Any advice for a Heart Ache?

[Goofette]

For any of you out there who has gone through some type of heart ache that makes you so sad you can't hardly breathe, what advice can you give

 

[Maria]

Goofette!! Go see a doctor!! What are you doing sitting in front of your monitor? Call a doctor!

 

[Goofette]

Originally posted by Maria
Goofette!! Go see a doctor!! What are you doing sitting in front of your monitor? Call a doctor!

:lol: I didn't say it was me :lol:


.....ok, it is :animwink: The shots are doing pretty good job helping though :lookaroun Probably not the best thing, but heck, haven't had any good cuervo for awhile:sohappy:

 

[Wilt Dasney]

Short answer: Booze--crude, but effective

Slightly longer answer: Find things to take your focus off of what's eating you. You may need to seek out new hobbies, listen to different music, in some cases even change your whole lifestyle to avoid mental association with 'old ghosts.'

Meet people...this is big, especially if it's a romantic issue, which I assume, although you didn't specify. It may not sound like a good idea, but honestly, sometimes the only thing that can take your mind off a person is another person. Even if you don't meet someone else, just being around people having a good time can be infectious.

Take it one day at a time--sometimes, one minute at a time. It can be extremely difficult, but you'll emerge a stronger person when you can finally gain some distance. (This is true with any kind of heartache, romantically-induced or otherwise.)

And, if all else fails: Booze.

The Dr. Wilt Show is now off the air.

Peace.:wave:

 

[Goofette]

Originally posted by Wilt Dasney
Short answer: Booze--crude, but effective

Slightly longer answer: Find things to take your focus off of what's eating you. You may need to seek out new hobbies, listen to different music, in some cases even change your whole lifestyle to avoid mental association with 'old ghosts.'

Meet people...this is big, especially if it's a romantic issue, which I assume, although you didn't specify. It may not sound like a good idea, but honestly, sometimes the only thing that can take your mind off a person is another person. Even if you don't meet someone else, just being around people having a good time can be infectious.

Take it one day at a time--sometimes, one minute at a time. It can be extremely difficult, but you'll emerge a stronger person when you can finally gain some distance. (This is true with any kind of heartache, romantically-induced or otherwise.)

And, if all else fails: Booze.

The Dr. Wilt Show is now off the air.

Peace.:wave:

Thank you Dr. Wilt. That's actually some great advice. You're very wise for your years....been practicing long :animwink: I guess things also always look better in the morning, I'll try to remember that too (If I ever go to bed tonight) :lookaroun

 

[Erika]

Ugh-- best advice I can think of is, TURN OFF YOUR RADIO.

Nothing pours salt in a heart-wound like radio.

Think of yourself a year from now, when your life has gone on and this has become a memory. Do what you have to do to get there, but never believe that the pain will last forever.

Good luck! We've all been there...unfortunately.

 

[tybroid59]

Plan a holiday ....get a really scary book .........start taking some one elses dog out if you dont have one.......adopt a granny .........:animwink:

 

[The Mom]

I found that doing "constuctive" things helped. Plant a garden...being outdoors is therapeutic, and the hard labor of digging, hauling mulch and plants, etc will make you tired...hence easier to fall sleep.

Make something...I embroidered personalized pillowcases for all of my relatives, (then gave them for Christmas gifts) and also made quilts, bibs, wall hangings, etc for the baby I was expecting at the time. BTW...I DIDN'T know how to cross stitch or embroider when I started! This is a perfect time to learn a new skill!

Write. I wrote to the person I was missing (my husband) but you could choose an imaginary person, or go the "Dear Diary" route.

You get the idea....these projects will keep you busy, and will also add to your life in the future. They will be a physical reminder that "This too shall pass."

 

[MKCustodial]

Mom is right, you should write about it, even if you don't intend to deliver it. It's good to put things on paper, it means it's "out of your system". Also, try to relax, watch a good movie, read a good book, go out with your friends. And if you need help, come to the forums! A good laugh always help!

 

[Goofette]

Thanks everyone for the great advice. I have just come to the realization that things do happen for a reason. I've survived many other obstacles in my life, I guess this is just one that I will have to break through or go around. At times it's very difficult, but it seems the older I get the stronger I am, and the lighter the obstacles seem to get. You all have been a tremendous help to me too, with all of your great advice and funny stories. OMG, Erika, the story about your cat and husband :lol: :lol: That cheered me up.

 

[SteveUK]

I know how you feel. When you are feeling like this, everybody has great advice. Some is good, some isn't, you still feel like you can't get through, you can't see further than the next few minutes. I felt rough a couple of weeks ago when my girlfriend dumped me. I was in a bad state and didn't think I could cope, but then suddenly it was a couple of weeks later and I'm still here!
I know it's a classic cheesy line that always gets rolled out in situations like this but time really does help.
In the short term though, all you can do is keep going, keep yourself busy and don't do anything to make the situation worse. As much as I enjoy getting drunk, it does have a nasty habit of making things worse.
Hope it works out for you.

 

[MKCustodial]

Originally posted by SteveUK
I know how you feel. When you are feeling like this, everybody has great advice. Some is good, some isn't, you still feel like you can't get through, you can't see further than the next few minutes. I felt rough a couple of weeks ago when my girlfriend dumped me. I was in a bad state and didn't think I could cope, but then suddenly it was a couple of weeks later and I'm still here!
I know it's a classic cheesy line that always gets rolled out in situations like this but time really does help.
In the short term though, all you can do is keep going, keep yourself busy and don't do anything to make the situation worse. As much as I enjoy getting drunk, it does have a nasty habit of making things worse.
Hope it works out for you.

By the way, how're YOU doing?

 

[disney_nutter]

Short answer: Booze--crude, but effective

i think booze is the a good thing(but not to much).

I dont have heart ache but there someone i realy like and just cant bulid up the bottle to ask them out.

 

[SteveUK]

MK Custodial, I'm doing ok thanks. Keeping myself busy trying to not to think too much. The only problem is that we had a holiday to WDW booked together. Obviously I still want to go but it will be weird on my own.

 

[MKCustodial]

Originally posted by SteveUK
MK Custodial, I'm doing ok thanks. Keeping myself busy trying to not to think too much. The only problem is that we had a holiday to WDW booked together. Obviously I still want to go but it will be weird on my own.

Yeah, I remember that little issue. You still have time to find company, I suppose. And ueah, it is weird going on your own, but it can be fine. During my CM time I pretty much visited the parks on my own since my days-off were always different than my firends'.

 

[tmp]

TIME - it is the only true cure. Someday you will look back and wonder why you were even upset.