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Back from DC & Bad News
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TiggerBW
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disneymoc said:Well I am back at work after a week's vacation in DC. The trip was fun, but my wife miscarried on Tuesday.I was at the Smithsonian when I got a call from her from the hotel in tears. The rest of the week was very long and to be honest not that much fun as we were with another couple.
Thanks to everyone for their prayers. We're thinking about looking into adoption as this is my wife's second miscarriage.
OH my gosh! I am soooooooooooooooooooooooo sorry! I can't even imagine what you are all going through. I will definately pray for you and your wife. God always has a plan........maybe adoption is it? Who knows. I am just so terribly sorry. Please give my condolences to your wife as well.
WDWScottieBoy
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I'll be keeping you and your wife in my thoughts and prayers. Just remember, there could still be a chance for baby to come out in 9 months if you are willing to go through it again. If not, I'm very glad to hear that you're willing to adopt. Adoption is a great thing and is (sorry to bring this in here) 100% better than abortion. Keep us updated.
God Bless,
Scott
God Bless,
Scott
rosebud's mom
Active Member
My deepest, deepest sympathy to both of you. My husband and I went through 5 miscarriages before our Rosebud. We have had one more miscarriage since she was born as well. Give yourselve time to grieve before you make any decisions.
We also went through all the various infertility testing, which can be a real emotional drain as well. One thing you might want to someday consider is embryo adoption. Its substantially lower in cost than traditional adoption, and easier and quicker to achieve. I completely reccommend the Cooper Center in New Jersey. Dr. Chek will even do phone consultations for out of town patients. You can find the website by searching for Cooper Center for IVF. Without him, we would not have our little girl. Obviously your hearts have room for a child. I believe that a baby will find you.
We also went through all the various infertility testing, which can be a real emotional drain as well. One thing you might want to someday consider is embryo adoption. Its substantially lower in cost than traditional adoption, and easier and quicker to achieve. I completely reccommend the Cooper Center in New Jersey. Dr. Chek will even do phone consultations for out of town patients. You can find the website by searching for Cooper Center for IVF. Without him, we would not have our little girl. Obviously your hearts have room for a child. I believe that a baby will find you.
cindrelly31
New Member
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. 
My DH & I have been trying for over 3 years and decided a couple months ago to adopt. We are going to decide on an agency soon. When you and your wife make your final decision maybe we could PM and have another support couple to help with the waiting time. "Opening your homes and hearts to a child that needs one is as great as having your own" is what I have been told by a friend of mine who adopted after 2 very hard miscarriages (twins @ 16 weeks, sextuplets @ 23 weeks, 5 days) She is now the proud mother of a beautiful baby girl that was such a great match, you can't tell she was adopted! :animwink:
Keep your chin up and we will keep you in our prayers.
My DH & I have been trying for over 3 years and decided a couple months ago to adopt. We are going to decide on an agency soon. When you and your wife make your final decision maybe we could PM and have another support couple to help with the waiting time. "Opening your homes and hearts to a child that needs one is as great as having your own" is what I have been told by a friend of mine who adopted after 2 very hard miscarriages (twins @ 16 weeks, sextuplets @ 23 weeks, 5 days)
She is now the proud mother of a beautiful baby girl that was such a great match, you can't tell she was adopted! :animwink: Keep your chin up and we will keep you in our prayers.
tigger248
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First I want to tell you how horribly sorry I am about your loss. You must be devastated and I'm sure this has been a horrible experience. You will be great parents when the time finally comes, and it will. Just keep up the faith.
My aunt has had many miscarriages. I don't know for sure how many because I was very young and don't remember the first ones. Each one was emotionally draining because they wanted a child so badly. Then my cousin was born. She is their world. Since Carrie, she has had one more miscarriage that I know of. It was tough, but they did eventually have a healthy child. If you can take it emotionally, don't give up.
If you decide that adoption is right for you, then good luck. Adoption is a wonderful way to help parents who want children to have children and children who want parents to find parents. There are many children out there who need a loving home, which I'm sure that you and your wife would give them.
Whatever you decide to do, I wish you all the luck.
Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
My aunt has had many miscarriages. I don't know for sure how many because I was very young and don't remember the first ones. Each one was emotionally draining because they wanted a child so badly. Then my cousin was born. She is their world. Since Carrie, she has had one more miscarriage that I know of. It was tough, but they did eventually have a healthy child. If you can take it emotionally, don't give up.
If you decide that adoption is right for you, then good luck. Adoption is a wonderful way to help parents who want children to have children and children who want parents to find parents. There are many children out there who need a loving home, which I'm sure that you and your wife would give them.
Whatever you decide to do, I wish you all the luck.
Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
Maria
New Member
Me too! It requires a huge heart!Tramp said:
I am very sorry about your loss. I have friends who have had many troubles to have a baby. One of my friends spent 7 years trying to get pregnant; when she lost hope, she found out she was pregnant and now has a beautiful three year old girl. Another one of my friends had the same problem and when she decided she was goin into adoption, she got pregnant too. Another couple I know, adopted a girl and two years later, she finally got pregnant and now has 'the couple'!
As someone said, give yourself time to grieve, don´t get desperate or obsessed about it, and keep trying! Maybe you will adopt a baby and then give him/her a partner to play -and fight- with?
I wish you all the luck! :kiss:
darthdarrel
New Member
Sorry to hear about your wifes miscarriage. I have a cousin that Could not get pregnant and finally got pregnant and she miscarried 3times, she finally gave up and adopted a little boy and then a year later she got pregnant and had a little girl! 
tigsmom
Well-Known Member
Maria said:Me too! It requires a huge heart!
One of my friends spent 7 years trying to get pregnant; when she lost hope, she found out she was pregnant and now has a beautiful three year old girl. Another one of my friends had the same problem and when she decided she was goin into adoption, she got pregnant too. Another couple I know, adopted a girl and two years later, she finally got pregnant and now has 'the couple'!
That happens so often, my doctor feels thats once you resign yourself to the fact it won't happen, it does. Four years trying with my first one and one month before I was to start treatment I became pregnant. Five years trying for the second & I finally gave up, became pregnant again (and almost miscarried).
The important thing is that you are there for each other no matter what. Love and cherish any child that comes into your life.
