The Chit Chat Chit Chat Thread

[Cesar R M]

Hope your new bed is helping you rest better.

I did definitively have a good nap!

Wanted more.. but then I would not sleep at night lol

 

[donaldtoo]

Had a great time tonight with the family!!!!! But, we were out much later than we thought we would be, and just got back, so no pics tonight. Will post some tomorrow...!!!
Out for now...!
Sweet Disney dreams and/or mornin' to all...!!!
See y'alllllllllll

 

[Gabe1]

Seriously??????

What is it that people believe leaf blowers just before the crack of dawn on Sunday is a neighborly thing to do?

Actually it against our ordinances for early Sunday but whatcha goin'a do about that...not like one is going to call the sheriff. 7am M-Sat is standard which I still find crazy. 8 am on a Sunday which to me is still early. Nobody want to wake up to all that, not like you can sleep through it.

 

[Gabe1]

I'm not sure...his sleeping has always been weird (he will literally fall asleep sitting up at the kitchen table - it's as if he doesn't realize when he's tired). It seems to have helped his snoring overall, but there are still days when he's so loud it would wake me.

Curious - what do you know about it changing people's personalities? It's a long story, but hubby is definitely very far from the guy that I married and it's causing countless concerns on many fronts. That your hubby looks like a corpse 4 months after surgery is VERY concerning! Mine was 43 when he had his surgery, and it wasn't a medical emergency, which really helped with his recovery. I do know that major operations have severe psychological effects and that often therapy is advised in advance, but it was never mentioned to my husband (my therapist was quite shocked). I have a friend whose husband had the same surgery as mine and he became a totally different person and left her for a younger version of her. Let's just say that my husband is in for a major wake-up call in the not-too-distant future.

The heart health issues definitely run on both sides of our family too - my grandmother died of heart failure (at around 84 years old, I think, so there's that to keep in mind too), but my FIL had a major stroke that took his speech and the mobility away from the entire right side of his body, and hubby's brother just had heart surgery during the last year. Diet and alcohol consumption played a huge role (thankfully, we're not really drinkers like our parents were/are), but my MIL literally fed them nothing but carbs and fat while hubby was growing up, and he STILL only eats a green veggie maybe twice a year if he's lucky. Meanwhile, I love veggies and will eat just about anything, but our sons' autism makes them super picky. My oldest is really good - he'll eat what I ask him to, but our youngest is a royal pain in the patoot and his diet is AWFUL. I'm hoping he improves when he gets a little older like his big brother did (he's only 6...our oldest got to be better around the age of 7 or 8). Part of why we're moving to FL in the not-too-distant future is because with our family's medical history, the weather will at least allow for us to be more active throughout the entirety of the year rather than being stuck inside for 4 months. (My oldest has cold-triggered asthma, so sledding and stuff is pretty much right out the window.)

The invincible thing...UGH. It's like my husband thinks nothing bad is going to happen ever...and here I am thinking "...what if..."

Well you asked...

Yeah I am seeing in hindsight the heart issues and the change in personalities. My hubby was a kind sweet man. I was married for 33 years and 20 of which were awesome and then the personality issues started to change. It was gradual but so were the sleep issues, the snoring, the need to prop himself up to sleep at all. The out of nowhere lashing out, short temper. So not HIM of yesteryear. It be fine for a few weeks and then the rants would surface again and really they didn't make sense and were greatly embellished. Out of nowhere was the perceived embellished slights. Everyone was like where the heck did this outburst come from. Things most men don't wig out about and go on and on about. Rational was gone. So strange and out of character. We still scratch our head about his life choices. I don't grasp that but some need that I guess. But most only dabble with the thought. Others carry it farther. I drew the line in the sand. Some are fine with all that step out thing, me not so much. It haunts forever. I was unwilling to not trust him as far as I could see him forever. Do it once IMO and likely to do it again. But now as I am seeing this sleep pattern thing play out, the rattle the house snoring airway thing, the sleep deprived, the short temper, the outbursts and rants and the ultimate heart condition beyond the known blood pressure issues it all is coming a bit more clear and the pieces of the puzzle in hindsight are clearer cause the man I married morphed into something I could have never imagined. But the lack of sleep and proper oxygen can turn anyone into a creep.

Me I have no regrets. I loved the man I married but he made some icky choices and my kids had graduated from college and I had no need to accept all that. I live in Illinois which I do not care for anymore, we are a dysfunctional state. Still the laws here protect the AARP from being put on the Curb or on Aid. After 20+ years of marriage the judgement-the majority went to me, including retirement, pension, 401Ks and in my case ESOPs. So ultimately he had his fun but it was very costly fun. The fun cost him dearly and will not end ever. And yes I do believe all of this in hindsight is a result of the crud he ate and lifestyle he kept as he aged the lead to his health issues. And no doubt in hindsight his health issues played a role in his personality change. But the line in the sand not so much. You can be struggling with health issues (unknown to others) but we all have a moral compass. If you don't listen to your moral compass you get what you deserve no matter how one tries to spin it.

Wish you luck with all this. Hope he tries to fix the health issues before it is too late. *pixie dust*

 

[Gabe1]

My Father in law has a ton of medical issues. His Cpap has not solve many but he does stop waking with that awful feeling and has slept through the night since he got it. I would definitely look into it.

Yep oxygen and sleep are vital. Lack either and it takes it toll. My Dad had a blood clot in his heart that explained a great deal but too late.
It got him. The lack of oxygen made him very squirrely. He was up and down all night long and my Mom never slept because of all that. It is rough.

 

[Go.Nijntje]

@Gabe1 I am sorry your marriage ended but it sounds as if you are doing well.

 

[Figgy1]

Well you asked...

Yeah I am seeing in hindsight the heart issues and the change in personalities. My hubby was a kind sweet man. I was married for 33 years and 20 of which were awesome and then the personality issues started to change. It was gradual but so were the sleep issues, the snoring, the need to prop himself up to sleep at all. The out of nowhere lashing out, short temper. So not HIM of yesteryear. It be fine for a few weeks and then the rants would surface again and really they didn't make sense and were greatly embellished. Out of nowhere was the perceived embellished slights. Everyone was like where the heck did this outburst come from. Things most men don't wig out about and go on and on about. Rational was gone. So strange and out of character. We still scratch our head about his life choices. I don't grasp that but some need that I guess. But most only dabble with the thought. Others carry it farther. I drew the line in the sand. Some are fine with all that step out thing, me not so much. It haunts forever. I was unwilling to not trust him as far as I could see him forever. Do it once IMO and likely to do it again. But now as I am seeing this sleep pattern thing play out, the rattle the house snoring airway thing, the sleep deprived, the short temper, the outbursts and rants and the ultimate heart condition beyond the known blood pressure issues it all is coming a bit more clear and the pieces of the puzzle in hindsight are clearer cause the man I married morphed into something I could have never imagined. But the lack of sleep and proper oxygen can turn anyone into a creep.

Me I have no regrets. I loved the man I married but he made some icky choices and my kids had graduated from college and I had no need to accept all that. I live in Illinois which I do not care for anymore, we are a dysfunctional state. Still the laws here protect the AARP from being put on the Curb or on Aid. After 20+ years of marriage the judgement-the majority went to me, including retirement, pension, 401Ks and in my case ESOPs. So ultimately he had his fun but it was very costly fun. The fun cost him dearly and will not end ever. And yes I do believe all of this in hindsight is a result of the crud he ate and lifestyle he kept as he aged the lead to his health issues. And no doubt in hindsight his health issues played a role in his personality change. But the line in the sand not so much. You can be struggling with health issues (unknown to others) but we all have a moral compass. If you don't listen to your moral compass you get what you deserve no matter how one tries to spin it.

Wish you luck with all this. Hope he tries to fix the health issues before it is too late. *pixie dust*

Keep hanging in there my friend xoxo

 

[Figgy1]

 

[DryerLintFan]

I slept all of two hours last night. My Monday has a full day of work, a retirement party, pictures with Santa, and my anniversary dinner. I don't know how I'm going to survive this, lol. I got nothing left to take over the world.

 

[Figgy1]

I slept all of two hours last night. My Monday has a full day of work, a retirement party, pictures with Santa, and my anniversary dinner. I don't know how I'm going to survive this, lol. I got nothing left to take over the world.

{{HUGS}}

 

[MinnieM123]

I slept all of two hours last night. My Monday has a full day of work, a retirement party, pictures with Santa, and my anniversary dinner. I don't know how I'm going to survive this, lol. I got nothing left to take over the world.

Oddly, I also didn't sleep well last night. Heard on the news about some oversized moon last night--maybe it was the moon that woke us up from our sleep?! (I got about 4 hours--still not looking forward to work today; it's bad enough even when I get enough sleep! )

 

[MinnieM123]

Well you asked...

Yeah I am seeing in hindsight the heart issues and the change in personalities. My hubby was a kind sweet man. I was married for 33 years and 20 of which were awesome and then the personality issues started to change. It was gradual but so were the sleep issues, the snoring, the need to prop himself up to sleep at all. The out of nowhere lashing out, short temper. So not HIM of yesteryear. It be fine for a few weeks and then the rants would surface again and really they didn't make sense and were greatly embellished. Out of nowhere was the perceived embellished slights. Everyone was like where the heck did this outburst come from. Things most men don't wig out about and go on and on about. Rational was gone. So strange and out of character. We still scratch our head about his life choices. I don't grasp that but some need that I guess. But most only dabble with the thought. Others carry it farther. I drew the line in the sand. Some are fine with all that step out thing, me not so much. It haunts forever. I was unwilling to not trust him as far as I could see him forever. Do it once IMO and likely to do it again. But now as I am seeing this sleep pattern thing play out, the rattle the house snoring airway thing, the sleep deprived, the short temper, the outbursts and rants and the ultimate heart condition beyond the known blood pressure issues it all is coming a bit more clear and the pieces of the puzzle in hindsight are clearer cause the man I married morphed into something I could have never imagined. But the lack of sleep and proper oxygen can turn anyone into a creep.

Me I have no regrets. I loved the man I married but he made some icky choices and my kids had graduated from college and I had no need to accept all that. I live in Illinois which I do not care for anymore, we are a dysfunctional state. Still the laws here protect the AARP from being put on the Curb or on Aid. After 20+ years of marriage the judgement-the majority went to me, including retirement, pension, 401Ks and in my case ESOPs. So ultimately he had his fun but it was very costly fun. The fun cost him dearly and will not end ever. And yes I do believe all of this in hindsight is a result of the crud he ate and lifestyle he kept as he aged the lead to his health issues. And no doubt in hindsight his health issues played a role in his personality change. But the line in the sand not so much. You can be struggling with health issues (unknown to others) but we all have a moral compass. If you don't listen to your moral compass you get what you deserve no matter how one tries to spin it.

Wish you luck with all this. Hope he tries to fix the health issues before it is too late. *pixie dust*

Hopefully, better days will be ahead for all.

 

[Figgy1]

Oddly, I also didn't sleep well last night. Heard on the news about some oversized moon last night--maybe it was the moon that woke us up from our sleep?! (I got about 4 hours--still not looking forward to work today; it's bad enough even when I get enough sleep! )

Sympathy like. Is work decorated for the holidays?

 

[MinnieM123]

Sympathy like. Is work decorated for the holidays?

Decorated . . . not so much. (They have so many rules about what you can't put up, that by the time you figure out what you actually can display, Christmas is already over . . . LOL . . . ). There's a few things around the hospital lobbies like wreaths, but no tree. Also, no Santa, and no Olaf.

 

[Figgy1]

Decorated . . . not so much. (They have so many rules about what you can't put up, that by the time you figure out what you actually can display, Christmas is already over . . . LOL . . . ). There's a few things around the hospital lobbies like wreaths, but no tree. Also, no Santa, and no Olaf.

Major sympathy like! No Olaf???????????????? Olaf is the only type of snow I like!

 

[Go.Nijntje]

I slept all of two hours last night. My Monday has a full day of work, a retirement party, pictures with Santa, and my anniversary dinner. I don't know how I'm going to survive this, lol. I got nothing left to take over the world.

Coffee is your friend
Good luck today!

 

[Go.Nijntje]

Major sympathy like! No Olaf???????????????? Olaf is the only type of snow I like!

I love me some Olaf

 

[Go.Nijntje]

Monday doesn't feel like Monday after working the weekend. It snowed overnight and I am pretty tired of working all the time but I got cheered up with some Mickey email this morning. It is 45 days till my first park day so Mickey mailed me to remind me of all the fun things I can already book.
Nothing I didn't know already but still fun to get.

 

[MOXOMUMD]

 

[MOXOMUMD]

21 days until Christmas!