang in somewhere where I can poof it out...away from any animals". Yeah. In an apartment with a fiance who can't see it, 4 cats, & a very curious puppy. :veryconfu I told him we're driving 20 hours with it this weekend anyway so he said to go ahead and keep it in the garment bag (I call it a 'tent', way too big for a garment bag) and then get it out in Omaha. We're staying at my aunt & uncles the early part of the week so I can do that there. Just have to make sure the dog doesn't decide it's a big, squishy bed on the car ride.
He did say it could get wrinkly so I really don't know what I'll do if it does. :shrug:
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Oh boy! A lot to take into consideration. I'm sure it'll be okay though. My mom and Dad travelled with it in a van from Chicago to Tennessee. We laid it out for two or three days before the wedding and it was fine. It'll just get wrinkly and dirty by halfway through your reception anyways.

Dukeblue1016 said:
Probably tomorrow... :shrug:


:cry: I don't know...
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Not feeling today, huh?

mpoppins76 said:
You apologize too much :rolleyes: :kiss:
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I tend to agree... though in this case... I think it was a good idea.
 
mpoppins76

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Dukeblue1016 said:
sorry...

:eek:


I had to... I all night gave the right vibes and said the right things cuz I was being myself... then in a bad mindset let other people tell me what to do and I came off like... well in a way that isn't who I am...
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No, it makes total sense. You did the right thing and I'm sure she really respected you for it. :)
k.hunter30 said:
Oh boy! A lot to take into consideration. I'm sure it'll be okay though. My mom and Dad travelled with it in a van from Chicago to Tennessee. We laid it out for two or three days before the wedding and it was fine. It'll just get wrinkly and dirty by halfway through your reception anyways.
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Wellll, I have the name & # of a really good wedding gown alterations person in Omaha anyway. Wanted to have it just in case there would happen to be any last minute problems with it so I'm sure if it was really bad she could help out. :)
 
Dukeblue1016

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k.hunter30 said:
I'm the same way... not a fan of talking on the phone. Why not do it today...? Girls are on to the "wait three days" before calling thing.




:lookaroun
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I'm too afraid of the... circumstances everything was under to crash and burn like...

I don't want her to be like...

"oh wow this guy doesn't know what its like to be single and I totally lead this poor sap on... I'm really not interested at all"
 
k.hunter30

k.hunter30

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mpoppins76 said:
No, it makes total sense. You did the right thing and I'm sure she really respected you for it. :)

Wellll, I have the name & # of a really good wedding gown alterations person in Omaha anyway. Wanted to have it just in case there would happen to be any last minute problems with it so I'm sure if it was really bad she could help out. :)
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Good thinking!

Dukeblue1016 said:
I'm too afraid of the... circumstances everything was under to crash and burn like...

I don't want her to be like...

"oh wow this guy doesn't know what its like to be single and I totally lead this poor sap on... I'm really not interested at all"
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Even if that's the case... so what? Just do what you want to do Joe. If you want to see her again, call her (and don't wait too long). If not, don't feel bad. But either way... it seems your'e worrying too much about something that is just... well... it's just you putting yourself out there and having fun in the single life again. Who cares if her reaction is they way you described. It's not like you're in love with her or anything.

.... right...:lookaroun


j/k
 
mpoppins76

mpoppins76

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k.hunter30 said:
Even if that's the case... so what? Just do what you want to do Joe. If you want to see her again, call her (and don't wait too long). If not, don't feel bad. But either way... it seems your'e worrying too much about something that is just... well... it's just you putting yourself out there and having fun in the single life again. Who cares if her reaction is they way you described. It's not like you're in love with her or anything.

.... right...:lookaroun


j/k
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Very well put, Kat!
 
Dukeblue1016

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k.hunter30 said:
Good thinking!


Even if that's the case... so what? Just do what you want to do Joe. If you want to see her again, call her (and don't wait too long). If not, don't feel bad. But either way... it seems your'e worrying too much about something that is just... well... it's just you putting yourself out there and having fun in the single life again. Who cares if her reaction is they way you described. It's not like you're in love with her or anything.

.... right...:lookaroun


j/k
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mpoppins76 said:
Very well put, Kat!
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Trust me... I keep saying that... it's like "jesus what is your problem"

ya know what it is though right.

I'm vulnerable. Completely utterly vulnerable. Not only though... emotionally I'm a wreck. I've never been single and so I don't know how to do things. I'm not ready yet to enjoy the "single life" however... it's at the point that I think it is in my absolute best interest to enjoy it. Why just sulk as someone who is dumped when I can go out, have fun, and whatever happens happens and just don't worry about it. Ya know?

So it's like... I'm worried about it cuz it's a step in the right direction for me... and that scares me.

I'm also worried because I was just dumped after seven years... and like another rejection would just suck.

The biggest and ultimate fear... Sunday, yesterday, and so far today... I haven't thought about Allie at all... like she literally was on my mind 24/7 nonstop alllllll the time... she isn't. I don't miss her right now... and so its like... if I get rejected I know I'll just be like "yeah so what, who honestly cares..." but then I won't have that other thing to think about... so where will my mind wind back up?? you guessed it...

so it's like... as long as I'm not shot down and have this to think about... I won't think about Allie...

:eek:



(and my name is basically Ted Mosbey and I overthink EVERYTHING)
 
k.hunter30

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Dukeblue1016 said:
Trust me... I keep saying that... it's like "jesus what is your problem"

ya know what it is though right.

I'm vulnerable. Completely utterly vulnerable. Not only though... emotionally I'm a wreck. I've never been single and so I don't know how to do things. I'm not ready yet to enjoy the "single life" however... it's at the point that I think it is in my absolute best interest to enjoy it. Why just sulk as someone who is dumped when I can go out, have fun, and whatever happens happens and just don't worry about it. Ya know?

So it's like... I'm worried about it cuz it's a step in the right direction for me... and that scares me.

I'm also worried because I was just dumped after seven years... and like another rejection would just suck.

The biggest and ultimate fear... Sunday, yesterday, and so far today... I haven't thought about Allie at all... like she literally was on my mind 24/7 nonstop alllllll the time... she isn't. I don't miss her right now... and so its like... if I get rejected I know I'll just be like "yeah so what, who honestly cares..." but then I won't have that other thing to think about... so where will my mind wind back up?? you guessed it...

so it's like... as long as I'm not shot down and have this to think about... I won't think about Allie...

:eek:



(and my name is basically Ted Mosbey and I overthink EVERYTHING)
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I totally see your point Joe. Rejection right now would hurt... a lot. But I guess what I'm trying to say is (and I know it's easier said than done) this is just a fun thing... don't get too caught up in it. If it doesn't work out and you get "rejected" oh well. No harm, no foul so to speak. It's just fun. But if you over analize and wrap yourself into this too much, the rejection will feel worse. Just go with the flow. Enjoy the fact that RIGHT NOW you have something/someone else to think about. But don't get too caught up in it.

If she doesn't want to hang out with you, honestly, the way things have been going for you recently... there'll be someone else to flirt with next weekend. Just take it a day at a time. Don't worry about it. That's the positive thing about being single. You don't have to WORRY all the time about making someone else happy. I know you've done that for the past seven years, but right now it's just you. Have fun.

(And I'm saying this to you Joe, because I know you're a good guy and you're not going to do something stupid to hurt a girl. I would not be giving the same pep talk to just anyone.)
 
nibblesandbits

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Ted...I mean Joe...

Just do it!!! If it works, then it works...and if it doesn't...then it wasn't supposed to happen...but if you don't try...then you'll always have the wondering and who wants to live with that?!
 
k.hunter30

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nibblesandbits said:
Oh...and I have no idea really what we're talking about...just some vague idea.

2. Hi!!! :wave:

3. I'm hungry...:lookaroun
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:wave:


To go along with your recent food kick:
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*giggles*
There's a PBR in the background
*giggles*
 
WaltzingMatilda

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Can I just say, and I know I am not as up on this as Steph and Kat, nor as close to you Joe, but maybe...just maybe...it's too soon to think about dating at all? Don't want to overstep but I have seen this happen so many many times when people come out of a long term relationship. You start dating too soon and all sorts of things go wrong, not the least of which is too strong of an attachment to someone you've just met, or talking too much about an ex when you are out on a date...not that I am suggesting you personally would do either.

Just my two cents.
 
Dukeblue1016

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k.hunter30 said:
I totally see your point Joe. Rejection right now would hurt... a lot. But I guess what I'm trying to say is (and I know it's easier said than done) this is just a fun thing... don't get too caught up in it. If it doesn't work out and you get "rejected" oh well. No harm, no foul so to speak. It's just fun. But if you over analize and wrap yourself into this too much, the rejection will feel worse. Just go with the flow. Enjoy the fact that RIGHT NOW you have something/someone else to think about. But don't get too caught up in it.

If she doesn't want to hang out with you, honestly, the way things have been going for you recently... there'll be someone else to flirt with next weekend. Just take it a day at a time. Don't worry about it. That's the positive thing about being single. You don't have to WORRY all the time about making someone else happy. I know you've done that for the past seven years, but right now it's just you. Have fun.

(And I'm saying this to you Joe, because I know you're a good guy and you're not going to do something stupid to hurt a girl. I would not be giving the same pep talk to just anyone.)
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actually to be honest.... i wouldn't care about rejection at all in the form of rejection...

it really is... over-thinking this keeps my mind occupied from thinking about the past... that's mainly it...

it's not "this girl" it's "this situation" if that makes sense?

and I'd definitely never do something to hurt some girl... never
 
k.hunter30

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WaltzingMatilda said:
Can I just say, and I know I am not as up on this as Steph and Kat, nor as close to you Joe, but maybe...just maybe...it's too soon to think about dating at all? Don't want to overstep but I have seen this happen so many many times when people come out of a long term relationship. You start dating too soon and all sorts of things go wrong, not the least of which is too strong of an attachment to someone you've just met, or talking too much about an ex when you are out on a date...not that I am suggesting you personally would do either.

Just my two cents.
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I definitely agree with the bolded statement above. And, I guess, hence my opinion on nor overanalyzing things to the point that you're too wrapped up in it.

I definitely think being cautious of a relationship with someone is a good idea. But you're not even to that step yet. You've been with someone for seven years. NEVER have you been single in your adult life. I think it's okay to "put yourself out there" and meet people. But Amy does have a good point in that you need to be cautious.

Though... less than two weeks after my ex of 4.5 years and I broke up I met DH. :shrug: You never know. But it doesn't hurt to be cautious when you get to that point.
 
nibblesandbits

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WaltzingMatilda said:
I am sure that the PBR was used for cooking purposes only...
:lookaroun
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:lookaroun


Of course...



Hi sweetie! So, you're having the 9th month "Get This Thing Out of Me" issue too? Apparently SIL isn't doing so great in her 9th month...and she was already kind of a handful. I'd hate to see what she's like right now! :lookaroun
 
Dukeblue1016

Dukeblue1016

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WaltzingMatilda said:
Can I just say, and I know I am not as up on this as Steph and Kat, nor as close to you Joe, but maybe...just maybe...it's too soon to think about dating at all? Don't want to overstep but I have seen this happen so many many times when people come out of a long term relationship. You start dating too soon and all sorts of things go wrong, not the least of which is too strong of an attachment to someone you've just met, or talking too much about an ex when you are out on a date...not that I am suggesting you personally would do either.

Just my two cents.
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No you're absolutely 100% right. In every way.

Honestly... this isn't about "dating." I would never do that to someone. It'd be unfair to them.

I could meet the most perfect girl in the world and if I tried to date her right now... it'd have a zero percent chance of working.

The situation is moderately complicated (because I made it that way because I'm dumb)

and i'm not gonna go into it on here... i feel bad the convo got this intense on here...

basically just like got some girls number, wanted me to call her sometime, I don't wanna a) lead the wrong idea, b) crash and burn, cuz we were out at a party and windex was involved, c) not call when I said I would if she actually does still want me to...

but i'm not looking for anything more than just having fun with MY FRIENDS and whatever happens happens... I'd never do anything dumb... but the fact is I AM SINGLE NOW... there is no harm in just harmless flirting and having fun... if you know what I mean because I'm not a "one night" kind of guy... even if I'd been single my whole life, I wouldn't be like that.
 

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