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Sans Souci

Sans Souci

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StarWarsGirl said:
You can probably call a vet and let them know the situation. As long as they know what they're dealing with ahead of time, they can deal with it. Plenty of cats who are completely docile at other times are wild at the vet; vets are used to it.

Heck, mine has it on file for Jasmine (pictured) to have multiple vet techs because she's a strong girl. I took her in one time for an ear infection, and I heard her screaming in the back when they were cleaning out her ears. Then I heard the vet call "I need another tech!" I'm like, I tried to warn ya. :hilarious: She didn't bite or anything, just screamed and tried to escape. All cats are dramatic; she's just particularly dramatic.
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Aw, poor Jasmine.

I've been calling around seeing if any vets will see a feral cat and they all say no. The only type of help I can find for feral cats are trap-neuter-release programs. I just want to get her teeth looked at and cleaned and an overall check up+shots. I am able to treat her for fleas/ticks/worms, but that's it. She's actually a very easy-going cat once she is settled. She likes to sit in my lap and watch TV, but she is a vigorous kneader who can draw blood, so I put a towel on my lap first.
 
Sans Souci

Sans Souci

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HouCuseChickie said:
So, I guess this is the start of Week 19.

I still haven't strayed from my weekly weigh in or basic scale. Last week I was down another 6 pounds though. So, I am guessing making the shift to measuring and tracking calories is behind a lot of this recent success. I guess there is a lot of truth to not just eyeballing things. I also invested in a couple new pairs of compression exercise leggings. While everything I own still fits and isn't falling off of me, it now has to be hiked up so high that it's right at the bustline. The new ones are a size smaller and hit me more at the waist, as they should.

I was worried about weather and gym hours, so I made yesterday my break day. I still got in a nice and casual 4 mile walk to remain active. Gym days are progressively becoming more intense. Most days I'm pushing myself to five sets of everything vs. three. Many days I'm boosting my reps from 10 to 12 or 15. I'm also trying to push myself each time to lift a little bit more. In some cases, I can only handle a little bit more but in others, I've found that I can go an extra 20-40 pounds if I put my mind to it.

I'm also dealing with some tummy issues again this week. I tried that Halo Top again even though I suspected it impacted my tummy last week. I have been a wreck today after eating it yesterday. So, I think that's a solid no-go going forward. It's too bad as it was a nice low cal treat but it's not worth this discomfort. David seems like he's getting fed up with my eating even though we went out for his birthday on Friday and I was able to find a good option that also kept me on track. I'm honestly getting fed up with him not caring about himself. As much as I appreciate that he's never been the kind of guy to pull away when I've gained weight, I think his refusal to do anything healthy and his high tendency to mock me for trying is part of my problem. He made a roast for Easter and in one breath, he's telling me it's super lean...in the next he's talking to Sam about all of the grease in the gravy due to the high fat content of the meat. He mocks what I'm eating, saying at least he consumes tasty food, yet he's got numerous days per week where he's consuming 4000-5000 calories with minimal physical activity. He is hitting the gym a few days a week but not doing anything even remotely close to make up for his poor diet. I'll spare you some of the other ick factors and annoyances for me, but I'm trying to stay strong and do this for me while tuning out his toxicity in the process. Ugh!
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I can't handle Halo Top, either. I think it's the sweetener they use. It's total Stomachache City after I eat it.

Your husband sounds like he might be resentful of your healthy eating. Maybe he is "threatened" that you're taking charge of your health and he feels like he should, but doesn't want to put in the work. Your healthy meals are a constant reminder of what he should be doing and maybe he doesn't want to eat like you do. I'm just spit balling here, but you shouldn't have to endure him mocking your efforts.
 
Sans Souci

Sans Souci

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Hello-

I did a full body workout today. I did a leg one yesterday and holy guacamole, I am sore. It's only when I stand up/sit down and going up and downstairs.

Last week, my husband was off and we just spent the week getting the back yard ready for summer. That's a workout in itself.

I went to a march in Philly on Saturday. It was to commemorate the first shots fired in the American Revolution and a reminder this country has had no kings since then. We marched past Independence Hall. It gave me chills to think the Constitution was written in there and that we were able to have this march because of that document. We went around Old Town and it was a good vibe. Some of the signs were a little spicy, but it's Philadelphia and they're spicy people (to put it politely). 😂 Beautiful weather, no trouble and a slightly more mixed demographic this time.
 
Sans Souci

Sans Souci

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Good morning-

Checking in with a back workout and I'm hoping to go out for a stroll later on. My legs are still sore from Monday's workout. lol

I made a cake for easter that was a lemon bundt cake with coconut meringue filling. I thought it was just OK on Sunday, but then I had some Monday and it tasted much better. Too much better. I had to freeze it because I know I would have demolished it, otherwise. I think it got better because I had to soak the cake in lemon syrup after I took it out of the oven and the extra time let everything mix and mingle. When I ate it on Easter, I could only taste the coconut, but the following day, the lemon was much more pronounced.
 
Songbird76

Songbird76

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I did Sweating to the Odies 2 today. It's rainy and supposed to storm, so I can't go out for a walk. I liked that this one is pretty dancy. It's a lot like the turbo jam except it's low impact, and he doesn't repeat things for as long as Shaylene or whatever her name is....he mixes it up so you aren't doing the same thing for several minutes. Plus I like the music better....I'm not a huge fan of hip hop, but I love oldies stuff. I think this just fits me better. And I didn't know what to expect, but there's a section with weights, and a section of floor work with stretches and crunches and such. It's an hour long, so that's about perfect for me. When the weather is bad, I can do this inside and kind of mix it in with my normal walking.
 
HouCuseChickie

HouCuseChickie

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Songbird76 said:
Did you have so little diversity then? Like....less than 5% other than white? That's wild to me if that's true. Obviously I don't know exactly where you lived, but I guess I think of our tiny little town as having no diversity. It wasn't until I got to college that I was exposed to any real diversity. There was no one in my town who was "out" for example....not when I lived there anyway. There were no Muslims as far as I know, and I don't even know if there was anyone Jewish....it was pretty much Christian, and largely LDS as far as that goes. We HAD other churches, but they were all pretty small, and for the most part, people just joined whatever was available that was similar to what they grew up with. There was no Lutheran church, and my mom had grown up Missouri Synod Lutheran, so she actually started an LCMS church in our town. When it started, it was a handful of families that met at someone's house every week because there was no church building and the congregation was too small to afford its own building. When I was around 3 or 4, they bought a trailer house and we had services there, and then I don't remember when they broke ground on the building they had built. They ended up selling that building to the Episcopal church several years ago because there weren't enough LCMS members left to keep it going, so they all travel to Gillette now. But that's the extent of the "diversity".

Well, E is a lot like me. She's not interested in partying or drinking, doesn't drink even when she gets together with her friends who are drinking. I'm not at all like my mom. I've always told her that of course we'd rather she not get in trouble for drinking under age, we understand peer pressure, and we trust her to be responsible if she DOES drink. Don't drive if you even have only one drink....call us and we'll come get you. Don't get in a car with anyone who had been drinking. If at any time you feel unsafe, for ANY reason, call us, we'll come get you. And the only time she ever felt unsafe that she really wanted to leave was when she was in Italy on the exchange week and there was no way we could go get her. (Her host sister was not happy that she wanted to leave. She was a huge partier.) Her friend group never had alcohol at their parties until they were over 18, except one, and he held 2 birthday parties....one for the drinkers and one for the non-drinkers, so no one ever felt pressured to drink. So E has always had the freedom if she wanted it, but it's just not her thing. Her student organization at university does events with parties and she just doesn't go to those.
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I think the diversity has improved some, but I'd say we were at least 70% white at the time and any diversity in that was mainly religious. Roman Catholic and Jewish were the two main religions. I only remember a couple of kids of Hispanic origins and the rest were of Asian backgrounds or black/African American. In adulthood, I've heard people refer to my hometown as "high rent." So, cost of living may have also kept out diversity.

I think that's also part of it...some kids just aren't into it. I had sorority sisters who wanted some of the social perks but weren't big on the things that made my world spin. I saw it every now and then with the guys too.
 
HouCuseChickie

HouCuseChickie

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Songbird76 said:
I'm so sorry that the ice cream is a no-go. Do they sweeten it with Maltitol or whatever it is? I have sugar free chocolate and gummies sweetened with that and you really have to limit your intake because it can upset your stomach a lot, but if I only eat a little, I'm fine.

That's really mean to ridicule you for your diet!! Is he jealous of your dedication or progress? Is he trying to sabbotage it because he's not as good at it? I think that's a pretty common thing. I get upset that I work so much harder than my husband, but it's so much easier for him to lose weight. My husband doesn't exercise at all. So when I'm walking a few miles every day and also eating low carb and he's eating a less healthy diet than me and not exercising but he still maintains his weight, or he loses a ton by just cutting down a LITTLE, it's really frustrating. But I try not to sabbotage him and I don't comment on what he's eating. I'm sorry you have to tune all that out.
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It says they use a combo of stevia, erythritol, and organic cane sugar. I know I have issues with the second one, but I didn't think it was the primary sweetener. It could also be the lactose.

Honestly, who the heck knows, but it's always been like this when I lose. I'm no longer fun, and I no longer eat tasty food, and there are parts of my body he likes less when I lose weight, and his version of healthy is just fine vs. the stuff I'm eating, and so on and so forth. His diet is so bad and his gym time is so limited that he has no chance of even proving that he can lose weight more rapidly than me. I just feel like I'm repeating a dance we've done over and over again. I'm in a measured calorie deficit on a daily basis, I've boosted my whole food consumption while cutting out a ton of processed, I've found things to eat when going out, I've enjoyed a cocktail here and there, I'm working out around 3 hours a day on main days and still get in a 3+ mile walk on rest days, etc. I lose more some weeks than others, but I haven't hit a point yet where I haven't been losing. Some of me also wonders if it's the jealous and possessive side of him at play. I'm a trustworthy and loyal spouse. I may come off as flirtatious with my chattiness and still notice when other men are attractive, but I'm not going home with anyone else. Still, I have always wondered if he thinks me being heavy means other men not seeing me as attractive, so less risk.
 
HouCuseChickie

HouCuseChickie

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Sans Souci said:
I can't handle Halo Top, either. I think it's the sweetener they use. It's total Stomachache City after I eat it.

Your husband sounds like he might be resentful of your healthy eating. Maybe he is "threatened" that you're taking charge of your health and he feels like he should, but doesn't want to put in the work. Your healthy meals are a constant reminder of what he should be doing and maybe he doesn't want to eat like you do. I'm just spit balling here, but you shouldn't have to endure him mocking your efforts.
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It was really bad, so I won't be doing that again.

I honestly don't know. I just got an earful about making broccoli in my lunch. In other words, I stunk up the house with healthy eating. Now, I know it has an odor, but I decided to push back with humor and say at least it shows his nose is working (he's been having bad allergy issues). He generally just doesn't care about any of this stuff when it comes to himself. He has never eaten legitimately healthy for any span of time in our near 30 year relationship. So, who knows.
 
Songbird76

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HouCuseChickie said:
It says they use a combo of stevia, erythritol, and organic cane sugar. I know I have issues with the second one, but I didn't think it was the primary sweetener. It could also be the lactose.

Honestly, who the heck knows, but it's always been like this when I lose. I'm no longer fun, and I no longer eat tasty food, and there are parts of my body he likes less when I lose weight, and his version of healthy is just fine vs. the stuff I'm eating, and so on and so forth. His diet is so bad and his gym time is so limited that he has no chance of even proving that he can lose weight more rapidly than me. I just feel like I'm repeating a dance we've done over and over again. I'm in a measured calorie deficit on a daily basis, I've boosted my whole food consumption while cutting out a ton of processed, I've found things to eat when going out, I've enjoyed a cocktail here and there, I'm working out around 3 hours a day on main days and still get in a 3+ mile walk on rest days, etc. I lose more some weeks than others, but I haven't hit a point yet where I haven't been losing. Some of me also wonders if it's the jealous and possessive side of him at play. I'm a trustworthy and loyal spouse. I may come off as flirtatious with my chattiness and still notice when other men are attractive, but I'm not going home with anyone else. Still, I have always wondered if he thinks me being heavy means other men not seeing me as attractive, so less risk.
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There's a brand of ice cream here called Oppo that's low sugar. I'll have to look at the sweeteners in it.

It's really hard to guess what goes on in someone else's head, but I was thinking the same thing as Sans Souci. Not really a competition to show who can lose the most the fastest, but more like... He feels like you are making him look bad because he knows he could, maybe even SHOULD do more than he is, while you are doing a lot. It's like the reverse of body shaming... Instead of shaming you INTO eating healthy, he's shaming you OUT of it so he doesn't have to feel guilty for not eating healthy himself.
 
Figgy1

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Sans Souci said:
Aw, poor Jasmine.

I've been calling around seeing if any vets will see a feral cat and they all say no. The only type of help I can find for feral cats are trap-neuter-release programs. I just want to get her teeth looked at and cleaned and an overall check up+shots. I am able to treat her for fleas/ticks/worms, but that's it. She's actually a very easy-going cat once she is settled. She likes to sit in my lap and watch TV, but she is a vigorous kneader who can draw blood, so I put a towel on my lap first.
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I just sent a message to my friend down your way. His step day is in rehab hospital so it may take a few days to hear back. They've both done animal rescues so fingers crossed
 
HouCuseChickie

HouCuseChickie

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Songbird76 said:
There's a brand of ice cream here called Oppo that's low sugar. I'll have to look at the sweeteners in it.

It's really hard to guess what goes on in someone else's head, but I was thinking the same thing as Sans Souci. Not really a competition to show who can lose the most the fastest, but more like... He feels like you are making him look bad because he knows he could, maybe even SHOULD do more than he is, while you are doing a lot. It's like the reverse of body shaming... Instead of shaming you INTO eating healthy, he's shaming you OUT of it so he doesn't have to feel guilty for not eating healthy himself.
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I checked out their website. Unfortunately, it does not look like it's sold over here. I'm just going to skip the ice cream products for a while.

It's really hard to know but it always feels like he's one of the factors sabotaging my health. I can't blame all of this weight on him. I did go into more of a depressive state over the last 4+ years and gave up on myself with a bit of a pity party. He didn't put all of that bad food in my mouth or stop me from exercising once I was cleared. Still, it doesn't help when the person closest to you isn't supportive of something that should improve my health and quality of life, then starts playing mind games that open the door for future issues. The guilt part is an interesting angle though. He often labels my attempts at getting my body back and getting healthier as a vanity and insecurity thing. Like he's more evolved because he doesn't care how he looks and how he looks to others. He's not wrong that there is some vanity that tends to drive my efforts, but is it so bad to want to look good? Well, just trying to stay the course and plan some for the future so that I don't get caught up in his negativity.
 

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