What in hell makes you think that people are depressed or distraught? Can you point out these posts? Because I'm not seeing them.
You certainly are projecting a lot on people who are discussing a film, however passionately. Your post after post talking about people like they are mentally ill or their lives are somehow deeply affected by this *is* coming across as very patronizing, no matter how passive-aggressively you are couching it with the "I just feel so bad for you..." stuff.
When the majority of what you have posted in regards to the film in this and other threads is about the people making the comments, and what you think they feel or why they hold the opinions they hold, and not the film itself, it is difficult to not think that you are trying to convince yourself more than anyone else.