The Chit Chat Chit Chat Thread

betty rose

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Oh No!!!! I do the @ + a name all the time to just refer to a user. I didn't know it would generate a notification. I'm a moron.
No your aren't, I didn't know one thing, except to turn on the computer. I started posting on here, and everyone understands and have been so helpful. Sometimes, I have to call hubby in to help me. We are all newbies, at first. And some of us (me, remain in pre school)!:D
 

betty rose

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I'm trying to take care of myself, but my husband creates a lot of unnecessary stress, so it's been a constant battle to not let things get to me as much. Plus, the times I've taken for myself he's accused me of not taking care of our daughter, and that's the reason why I shouldn't have joint custody. :mad:
So sorry to hear you are still going through his. He sounds very difficult, I hope you get joint custody. Will be praying for a good outcome.
 

Songbird76

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I'm trying to take care of myself, but my husband creates a lot of unnecessary stress, so it's been a constant battle to not let things get to me as much. Plus, the times I've taken for myself he's accused me of not taking care of our daughter, and that's the reason why I shouldn't have joint custody. :mad:
Yeah, I think it's harder for you because you still live in the same house. But your daughter's old enough that she doesn't need to be watched every second, right? If I remember correctly, she's a bit older than my DD, and mine is quite responsible an able to fend for herself while I take a shower, or cook dinner, or whatever. Even DS doesn't need me ALL the time and he's only 7...well....he'll be 8 in a month, but still. Kids don't need to be entertained 24/7 and they need to learn to be independent, too...is your ex a "helicopter parent"?
 

catmom46

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Yeah, I think it's harder for you because you still live in the same house. But your daughter's old enough that she doesn't need to be watched every second, right? If I remember correctly, she's a bit older than my DD, and mine is quite responsible an able to fend for herself while I take a shower, or cook dinner, or whatever. Even DS doesn't need me ALL the time and he's only 7...well....he'll be 8 in a month, but still. Kids don't need to be entertained 24/7 and they need to learn to be independent, too...is your ex a "helicopter parent"?

She's 7 as well, going to be 8 next March. But she is pretty independent, so definitely doesn't need us all the time either. To be honest, I think my husband (not yet ex - still have at least another month before divorce is finalized :depressed:) is overcompensating because our daughter is just about the only person left in his life other than his mom and a few family members. He only has one good friend right now and that friend is also my friend, and he's told me stuff my husband has said about me and the divorce, but they no longer can discuss it because they've gotten in arguments about it. That is his personality, though. If you don't agree with him, then basically you're booted out of his life. He's unable to look at his own behavior as the cause for burned bridges and ending relationships.
 

Songbird76

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That is so wonderful, what you are doing for the children's hospital. My grandson had to have eye surgery when he was three, I loved that hospital, before they took him to be sedated, they gave him a teddy bear, and pulled him around the hospital in a child's wagon. Letting him get used to the area he was going to be in. They were so kind. :)
Aw, sweet! Well, we were going to give money to a school in Zimbabwe that needs supplies, but apparently several parents refused to help/donate to the market if the money went out of the Netherlands, so instead, we asked the hospital if the children's wing needed anything. We wanted it to benefit kids so that our students can relate to the cause. And they have a wishlist and the top thing is a play station for the kids who are stuck in bed all the time. So that's what we're doing. This past week we collected soda bottles (basically like collecting pop cans in the US, for recycling) to get money for a bit of capital. Most people are donating stuff, but like...I've been asked to organize the sweet table, (I have a reputation) so I'm going to be making chocolates, cakes, cheesecake, and hundreds of cupcakes...it would cost me too much money to donate ALL of it, so they will give me some money to make up for that, but then hopefully the sales will generate much more than what they give me. But one of the dads has his own catering business, so he's going to do cooking workshops for the kids, one of the moms is a massage therapist, so she's going to sell massages, and then we've got some donations for an auction and a raffle...like, one of the school's former students is a soccer player, so he's donating a jersey or something, and the local soccer club is donating an autographed ball, and we have theater tickets, etc. It should be fun. I hope we can make enough for the playstation!
 

Songbird76

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She's 7 as well, going to be 8 next March. But she is pretty independent, so definitely doesn't need us all the time either. To be honest, I think my husband (not yet ex - still have at least another month before divorce is finalized :depressed:) is overcompensating because our daughter is just about the only person left in his life other than his mom and a few family members. He only has one good friend right now and that friend is also my friend, and he's told me stuff my husband has said about me and the divorce, but they no longer can discuss it because they've gotten in arguments about it. That is his personality, though. If you don't agree with him, then basically you're booted out of his life. He's unable to look at his own behavior as the cause for burned bridges and ending relationships.
Sympathy like..I think that's a pretty common thing. When I called off my wedding to my ex, I told him that I wasn't happy and his response was "But I'M happy...why can't you just be happy that I'M happy. " like it didn't matter how I felt as long as he had what he needed, and he couldn't see that that was selfish or wrong, or that obviously he didn't love me or he would have been upset that he wasn't meeting my needs. I think it's hard to see it from the inside...you're too close to it. I was guilty of that a bit myself, and now that it's been YEARS and I'm happily married to someone else, I can see all the mistakes I made...I'm not so close to it anymore, so I see it clearly...I hope my ex does, too. And maybe after a while, when you aren't so angry at each other, you'll both be able to look at it differently.
 

donaldtoo

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I'm not a fan of any gamey meat. I don't think squirrel tastes at all like chicken, Mom and Dad liked to hunt. Mom tried to pass off squirrel as chicken it was super yucky!

Hahaaa...!
With mom and pop being raised on farms we ate lots of fun stuff...squirrel, rabbit, bullfrog, etc..
I hafta' say I liked it...! :hungry:
But, then again, I'm sometimes crazier than a poophouse rat...!!! :joyfull: :)
 

catmom46

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Sympathy like..I think that's a pretty common thing. When I called off my wedding to my ex, I told him that I wasn't happy and his response was "But I'M happy...why can't you just be happy that I'M happy. " like it didn't matter how I felt as long as he had what he needed, and he couldn't see that that was selfish or wrong, or that obviously he didn't love me or he would have been upset that he wasn't meeting my needs. I think it's hard to see it from the inside...you're too close to it. I was guilty of that a bit myself, and now that it's been YEARS and I'm happily married to someone else, I can see all the mistakes I made...I'm not so close to it anymore, so I see it clearly...I hope my ex does, too. And maybe after a while, when you aren't so angry at each other, you'll both be able to look at it differently.

I'm actually not that angry about the marriage so much because I know I tried my best to be the person he wanted me to be, but he literally could not demonstrate his love for me the way I needed. Have you heard of Love Languages? Basically, each person has a primary love language that must be demonstrated in order to feel loved. We obviously have very different languages, but while I made the effort to do what he needed, he never did it for me. He kept saying since his love language was this, that's all that mattered (again similar to your ex). And the reason why I know it's not just me is because he has had this problem with every single person in his life. So, while I know my anger will eventually fade, my perspective of him will most likely not change unless he does, which is not likely.
 

Mr Ferret 75

Thank you sir. You were an inspiration.
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Welcome @Sabrina D ! I notice that no one has warned you not to let @MR FERRET out of his cage unless absolutely necessary. Also, please make sure snacks are Ferret appropriate as the wrong thing can be dangerous to everyone. Enjoy it here in our little (sometimes crazy- in the best possible way, of course) family!
i'm suprised @figmentfan423 hasn't already gone through the warnings ;)
 

MinnieM123

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Apparently, the new coywolves are flourishing. Definitely one you don't want to meet. A cross between a wolf and a coyote.

coywolf.jpg

I've also read about these critters--scary. I don't know how prevalent they are in my area, though. There might not be any yet. We do have wolves and coyotes though. I always think about them when I'm walking the back woods in the conservation area near me. I avoid dust and dawn, because that's when those animals are most active.
 

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