How do you handle the nonbelievers?

Bethypoo

Bethypoo

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Michelle said:
I agree that you can't convince someone to like it, but what if they did previously? I do go by myself, and yes, it's great to do, although a bit lonely. And it attracts negative attention. I've also taken one of the kids a few times. We're doing a family trip for the first time in 3 years this summer and I'm so hoping my husband will change his mind...my son with autism really enjoys the parks, we've tried non-Disney vacations and he is so much more anxious and frequently non-cooperative. He's been to WDW since he was a baby.
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I've been to Disney solo several times and not once have I attracted "negative attention". If anything I have enjoyed meeting great people from all over the world. Evidently everyone has different experiences and maybe your husband has not seen the magic. Perhaps one day he will. Don't give up.
 
Figgy1

Figgy1

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I'm the Disney nut in my family and I realize people either get it or they don't. But I get really mad when people say why don't you go other places with your kids. We do but I have a ds with autism and our Disney vacation is one where he comes alive and does better in social situations. So no I'm not going to spend 2 weeks on a beach any time soon!!!!!!!!!! My whole family would be miserable!
 
C&D

C&D

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Sometimes it is the over exuberance of the "Disney Fan" that is off-putting; pushy people (no matter what their purview) increases my resistance (to acceptance) just for spite. I don't intrude (with Disney facts/observations/opinions) unless asked.
 
Disvillain63

Disvillain63

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I was the only Disney fan in our family and then we went to Disney with our first child and then the second...well, we all became fans. Then DS became a college student and wasn't a fan. We continued the trips w/o him. Now, DS has his own family and is a complete fan again...through a child's eyes. DD is going through a point in her life that she needs to try something else. Maybe one day, she'll be a fan again...maybe she won't. DH and I continue to go with or without them. Our trips are planned around things we enjoy...Spring Training, Flower and Garden, Food and Wine.

This doesn't mean that it's only Disney. Although we manage to go at least once/year to WDW or DL, we have also been on many other trips...beaches, amusement parks in multiple states, historical landmarks, overseas, etc... There are so many things to enjoy in the United States and abroad. Each family has to figure out what works best for them. We have some friends (a husband and wife) who take separate vacations every year. It works for them, but we can't see it working for us...to each his/her own.
 
Monkee Girl

Monkee Girl

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I think it is just the case of "we have been going to Disney for 14 years, I want something else!" syndrome. Look, I am a Disney fan and I am lucky enough to have a cousin and her daughter who love it as much as me and we think of no other vacations at the moment. But a growing family changes and you have to learn to compromise. I am sure the guy is thinking..."14 years....ok, my turn, go to Hawaii! and then when it is your turn again you go straight back to Disney." It's just the way people are. Even if you haven't vacationed in 3 years, the idea of going back to the same place is annoying if you don't want to go. I really suggest choosing somewhere else that appeals to everyone.

Have you asked the kids where they want to go? How about ask the hubby where he wants to go (at least to get an idea of where his mind is at). What about compromising? Have you thought about going to Disney Land/California? He might like the California trip (whine vinyards, Hollywood, whatever they show you in Soarin'......sorry, never been there so I don't know, lol) and you could still stop at Disney on the way in or out of the state. What about another theme park other than Disney? (Yea, I hated saying it, too lol) What about a more rounded Florida trip? Gator land? Sea World? Golfing? Daytona Beach?

As Davy Jones once said: It's a little bit me, and it's a little bit you...

Either way, I hope you guys are able to figure it out. I don't think the hubby hates Disney, he's just tired of it and I believe a few trips non Disney would put his mind at ease. And if it doesn't, then you can say that after so many trips, it really is your turn and he will just have to suck it up and be a man :D
 
ddbowdoin

ddbowdoin

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I basically learned one thing after my trip in March, I can basically only go with nuts like me. Luckily my wife is just as bad as I am.

We went down with another couple, which was nice as we shared a room and it helped cut down the cost of the room. It basically made it a lot easier to stay in a deluxe resort. Unfortunately it all kind of ended there. We had a great time but they hadn't been to Disney in 8 years so it was really ALL about E ticket attractions. "Wait, 25 minutes for Pooh? Really... I'd rather wait for Splash" was kind of the theme for the week. DW and I have no problem sitting on a bench, listening to the sounds, checking out the small nuances of architectural details etc.

But that was our 2nd trip of the year, we just approach it differently than people who only make the trip once a decade.

So short answer; I don't.
 
diznyboyz

diznyboyz

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Michelle said:
I agree that you can't convince someone to like it, but what if they did previously? I do go by myself, and yes, it's great to do, although a bit lonely. And it attracts negative attention. I've also taken one of the kids a few times. We're doing a family trip for the first time in 3 years this summer and I'm so hoping my husband will change his mind...my son with autism really enjoys the parks, we've tried non-Disney vacations and he is so much more anxious and frequently non-cooperative. He's been to WDW since he was a baby.
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My 16 year old son is autistic also. He is the main reason that we went the first couple of years. Now that I am obsessed with Disney we will go as long as my three boys want to go. People do ask why we go every year. Well my answer is the same as a post in another thread.... some have fancy cars, some have large homes, we have Disney. It does not bother me that people know we love Disney. When at Disney, you get to bond with your family and make new memories and forget the everyday things you worry about for the short amount of time while at Disney.
 
zurgandfriend

zurgandfriend

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The nonbelievers don’t bother me it’s the belligerent nonbelievers I have trouble with. I have a co-worker that always wants to debate with me why I take my vacations at WDW. As I have stated in the past he will argue with me concerning the cost of a Disney vacation and don’t I have “better’ things to do with my money and isn’t it the same thing every trip? This is the same guy who has season tickets to the Patriots. I attempt to point out the cost of the games he is paying to see along with parking, beer snacks etc. more than equal a Disney vacation. I also point out that the games are shown of TV and can be viewed for free from the comfort of his own home. He always says “it’s not the same” and “you just don’t get it” and I always say “neither do you.”
 
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DisneyDebNJ

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I think we ALL run into people who just don't get it. As so many other posters stated, you can't push it (think about it, THEIR loss LOL) A week doesn't go by where I don't hear "don't you get sick of Disney????" Nope, I sure don't. LOL My adult son and husband (although my husband belly aches about it during the planning stages) always have a great time. I try not to discuss my Disney vacations with non believers as much as possible. Nothing beats wdwmagic, when it comes to being able to express my *inner* Disney :)
 
Poofiesdream

Poofiesdream

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I love Disney! When planning a trip there my husband wants nothing to do with it. He could care less that we are going. He goes for me. He will tell you that he would never choose to go there, but he will also tell you when he gets there he does have a good time! I try to plan things I know he will enjoy and lots of rest time not just running here and there. That's why he keeps going back with me. We go a few times a year for a week at a time being we live only 3 hours away.
 
George

George

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Water boarding/electroshock therapy followed by positive reinforcement (think peanut butter cups) while watching one of the Disney vacation DVD's that features the 4 different people (you know, the ones with Dave, "the bench guy"). The new videos aren't near as effective.
 
coleandrachel

coleandrachel

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You really have to think about the kids first IMO. You have the rest of your lives once they're out of the house to do whatever and go where ever you want. At least that's how my wife and I think of it. There are a ton of other places we would LOVE to go, but we just recently decided that we would continue to go to WDW until our daughter (4) is tired of going. But we are also ok with that because we love it at WDW too! My wife actually got me hooked on it and now it's all I think about. I have Disney tattoos, listen to Disney music at work and constantly price vacations at various times throughout the year. I actually enjoy it when people look at me weird because I know that they just don't understand how magical it really is. Fortunately though, I have two or three women that I work with that are Disney freaks too, so it's all good :) I hope everything works out for you. I personally couldn't see myself doing any vacation without my wife, whether I liked what we were doing or not.
 
ddbowdoin

ddbowdoin

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coleandrachel said:
You really have to think about the kids first IMO. You have the rest of your lives once they're out of the house to do whatever and go where ever you want. At least that's how my wife and I think of it. There are a ton of other places we would LOVE to go, but we just recently decided that we would continue to go to WDW until our daughter (4) is tired of going. But we are also ok with that because we love it at WDW too! My wife actually got me hooked on it and now it's all I think about. I have Disney tattoos, listen to Disney music at work and constantly price vacations at various times throughout the year. I actually enjoy it when people look at me weird because I know that they just don't understand how magical it really is. Fortunately though, I have two or three women that I work with that are Disney freaks too, so it's all good :) I hope everything works out for you. I personally couldn't see myself doing any vacation without my wife, whether I liked what we were doing or not.
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I am actually pricing out a package for October for the unofficial Disney Magic Photo week. It will be the 1st time I've ever traveled alone. It's a little tough because the wife and I are best friends and the perfect travel companions.

BUT... this trip is something I am really looking forward to. I used to be a full time professional photographer but have since scaled back my operations to the point where I only shoot personal work and sell prints to some local galleries when I need to fund a certain project. With that in mind, I always have a camera in the car and am always shooting, spending time in my darkroom, printing work, and obsessing over crap my wife a.) knows nothing about, b.) doesn't care for. So when we go to Disney she gets a little annoyed when my camera is out so we've had chats where WDW is vacation and our time, not "me" time. SO when the chance came up for a photo specific meet up over a week period I was instantly interested and she gave me the green light.
 
Violet

Violet

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Not sure about this situation, but in general, I think it's important to find out why the person doesn't like WDW, especially if that person is your spouse :)

One thing to think about is how you like to tour versus the other person. If you are a go-go-go person, getting up for rope drop every morning and running with your spreadsheet and the other person likes to relax and have a drink by the pool, there might be conflicts. For example, I wouldn't like Disney if my DH was like that. I'm a more casual visitor and I really enjoy spending time at the resorts as well.

I think that with the amount of planning that people do for WDW, along with wanting to get their money's worth, people forget that you can also relax there (and do lots of other things other than parks touring!). Sometimes it's a personality conflict more than a WDW conflict.

Again, not saying that is what is going on here, just in general.
 

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