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[HouCuseChickie]

Yeah and I honestly tried to sound like I wasn't a scold, I was trying to get someone to look it up--either my brother or her. Maybe I should not have said anything, but we know now there is no known amount of alcohol that is safe to drink during pregnancy. My brother is an absolute stoner, too. I do worry about my niece's future with the both of them as her parents. I am hoping they see that having a kid means recognizing something larger than themselves. I mean, they seem like loving parents. My brother is always sending me photos and videos and they seem happy.

This Gf seems much nicer than the last one. She was a professional dominatrix and she sounded abusive. Not everyone likes it when you bring your work home.

It's interesting because it reminds me of a girl I knew back in my symphony days. She was dealing with a major case of nerves and anxiety later on in her pregnancy. There was nothing safe that the dr could prescribe that was effective, so her physician allowed her 1 beer or glass of white wine a few times a week during her third trimester. The difference, aside from being physician approved, is that she got out ahead of it and told everyone exactly what was going on...even going as far as confessing to the potential risks and guilt she felt.

I can understand why you'd worry. It reminds me a bit of my BIL. He and his wife are total stoners and he also drinks heavily. We all worried when we found out my SIL was expecting. I guess at least this GF is not a dom. I would have any number of concerns with that one.

 

[HouCuseChickie]

Hello-

I've been doing workouts with olympic lifts with a mix of cardio and regular strength training. The workout I did this AM was quite possibly the hardest workout I've ever done. But I loved it.

We were supposed to go out tonight, but I am not feeling it. I'm just getting carry outs. While I am feeling totally over my head cold thing, my sinuses are sore and they feel badly today. Maybe it's the change in weather that's coming, maybe it's poor sinus drainage from the cold, but my upper teeth and cheek are feeling sore. This started a couple of hours ago. I cancelled my reservations. I made a cake for today on Sunday and I frosted it today. It looks like a 3rd grader did it and I don't care. I had nowhere to let the crumb coat get firm, so I just went ahead and did it all. It looks like rubbish and I walked away. lol. I am too tired to play with a cake today. I have prohibited my husband and son from taking photos of it.

I booked this crazy vacation package deal at Costco Travel. It's a week at the Arizona Biltmore. It comes with a room upgrade, $100/day resort credit, a car and waived resort and parking fees. It is under $1500. It's in August, that's why it's so cheap. But I like how empty the pools are that time of year. It's really difficult to get a chair in March. lol Anyway, it's a back up resort. We're waiting to see if our preferred resort will have deals at Costco. They usually do, but JIC. Who knows if my husband will even have a job by then, but I staked my claim in case he does. lol

My sinuses behave like that with weather changes...especially ones where there's a significant shift in barometric pressure. I can understand why you'd want to keep it a low key evening. Don't be too hard on yourself with the cake. Just get some rest.

Sounds like a phenomenal vacation deal! We used to look for similar summer deals for Vegas. People avoid the desert in the summer, which leads to great pricing and extra perks. I need to remember this for when we can resume personal travel (vs. softball "vacations").

 

[HouCuseChickie]

Happy Friday!

Walking is still consistent but I changed up my weekday route about 2 weeks ago (thanks to a mud situation) that actually gives me better incline/hill work. I can feel and see the difference already in my hamstrings, glutes, and hips, so I guess the mud situation was sort of a blessing. In a nutshell, they were doing construction near a portion of my previously preferred route and when it rains, the constant layer of dirt turns into the mud equivalent of about 1/4 mile of black ice. I'm also happy to report that the rain gear (a sport waterproof windbreaker and water resistant hiking pants) have also made walks on rainy mornings a dry and pleasant experience. Gym last night was standard leg night and elliptical, but the night before was unconventional day. After the elliptical, I did a series of leg exercises that focus on both the lower body muscle groups as well as flexibility and range of motion. Some of the leg swings I was doing end up looking like hinged high kicks from the front and arabesques from the back. Let's just say some of the dancing I've been doing at my desk has done wonders to restore my flexibility. I remember looking up mid set and seeing someone with their jaw on the floor. I also caught someone staring who kept immediately snapping their head away each time I caught them. Tonight is arm day. I had considered waiting until next week to take a break day because the OH drive kept me from working out on Monday, but that was not my original plan and it feels a bit like unnecessary punishment that could feed burnout if I don't go with tomorrow as my intended break day. I'll still walk, but I think I just stick to my original plan and give myself the grace I deserve.

Looking forward to a weekend without travel. Tomorrow, I agreed to help out the school choir and serve as photographer in their pancakes with Santa event. After that, we will finally decorate the interior of this house. Speaking of...I think someone tried to sabotage my outside display for judging. I came out last night and 1/4 of it was dark. I thought maybe a string of lights had shorted out or a connection was loose. It was plausible since animals keep getting into the strings of lights on the trees. No, there were four separate plugs that were completely unplugged. That can't be a coincidence. Of course, I do not have a camera on that part of the yard and I don't want to shift the front one because I'd rather get alerts for delivery people to help discourage porch pirates.

 

[Songbird76]

I tried to couch the statement by sounding like I wasn't sure, because I didn't want to get her defensive. I was hoping someone would open up their phone and google, because France is now aligned with the US about drinking during pregnancy. My husband thought it was telling that my brother said that about drinking while pregnant in France unprompted, like maybe this wasn't the first time something like this had happened. When I was in England back in Sept, I got a text with some drama involving my brother and his GF, my husband called my mother. She told my husband the GF has a drinking problem. My mother thinks anyone who has more than one drink every 5 years is a raging alcoholic, so I take her 'assessment' with a grain of salt. But there might be a kernel of truth in there.

I think I remember you talking about your BIL's wife. If I am visiting someone with a newborn, I offer to watch the baby so the mom can get a cat nap in. My MIL came to visit us about 2 weeks after my son was born. I had postpartum depression, so I felt like I was drowning. I was hoping for more help than I got. She treated the trip like a vacation. She made breakfast for herself without offering me even a bowl of cereal. Then, she walked to the L station and went into the Loop to go to the Art Institute and do some shopping. She did this everyday. Obviously, she can do that, but it felt like I was a hotel. I didn't expect her to be in my apartment with me all day, everyday. The thing that made me the angriest was she scolded me for asking my husband to get the baby for me in the middle of the night. I had a really rough birth with forceps and I was in pain for a long time afterwards. I had enough. I called my grandmother and she picked my son and me up and I stayed with her. I was just struggling to keep myself together and the last thing I needed was a lecture about waking up my husband.

My husband didn't meet his niece and nephews until they were a few years old, too. I think that's common when your family is half way across the globe. lol

Wow, yeah, that does sound like she has an alcohol problem, though...if she drank a whole bottle of wine minus one glass. Once in a while, I'm sure it's fine. But when you're pregnant, it's absolutely not. Sad for the baby to come into that situation.

Yeah, my ex-SIL is a real piece of work. She really liked to be the center of attention and she wanted control over the whole situation. I think she really didn't want to come to my wedding because it wouldn't be about her and she wouldn't be able to control it. I think September 11th just made a nice excuse for her to skip it and keep my BIL away, too. If she could have kept my MIL and FIL away, she would have, I'm sure. I think she was kind of jealous. She was never an academic person and she never really had to work. She got disability because of her mental health issues, so she had an income without working. And I think disability is absolutely an important social safety net and I don't begrudge her that...she really did have mental health problems and was on medication. But she MILKED it. My BIL worked full time, came home and made dinner (and he can't really cook, but she just wouldn't.) and as soon as he came home she passed the baby off to him. She ALWAYS had a headache, or was so tired, etc. Well yeah...babies are a lot of work. But mostly, she would go to her parents house and let her parents take care of my nephew during the day, and then she'd pass him to my BIL as soon as he got home. When they got divorced, she would drop my nephew off at her parents' house and leave, and they would call my BIL and ask if he wanted to come spend time with him, after work and they'd make dinner for him and everything. He's still really close with her parents. That's very telling to me. But she wouldn't really let anyone else babysit. She would never have handed her baby over to me so she could sleep. I arranged within my friend group to take turns babysitting one of our friend's babies once a week because she had Post Partum, but my ex-SIL would never have let me. I got the impression that she just didn't like me. I was a college graduate, and when I moved over here, I learned Dutch as soon as I could, got a job, and I think she kind of felt like I made her look bad? She wasn't confident in her English, she didn't have a job or a college education, and she was known for being kind of a diva and hard to please, where I was a people pleaser and people usually liked me. (Not when I was younger, but as an adult) She never SAID she didn't like me...it's just the feeling I got. Like, we invited them to go out to a casino for a night out and she said no, that didn't sound fun. She wasn't really into casinos, etc. But then a week later, SHE invited some friends of theirs to go out to the casino for a night out. She just hadn't wanted to go with ME. And when I first moved to the Netherlands, my birthday was only a month later. I didn't want to celebrate...my mom had recently passed, my dog had been put down, and I had given up everything and moved across the world to a country where I didn't speak the language and knew no one outside of my husband's family. My in-laws insisted I had to at least have a dinner and invite BIL and his GF. (They weren't married yet) Her aunt's birthday was the day before mine, so she said she couldn't come. So my MIL asked HER when a good time for my party would be, when they could make it. THEY chose the day and time, but then showed up 45 minutes late and didn't stay for the dinner, which was the celebration. They came for less than an hour and then said they had to go because they had planned to go to the movies with her brother, and it had been planned for months. First, you don't even know what's playing at what time months in advance, so you were just going to show up and pick something that happened to be playing at that time? And second, THEY picked the date...if they already had plans, why say they could come that day? She just couldn't stand it that it was about me. Anyway....

I'm so sorry you got a guilt trip about waking your husband. She does know it's HIS kid, too, right? You didn't get pregnant by yourself. Why SHOULDN'T he take turns with the night time stuff? My husband used to pretend to sleep through the baby crying and me shaking him so I would have to get up every time. He did help sometimes, but if he was tired, he'd just pretend to sleep. I could hear his breathing change, so I knew he was awake, but he would lie there like a log. And that's when jerk mode started. It was when A was a baby. He used to wake up really early every day...4:30, 5:00am and wouldn't go back to sleep. So DH would take turns on weekends getting up with him. Obviously I got up with him during the week because DH had to go to work, but on the weekend, I wanted a day to sleep in, so we took turns. Whoever got to sleep in was supposed to come relieve the other when they woke up. But I noticed that whenever it was MY turn to sleep in, I was making sure I came downstairs by around 9, even if I hadn't really gotten much sleep, so he could go take a nap. But when it was MY turn to sleep in, it would be 10, 10:30 and I'd be falling asleep sitting up and I'd have to go up to get him to come take over so I could get sleep and I'd find him playing on the computer instead of sleeping. And then he'd be an absolute jerk to me all day like he was the one who was short on sleep. I noticed a pattern that his jerk mode always seemed to be on days when he got to sleep in and do his own thing, like he really resented having to eventually take a turn with the kids. And it was like that on vacation, too. Whenever I took the kids and let him have his own time without us, he would be grouchy and nasty with me whenever we were together, like at meals and whatnot. But he never took a turn with the kids so -I- could have down time alone. We were either together as a family, or I was with the kids and he was alone doing his own thing, and resentful of having to come back and spend time with the family.

 

[Songbird76]

Oh, no. It sounds like you might have overdone it. Are you in any pain? Can you put your feet up?

I'm pretty sure I overdid it. My left ankle is still really hurting, and it's Saturday. Last night I kept getting shooting pains in it. It woke me up from a dead sleep. But I don't have to work today or tomorrow, so I plan to rest and take it easy.

 

[Songbird76]

I'm so sorry your ankles didn't respond well to the zoo. I guess more rest is in order. Have they done any secondary X-Rays since the initial? I recall from Kendall's broken ankle, sometimes it takes some time for a break to show. Just thinking with the swelling it might be worth another look.

Nope, they told me only to call back if I was still in pain after two months. It's only been one.

 

[Songbird76]

Happy Friday!

Walking is still consistent but I changed up my weekday route about 2 weeks ago (thanks to a mud situation) that actually gives me better incline/hill work. I can feel and see the difference already in my hamstrings, glutes, and hips, so I guess the mud situation was sort of a blessing. In a nutshell, they were doing construction near a portion of my previously preferred route and when it rains, the constant layer of dirt turns into the mud equivalent of about 1/4 mile of black ice. I'm also happy to report that the rain gear (a sport waterproof windbreaker and water resistant hiking pants) have also made walks on rainy mornings a dry and pleasant experience. Gym last night was standard leg night and elliptical, but the night before was unconventional day. After the elliptical, I did a series of leg exercises that focus on both the lower body muscle groups as well as flexibility and range of motion. Some of the leg swings I was doing end up looking like hinged high kicks from the front and arabesques from the back. Let's just say some of the dancing I've been doing at my desk has done wonders to restore my flexibility. I remember looking up mid set and seeing someone with their jaw on the floor. I also caught someone staring who kept immediately snapping their head away each time I caught them. Tonight is arm day. I had considered waiting until next week to take a break day because the OH drive kept me from working out on Monday, but that was not my original plan and it feels a bit like unnecessary punishment that could feed burnout if I don't go with tomorrow as my intended break day. I'll still walk, but I think I just stick to my original plan and give myself the grace I deserve.

Looking forward to a weekend without travel. Tomorrow, I agreed to help out the school choir and serve as photographer in their pancakes with Santa event. After that, we will finally decorate the interior of this house. Speaking of...I think someone tried to sabotage my outside display for judging. I came out last night and 1/4 of it was dark. I thought maybe a string of lights had shorted out or a connection was loose. It was plausible since animals keep getting into the strings of lights on the trees. No, there were four separate plugs that were completely unplugged. That can't be a coincidence. Of course, I do not have a camera on that part of the yard and I don't want to shift the front one because I'd rather get alerts for delivery people to help discourage porch pirates.

Do you know when the judging is? Can you go out and make sure it's all in working order and maybe keep an eye on it just before the judging happens? Or was it happening at the time you found the unplugged displays? There are no contests like that here. E did a great job of decorating our front window this year, and not many people here decorate, so even our muted window display would probably at least win an honorable mention, but we have nothing outside except a few snowman solar lights, only 2 of which seem to work. One's hat disappeared for 24 hours, then mysteriously reappeared and we checked our doorbell camera, but it didn't catch anything. So strange.