How do you handle the nonbelievers?

[bethymouse]

I am the only true Disney fan in my family. But, because I usually come up w/ good reasons to go every year, hubby goes along w/ it. My boys do love WDW still- Thank God! My hubby said he was getting "bored" w/ WDW, but I asked him if he had any better ideas...crickets...

 

[Monkee Girl]

Oh, yes, we've had this conversation several times. I told him to come up with an itinerary if he wants to be in charge of a trip, but I doubt anything will come of it. He is 100% focused on his job. We'll just wait and see, I guess. I'm happy to help once I see what he can come up with on his own, of course. I've had no complaints until now, I've always been the one to do the planning since I have the time to do it and he doesn't. Finalizing plans has always been a joint decision, he always has final say. I've enjoyed planning vacations, I've had multiple people tell me I should lead tour groups in Europe (having been on European tours with them) and be a Disney travel agent, so it's fair to say that I have some talent with it. I'm a big history buff and love to travel and share my enthusiasm!

And yes, I have 3 reservations for meals for the two of us at AKL. For the first time, we are staying at AKL (ouch!) specifically to take advantage of being able to leave the boys in the room while we have some time together...a BIG step!

I know how expensive that sounds now but I think, in the long run, it will be a benefit. It may be a good choice (along with the Wilderness...or even the Polynesian) for your husband. The outdoors, natural environment might appeal to him. I just think he wants something different and if you show him how Disney can be different, you might get the spark back into him. Perhaps look into some things you haven't done before that is less disney parks.

Animal Kingdom hiking tour
Other AKL activities?
The Polynesian has Surrey bikes you can ride around.
Have you been to the Poly? Maybe try the luau
Golfing
Don't they have para-sailing at the Contemporary?

I think once he gets there, he will have a great time. It's just the initial thought of going again.

Good luck!

 

[Disvillain63]

I hate it when they say that! I mean, we do go other places since my younger brother with autism can handle it, but he would be so upset if we didn't go on our usual Disney vacation. He needs a pattern in his life, and that is one of the few things that is stable. Plus, he loves it. He looks up Youtube videos when he gets home on Disney rides.

I teach reading to children with autism, and they're not classified as special education since they're only restriction is autism. The main thing that I have to do is be very upfront with them about any changes...including my possible absence from school and them having a sub and/or days that I am not picking them up due to things such as testing or pep rallies. They can usually handle the change if they know there will be change. I still try to stop by and see them if I'm not pulling them out of class that day. Patterns and stability are important for their peace of mind and comfort.

 

[StarWarsGirl]

I teach reading to children with autism, and they're not classified as special education since they're only restriction is autism. The main thing that I have to do is be very upfront with them about any changes...including my possible absence from school and them having a sub and/or days that I am not picking them up due to things such as testing or pep rallies. They can usually handle the change if they know there will be change. I still try to stop by and see them if I'm not pulling them out of class that day. Patterns and stability are important for their peace of mind and comfort.

That's what we find with my brother. He'll get upset if his teacher is absent without warning, and we usually like to say to him, "This is how it's going to go..." Stability is the biggest thing for them. I completely agree with you. Even sometimes when warned, though, he can't handle the change. I'm sort of worried about him because he's going to middle school next year, and I know since I'm going to college next year that even though I'm staying home, my anxiety level is through the roof, so his must be too even more so.

Interesting. He's classified as special education even though all he has is autism. He has trouble communicating verbally though and he needs help if put in a regular classroom (which he's in for science and social studies) and he's also two grade levels behind in math and three behind in reading, so that probably has something to do with it. The plan is for him to be in high school until he's 21 and just keep moving along with his grade level until he absolutely can't anymore since maturity wise he's only a little lower than they are (thankfully).

How old are the kids that you work with?

 

[Disvillain63]

That's what we find with my brother. He'll get upset if his teacher is absent without warning, and we usually like to say to him, "This is how it's going to go..." Stability is the biggest thing for them. I completely agree with you. Even sometimes when warned, though, he can't handle the change. I'm sort of worried about him because he's going to middle school next year, and I know since I'm going to college next year that even though I'm staying home, my anxiety level is through the roof, so his must be too even more so.

Interesting. He's classified as special education even though all he has is autism. He has trouble communicating verbally though and he needs help if put in a regular classroom (which he's in for science and social studies) and he's also two grade levels behind in math and three behind in reading, so that probably has something to do with it. The plan is for him to be in high school until he's 21 and just keep moving along with his grade level until he absolutely can't anymore since maturity wise he's only a little lower than they are (thankfully).

How old are the kids that you work with?

My kids are grade-level but struggling readers. Some may, eventually, be classified as special education-other health impairment (2nd grade at the moment), but some of them have milder cases of autism that really effect their socialization more than their academics.

 

[StarWarsGirl]

My kids are grade-level but struggling readers. Some may, eventually, be classified as special education-other health impairment (2nd grade at the moment), but some of them have milder cases of autism that really effect their socialization more than their academics.

Nice.

 

[minniemickeyfan]

I usually just say, "That's okay..Disney's not for everyone, but we love it!"

 

[Animaniac93-98]

I throw Dole Whip on them while shouting "the power of Walt compels you!".

If it doesn't work, it at least makes them delicious.

 

[lego606]

I am the only true Disney fan in my family. But, because I usually come up w/ good reasons to go every year, hubby goes along w/ it. My boys do love WDW still- Thank God! My hubby said he was getting "bored" w/ WDW, but I asked him if he had any better ideas...crickets...

*coughdisneylandcough* huh who said that amazing idea

 

[bethymouse]

*coughdisneylandcough* huh who said that amazing idea

We'd actually love to visit DL, but the flights are so expensive, and it's actually just as much to save up for as WDW if not more. Hope to get there some day though.

 

[NeedMoreMickey]

First I married him and now I leave him home and have a good time without him.

 

[JIMINYCR]

First I married him and now I leave him home and have a good time without him.

What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility.
George Levinger

Just be sure to bring him back a souvenir he likes Or at least some Disney treats.

 

[luv]

I throw Dole Whip on them while shouting "the power of Walt compels you!".

If it doesn't work, it at least makes them delicious.

OMG, that was funny!!

 

[Prince-1]

Don't sweat it. You are never going to change their minds.

 

[tissandtully]

Who cares what other people think? Words to live by.

 

[Darth Tater]

We'd actually love to visit DL, but the flights are so expensive

The rising cost of flying is what keeps us from visiting DL as well. We've talked about it many times; seeing Cars Land at DCA, and all the other changes. But airline prices put a blockade on those plans.

 

[Hot Lava]

What do I do? I hang out here! No one I know loves any aspect of Disney (such as movies) they way I do. Why would I even bother to convince anyone? I come here and get it all out!

 

[mrdisman]

I'm the Disney nut in my family and I realize people either get it or they don't. But I get really mad when people say why don't you go other places with your kids. We do but I have a ds with autism and our Disney vacation is one where he comes alive and does better in social situations. So no I'm not going to spend 2 weeks on a beach any time soon!!!!!!!!!! My whole family would be miserable!

Nut...well you got that right

 

[mrdisman]

I've been to Disney solo several times and not once have I attracted "negative attention". If anything I have enjoyed meeting great people from all over the world. Evidently everyone has different experiences and maybe your husband has not seen the magic. Perhaps one day he will. Don't give up.

Did you have your angry face on?

 

[Bethypoo]

Did you have your angry face on?

Always.