working out for Disney

Sans Souci

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Hello-

Today's workout was upper body strength training + HIIT. It was in the upper 50's, so I went out for a long walk. This time last week, I went for a much shorter walk because it was 24 and I had a bunch of layers on and a Lands' End down-stuffed winter coat. It was so pleasant not to be burdened with all of that today.

A couple of years ago, I watched this series on Apple TV+ called "Severance." The new season started last month and I tried to watch it, but I felt like I needed to watch season 1 again. I tried last night, but it's really uncomfortable and unsettling for me. I'm going to stick to upbeat entertainment for now. lol
 

ajrwdwgirl

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The $1 limit is a way stop travel to "combat fraud" that was already very rare. The CR deadline also happens during his trip to Japan, so he likely would not be able to get an increase in his credit limit during a shut down. He was going to examine an American bank's Asian offices. Also, these are government credit cards that need to be used because the government doesn't pay taxes on hotels when people are on missions. His pay comes from banks that want to do business in the US. It's a fee and his agency goes into banks, looks to see if they are compliant with different regulations and laws, then tells the bank what it needs to do to be compliant. It's basically a consulting fee. None of his pay is from the tax payer, but they have let go people in his agency. I really wish the public would stop believing the smear campaign against them right now, some of the language being used is dehumanizing and I have to think that is deliberate.

The like is for support of your last statement that people do need to stop smear campaigns against other's jobs. There are people doing important work that has gotten cut and it is unfair.
 

HouCuseChickie

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Substack is like Facebook for blogs. It's like a mash up of Facebook Tik Tok, Tumblr, and Twitter. You can charge a monthly subscription fee for your writing (They call it a newsletter.) or you can keep it free. It's up to you. This Dave Grohl quasi-groupie keeps showing up in my feed and I read her stuff here and there, because it's so unselfconsciously unhinged. She actually wrote "I bear no ill will towards his wife." lol Girl. Come on now. 😂 😂 😂

I know I've heard others talk about it but I just get so caught up in other things that I forget. I was wondering about the wife component for Grohl. After you posted that, I looked up his bio and see that he's been with his second wife for a while. The concept of hers feels like it could have even had a little bit of inspiration from Being John Malkovich. Obviously different but something about inserting yourself into the life of a celeb without really being them. I mean, I know there was more to the movie, but it just gave me that kind of vibe.

If you've had both, you have lifetime protection. I am just someone who is always worried about getting ill. They say it's a good idea to get a booster if you're in the thick of an outbreak, work in healthcare or traveling internationally. I think if you were born before 1968, you need to get both again, because prior to 1968, they were not using the live virus vaccines.

The reason why this is affecting mostly children is because their parents didn't vaccinate them. The parents are likely vaccinated themselves. Don't be fooled. I read if you've been exposed, your chances of becoming ill with measles is 90%.

I was born early 70s and there are cases starting to pop up in Houston. So, I'm thinking about it.

You could always focus on things that have nothing to do with the scale or weight. Are you lifting heavier weights? Are you covering more ground on your bike rides in the same amount of time? Honestly, just keeping a regular routine is something to be proud of, especially when you feel like you want to throw in the towel.

I have pretty much ditched the scale. I go into the doctor next week and will look at that number but try not to take it to heart. Wearing my engagement ring last night did at least bring joy and a feeling of accomplishment. I am working on upping my weights. I have four sets of dumbbells (5s, 8s, 12s, 20s). I have been trying to transition from the 8s to the 12s on things where it's gotten too easy. Similarly, I'm working on moving from the 5s to the 8s on things where it's either too easy or I have a lower number of reps I normally do. I rarely use the 20s. My trio of kettlebells are 5, 10, 15. I don't use them as often, but I'm trying to shift some things where I normally use the 10 to the 15. I think my bike may be starting to have issues (it is almost 9 years old), but this weekend is when I plan to start bumping up to a higher tension to push my legs harder. It helped define my quads last time I did that. I also keep exceeding my distance goals. I had been doing 60 minutes (plus 5 min cool down) with a 20 mile overall minimum. Yesterday, I topped 22 miles in that time...which was a first.

In the end, I know I'm making progress... even with my short morning walks. When I first started back in December, I had been so sedentary that even going a little over a mile was painful. This morning, I had to stop at 2.8 miles due to time, but could have easily gone another 5+ if time weren't an issue. So like you said, it's really just how you choose to focus and measure your success. I just need to be mindful of this more often.
 

HouCuseChickie

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A couple of years ago, I watched this series on Apple TV+ called "Severance." The new season started last month and I tried to watch it, but I felt like I needed to watch season 1 again. I tried last night, but it's really uncomfortable and unsettling for me. I'm going to stick to upbeat entertainment for now. lol

Good to know. David was talking about this the other night and wondering if I'd want to watch. I also need upbeat right now, so this would not be a good fit. What is upbeat that we've started watching on Apple TV+ recently is Schmigadoon. I know it's been out for a while, but in case you haven't seen it. Same goes for Ted Lasso.
 

Songbird76

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I totally understand them wanted you to become integrated into their country, but some of this seems like controlling behavior under the guise of wanting to help you fit in to Dutch society. Trying to prevent from buying ornaments for your future house doesn't seem to accomplish that. That seems very controlling to me. Then you had to make sure they couldn't be seen from the window in your bedroom! LOL Wow. Does she give you a lot of unsolicited advice about your kids?
Well, the not letting me buy ornaments was more to keep people from seeing that I'm a foreigner, because heaven forbid anyone know you have a foreigner in the family who may not speak the language yet and might not do things the Dutch way!

She hasn't given me too much advice about the kids, though there have been comments here and there. Like, she REALLY got on me once when E's shoe fell apart. I had already taken her shoe shopping because her shoes were in bad shape, but she was REALLY picky and the only shoes she wanted weren't in her size at the store, so we had to order them to be delivered, and two days after we ordered them, the sole of her shoe came completely loose while we were at my in-law's house. MIL basically accused me of neglect because I should have gotten her new shoes sooner and I shouldn't have let her pick out shoes they didn't have in stock, I should have forced her to pick something out that she could put on and wear home, etc. And she was also constantly complaining that E's tights would kind of slide down, as tights do. She insisted that they didn't fit and SHE never would have dressed her kids in such ill-fitting clothing. But other than that, she didn't say much about the kids.

Her unsollicited advice was more about how we decorated our house and how we lived. Like she kept trying to tell me I couldn't have a bathtub, AND a dishwasher, AND laundry facilities. She didn't think I should get to have everything, so she kept insisting I had to give something up. And she kept insisting that we had to have more in our yard than just grass, and she would draw up designs for gardens. I have never been into gardening, I sunburn easily, have hay fever, and no green thumb. I have no desire to spend my time weeding a garden, digging in the dirt. But my FIL LOVES to garden and he always spent a lot of time in his garden, and they seemed to take it personally that I didn't want an elaborate garden. My FIL commented once that I shouldn't have a house, I should just rent an apartment because it was a waste to have a yard if I wasn't going to do anything with it. And my MIL didn't like the wallpaper we chose and told me she was going to take it down and go pick something out herself. I said no, she absolutely wasn't, because it wasn't her house and she didn't get a vote. She also drove DH to the store before we moved in, to get paint. We had already chosen the color we wanted, she was just driving him to the store to buy it. I have this thing about yellow....I hate yellow tints on walls and such, because to me, it just looks like someone peed all over. It just looks filthy to me, and I can't stand it. I also don't like stark white, because it looks so sterile and cold. That's one of the things I hated about our room at their house. Yellow walls, grey and white vinyl flooring, and all white furniture. It was kind of like everything I WOULDN'T choose. So anyway, she somehow persuades him that this other color of paint is nicer and gets him to buy it. He comes home with it, and it was a color I had specifically said no way, because it was too yellow. It was like this yellowish cream color. I was like "Um....this isn't what we agreed on." and he said "No, but mom said...." and I said "I don't care what mom said. Mom isn't living here and I already told you I don't like this color. This isn't what we agreed on. Take it back and get the stuff we picked!" She did a lot of that kind of stuff...trying to get him to get what SHE liked instead of what he and I chose together. I kept having to remind him that she didn't get a vote and that we had picked what we did for a reason.

Now she's got dementia, and she's really declining mentally, so she doesn't give us advice anymore at all.
 

Songbird76

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That's why I really think the WFH angle was fueled by the blue collar worker right wing supporters who felt slighted during COVID. Most of them have been duped into believing that real work can only occur in an in-person environment. Facts like boosted productivity and cost savings are irrelevant because hate and ignorance are now the name of the game.

The irony is that these processes looking for waste are so deeply flawed that they are the biggest waste. They should do some self reflection before dismantling things they don't understand due to their lack of knowledge/training/understanding and desire to show quick results. The fact that their hasty and poorly informed actions are already causing big problems is likely just the beginning of the fallout. The whole lazy bums stuff you've noted and what we've seen being reported from many others is just the government version of a bunch cyberbullying teenage mean girls. There's no facts behind much of anything they're saying and doing, but if they can get people to quit over treating them horribly, they see benefit.

Part of me wonders if the brain drain is intentional. Again, I know this is getting awfully political and we don't normally go that angle, but the attacks on the education system coupled with the attacks on some of our most intelligent American workers feels like a push to dumb down the nation. I won't go any farther with that idea, but I think you know where my logic on this is headed.
It's really kind of sad. It makes me glad we live over here right now. My daughter and I have talked about the education systems in both the US and here extensively, and I don't think she'd be able to do nearly as much in the US. For one, high schools here are divided by how well you learn. She was at the highest level and they went SO much more in depth than we ever did. Like, she had 5 years of biology where I only had one. She had 5 years of physics, 4 years of chemistry. They learned so much more than we did. And she had something like 16 subjects in her third year and like 10 for every year beyond that. They get a much more extensive education, and there's no competition at all. No GPAs, no college entrance exams like ACT or SAT. You don't have to apply to a school and wait to see if you get accepted. You choose a major that the school offers, and as long as you took the required classes in high school, you're in, unless you are wanting to be a doctor. Then there are waitlists. But for most things, you just sign up. Every student pays the same amount, no matter where they go to school and what they study and the government pays for a lot of it. E's tuition and fees are just over 2000 for this year, and some of that was paid by the govenment. She's at one of the best research universities in the world, I think....they are always putting people from her university in the news because of something they are studying and developing. So I know she's getting probably a better education than she could get in the US, for so much less money. There's no doubt in my mind that had we lived in the states, she could have gotten into an ivy league school. She graduated in the top 5% of students nationwide, and one of her classmates who only got very average grades took the ACT to go to a school in Texas, and she scored a 28 on it as a foreign student. I'm sure E would have gotten over 30 had she chosen to take it, but we would never have been able to afford an ivy league education even if she had wanted to study in the US. I'm sure she could have gotten in, but the cost of even a standard college education in the US is multiple times more expensive than it is here. You HAVE to get scholarships and it's so competitive!!

It just makes me wonder why we do things the way we do in the US. It seems so inefficient. So many kids have no idea what they want to study and they waste time and money taking classes that they don't really need, biding time until they pick a major and can take classes related to that. And there's so much pressure to go to college, or to a 4 year institution when not everyone NEEDS that. When I graduated, most of my classmates went on to at least junior colleges, and I don't think I could name a single person other than myself who actually got a degree. I picked up one scholarship in the middle of my first year because someone flunked out. I graduated number 2 in my class and the other top 4 students all flunked out or dropped out....well, I guess technically, at least one, maybe 2 of them had to quit because they were in jail. And one of those had a tuition and fees scholarship. The amount of money that was wasted on all those people who never finished....think what could have been done with all that money if students had the resources and the guidance to make a better career choice that was more suited to them. E's school made every student do this months-long process of choosing which classes they wanted to do from 4th year on, after having taken every option for a couple of years so they could see what they were good at and what they liked. They got advice from teachers about whether they could handle that subject in the upper years. Then they were required to go to career fairs and they brought in former students to talk about their schools and their majors, so kids knew what the options were. All the stuff that we had to find out for ourselves was all provided by the school here. That's how E picked her school and her major. Some guy came in to talk about Bio-technology at Wageningen, and she thought it sounded really interesting, so she signed up for a "walk along day" where they toured the Bio-tech and molecular life sciences facilities and talked to students, etc. She fell in love with the molecular life sciences department and the campus, and that was it. Maybe it's different in Wyoming than in big cities, but we never had anyone coming in to talk to us about specific career opportunities. Recruiters only talked to you if you were a star athlete or a stellar scholar. My brother was called by a recruiter from Cornell, but no one ever called to talk to me either for my music or any other reason, even though I was one of the top students in my class, I had been chosen for All-state 3 years out of 4 (I was disqualified one year because they sent us the wrong audition material and we weren't told until the day before auditions when it was too late to learn the right stuff), and I did really well in speech and debate. Not every kid in the US is given the same opportunities. So much depends on where you live and what's offered there. I like that everyone is on a level playing field here. You just pick what you want and do it. And there are a few schools here that have English programs with a lot of foreign students. I'm not sure what Tuition looks like for non-Dutch students though. But at the rate we're going, they might easily pick off some of the most promising US students for top programs because it's easier to get into and it's cheaper. It would be really sad to lose all that talent to foreign markets.
 

HouCuseChickie

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It's really kind of sad. It makes me glad we live over here right now. My daughter and I have talked about the education systems in both the US and here extensively, and I don't think she'd be able to do nearly as much in the US. For one, high schools here are divided by how well you learn. She was at the highest level and they went SO much more in depth than we ever did. Like, she had 5 years of biology where I only had one. She had 5 years of physics, 4 years of chemistry. They learned so much more than we did. And she had something like 16 subjects in her third year and like 10 for every year beyond that. They get a much more extensive education, and there's no competition at all. No GPAs, no college entrance exams like ACT or SAT. You don't have to apply to a school and wait to see if you get accepted. You choose a major that the school offers, and as long as you took the required classes in high school, you're in, unless you are wanting to be a doctor. Then there are waitlists. But for most things, you just sign up. Every student pays the same amount, no matter where they go to school and what they study and the government pays for a lot of it. E's tuition and fees are just over 2000 for this year, and some of that was paid by the govenment. She's at one of the best research universities in the world, I think....they are always putting people from her university in the news because of something they are studying and developing. So I know she's getting probably a better education than she could get in the US, for so much less money. There's no doubt in my mind that had we lived in the states, she could have gotten into an ivy league school. She graduated in the top 5% of students nationwide, and one of her classmates who only got very average grades took the ACT to go to a school in Texas, and she scored a 28 on it as a foreign student. I'm sure E would have gotten over 30 had she chosen to take it, but we would never have been able to afford an ivy league education even if she had wanted to study in the US. I'm sure she could have gotten in, but the cost of even a standard college education in the US is multiple times more expensive than it is here. You HAVE to get scholarships and it's so competitive!!

It just makes me wonder why we do things the way we do in the US. It seems so inefficient. So many kids have no idea what they want to study and they waste time and money taking classes that they don't really need, biding time until they pick a major and can take classes related to that. And there's so much pressure to go to college, or to a 4 year institution when not everyone NEEDS that. When I graduated, most of my classmates went on to at least junior colleges, and I don't think I could name a single person other than myself who actually got a degree. I picked up one scholarship in the middle of my first year because someone flunked out. I graduated number 2 in my class and the other top 4 students all flunked out or dropped out....well, I guess technically, at least one, maybe 2 of them had to quit because they were in jail. And one of those had a tuition and fees scholarship. The amount of money that was wasted on all those people who never finished....think what could have been done with all that money if students had the resources and the guidance to make a better career choice that was more suited to them. E's school made every student do this months-long process of choosing which classes they wanted to do from 4th year on, after having taken every option for a couple of years so they could see what they were good at and what they liked. They got advice from teachers about whether they could handle that subject in the upper years. Then they were required to go to career fairs and they brought in former students to talk about their schools and their majors, so kids knew what the options were. All the stuff that we had to find out for ourselves was all provided by the school here. That's how E picked her school and her major. Some guy came in to talk about Bio-technology at Wageningen, and she thought it sounded really interesting, so she signed up for a "walk along day" where they toured the Bio-tech and molecular life sciences facilities and talked to students, etc. She fell in love with the molecular life sciences department and the campus, and that was it. Maybe it's different in Wyoming than in big cities, but we never had anyone coming in to talk to us about specific career opportunities. Recruiters only talked to you if you were a star athlete or a stellar scholar. My brother was called by a recruiter from Cornell, but no one ever called to talk to me either for my music or any other reason, even though I was one of the top students in my class, I had been chosen for All-state 3 years out of 4 (I was disqualified one year because they sent us the wrong audition material and we weren't told until the day before auditions when it was too late to learn the right stuff), and I did really well in speech and debate. Not every kid in the US is given the same opportunities. So much depends on where you live and what's offered there. I like that everyone is on a level playing field here. You just pick what you want and do it. And there are a few schools here that have English programs with a lot of foreign students. I'm not sure what Tuition looks like for non-Dutch students though. But at the rate we're going, they might easily pick off some of the most promising US students for top programs because it's easier to get into and it's cheaper. It would be really sad to lose all that talent to foreign markets.

I'm definitely envious of the cost aspect of higher education over there. Who knows what this will look like over here in the next year or so after the current political regime gets their hands on things.

I'm mixed on how it's done in the US in terms of efficiency. On one hand, I see a definitely flow and directed progression for you guys. On the other, I feel like our system is built on the freedom to change your mind or approach your future with more broad exposures...like there's always this ability to shift or reinvent yourself. I guess it really resonates with me because I changed my major the beginning of my junior year. Even after graduation and dropping my master's/doctoral program, I found myself engaged in post baccalaureate classes in an entirely different field. Even those classes didn't exactly encompass what I ended up doing/starting out in when hitting corporate America. If anything, my major jump into corporate America was tied to what should have been my minor. We weren't required to have minors and my advisor was horrible...failing to see that I was 1 credit short of a writing minor. I remember asking for more info but just being brushed off and hearing that I was still far off. Either way, I just look at myself... a person that has a good 8-10 things I could see myself doing, wanting less defined paths in my education plans. In a nutshell, I remember even several years after college many of us were semi-joking about "what do you want to do when you grow up?"
 

HouCuseChickie

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Just finished week 11 and tomorrow is the start of week 12. I know technically, Sunday is the start of the week, but my approach had been going Monday to Sunday. This one was a bit awkward because I took Friday as my break day instead of Sunday. I also shifted up my weekend approach to inject some variety in the process. This was also my second week trying a more gentle short walk on my break day. So, my weekend involved two longer walks instead of one long walk and one long bike ride. I put in 7 miles on the trails each day and 10 miles on the bike. I'm also trying to start stepping up my strength and toning work. I'm shifting more to my 12s for the every day stuff, I increased my number of reps, I've added in some more the lower ab strength and sculpting I used to do back in my dance days, I upped my reps on the squat machine today, and I've even added some arm work while I bike. I tried bumping up the tension on the bike one of the days but I wasn't feeling it...at least not for the full ride. So, it may need to be a gradual thing...like 5-10 minutes at a higher tension and then normal sprint for the rest. I go to the dr this week, so I'm curious to see how much I've lost. I was able to get my wedding band and engagement ring on together one of the days which was a big goal. I also have some clothes... even things that I bought recently...that are starting to fall down on me when I walk or sag a bit, so we're getting there.

The new Planet Fitness FINALLY opened in our town. It's about a 5-7 minute drive from the house. David wants to pop in to sign up this week, but I'm mixed since I'm seeing success with what I'm doing. Then again, I can feel the pedals are starting to go again on the bike. The bike is around 9 years old but I can get a new replacement for under $150 and the pro has always been that it keeps me from having to go out. Ideally, I'd like to do both but I have to assess the $ situation.

Yeah...1. Voodoo is having the same kinds of issues she was having back in the fall. I'm skipping the emergency vet this time now that I know what it is, but I'll find out tomorrow how much this is going to run me. 2. Kendall decided to pledge a sorority. I am good with it but working out the financial details when she already needs a car and we're going to have to figure out the college finances for the future years...it's all $ on the brain. It's also not helping me shake my thoughts about the past. I actually got an odd sign that maybe I need to lean into this and just keep exploring my feelings. I was shopping today at TJ Maxx and was thinking about a new perfume. There's a scent I used to wear all through college and the 3-5 years following. I haven't worn it in ages and it's not really popular anymore, so I haven't seen it in at least a decade and a half. There were three unopened bottles at TJs and they were cheap. So, I now smell like I did in college.
 

Songbird76

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I'm definitely envious of the cost aspect of higher education over there. Who knows what this will look like over here in the next year or so after the current political regime gets their hands on things.

I'm mixed on how it's done in the US in terms of efficiency. On one hand, I see a definitely flow and directed progression for you guys. On the other, I feel like our system is built on the freedom to change your mind or approach your future with more broad exposures...like there's always this ability to shift or reinvent yourself. I guess it really resonates with me because I changed my major the beginning of my junior year. Even after graduation and dropping my master's/doctoral program, I found myself engaged in post baccalaureate classes in an entirely different field. Even those classes didn't exactly encompass what I ended up doing/starting out in when hitting corporate America. If anything, my major jump into corporate America was tied to what should have been my minor. We weren't required to have minors and my advisor was horrible...failing to see that I was 1 credit short of a writing minor. I remember asking for more info but just being brushed off and hearing that I was still far off. Either way, I just look at myself... a person that has a good 8-10 things I could see myself doing, wanting less defined paths in my education plans. In a nutshell, I remember even several years after college many of us were semi-joking about "what do you want to do when you grow up?"
Yeah, I look back now and wish I had done something different. I love singing, but it's never been something I can explain how to do. I don't feel like I can give voice lessons because I can not tell someone how to sing. And I can't play the piano well enough to accompany someone so that doesn't work. But at the time, I didn't feel like there was anything else I could do. I wish we had been exposed to more things. We only had very basic classes in school....standard English classes, US and World History, Biology, Chemistry, Physics, and Math. Some other schools had things like Psychology as a science. And I really would have liked to continue taking Spanish, but the teacher was a jerk. But now, I see things on TV and think THAT looks fascinating!! I wish I had gotten my degree in THIS! There are a lot of things I could have done if I'd been introduced to them. Anthropology is fascinating, and if I'd have gotten a degree in English, I could work in editing or publishing. I would love to be an elementary school teacher, but I specifically like working with the littles, and you have to teach them to read. My accent would make that VERY hard here. There are certain sounds in the Dutch language that I can't hear a difference between two things when I'm speaking, and they are VERY important to spelling. I will not be the reason 30 kids can't figure out how to read or spell, so that's not an option, and I don't really like teaching the older kids. My classroom management skills are lacking. But I can't really go back and do something different either. Psychology would be super interesting. Architecture would be really cool. Working in the travel industry would be fantastic, but I'd need to speak a lot of different languages for that, and I don't.

E was actually very smart. She took the most difficult profile there is and then took Biology as her elective, which gave her a double profile. She can major in anything she wants. She can always go back and change her mind if she doesn't like Micro Biology. She could switch over to antrhopology, or become a teacher, or study music. Most things, other than the sciences, don't actually require you to have taken those classes in high school. You start over in college with the basics anyway, but you don't need a degree to write music, or to travel, or to write a book. So for the most part, you can change what you want to do. It's only really the sciences that you have to have studied, and you CAN always go back and do those at the adult high school. It would just take you longer. But I do think there needs to be a kind of middle of the road profile for kids who aren't sure yet. It's hard to know for sure what you want to do for the rest of your life when you are 15. And I'm over here, stuck because I can't use my music degree here, and I have nothing else and apparently I'm not cut out for working in a store. I have no skills except that I can sing, and I really don't want my own business.
 

Songbird76

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Just finished week 11 and tomorrow is the start of week 12. I know technically, Sunday is the start of the week, but my approach had been going Monday to Sunday. This one was a bit awkward because I took Friday as my break day instead of Sunday. I also shifted up my weekend approach to inject some variety in the process. This was also my second week trying a more gentle short walk on my break day. So, my weekend involved two longer walks instead of one long walk and one long bike ride. I put in 7 miles on the trails each day and 10 miles on the bike. I'm also trying to start stepping up my strength and toning work. I'm shifting more to my 12s for the every day stuff, I increased my number of reps, I've added in some more the lower ab strength and sculpting I used to do back in my dance days, I upped my reps on the squat machine today, and I've even added some arm work while I bike. I tried bumping up the tension on the bike one of the days but I wasn't feeling it...at least not for the full ride. So, it may need to be a gradual thing...like 5-10 minutes at a higher tension and then normal sprint for the rest. I go to the dr this week, so I'm curious to see how much I've lost. I was able to get my wedding band and engagement ring on together one of the days which was a big goal. I also have some clothes... even things that I bought recently...that are starting to fall down on me when I walk or sag a bit, so we're getting there.

The new Planet Fitness FINALLY opened in our town. It's about a 5-7 minute drive from the house. David wants to pop in to sign up this week, but I'm mixed since I'm seeing success with what I'm doing. Then again, I can feel the pedals are starting to go again on the bike. The bike is around 9 years old but I can get a new replacement for under $150 and the pro has always been that it keeps me from having to go out. Ideally, I'd like to do both but I have to assess the $ situation.

Yeah...1. Voodoo is having the same kinds of issues she was having back in the fall. I'm skipping the emergency vet this time now that I know what it is, but I'll find out tomorrow how much this is going to run me. 2. Kendall decided to pledge a sorority. I am good with it but working out the financial details when she already needs a car and we're going to have to figure out the college finances for the future years...it's all $ on the brain. It's also not helping me shake my thoughts about the past. I actually got an odd sign that maybe I need to lean into this and just keep exploring my feelings. I was shopping today at TJ Maxx and was thinking about a new perfume. There's a scent I used to wear all through college and the 3-5 years following. I haven't worn it in ages and it's not really popular anymore, so I haven't seen it in at least a decade and a half. There were three unopened bottles at TJs and they were cheap. So, I now smell like I did in college.
I never had any desire to join a sorority....is it expensive? Do you have to pay dues or something? Or is it the cost of living in the sorority house that's expensive? I remember some kids decided not to live in their organization's house, but you COULD. But I didn't realize that just joining costs money. I figured the housing costs were paid by the people who lived there, just like roommates, and that activities were paid for with fundraisers. But I never looked into it, because it wasn't something I wanted to do.

Sorry Voodoo is having issues! I hope you can get it all fixed without it being too expensive.

What scent did you find? When I was in elementary school, Electric Youth was all the rage, and in High school, Navy was popular, and Vanilla Fields.
 

Sans Souci

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Good to know. David was talking about this the other night and wondering if I'd want to watch. I also need upbeat right now, so this would not be a good fit. What is upbeat that we've started watching on Apple TV+ recently is Schmigadoon. I know it's been out for a while, but in case you haven't seen it. Same goes for Ted Lasso.

I ended up watching it all. I even started from the beginning. I had been watching it while I was working out, but it's one of those shows where you have to really watch and listen because they drop hints that make sense later on. When I am lifting heavy weights, I am focusing on that, so I missed out on some references that appeared as the show progresses. It's about a guy who undergoes this procedure where his work life and home life never intersect. When you're at work, you have no idea about your identity outside of work, You don't know if you're married, have kids, etc. They work underground, so they don't even know what the outdoors looks like. They also get tortured when they mess up, but you don't see it. You just see the bruises the next day. When you're not at work, you have no idea who you work with, what you do for living. He did it because his wife was killed in a car accident and he thought it would be a good idea not to have to deal with grief 8 hours a day. But his wife is alive and she, too, is "severed". She works at the same office, but they don't know each other and they don't realize they are married. The company is cult-like and wants to push this procedure on everyone. I feel like Scientology is inspiration. lol I feel uneasy and unsettled when I watch it, but that's the intent, I suppose.

I have seen Ted Lasso a few times, because my husband really likes it. I am not into musicals, so I didn't click with Shmigadoon. But you might like "Shrinking" if you haven't watched it before. It's a comedy, but all of the characters are dealing with some sort of loss, so there is a bit of drama.
 

Sans Souci

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Well, the not letting me buy ornaments was more to keep people from seeing that I'm a foreigner, because heaven forbid anyone know you have a foreigner in the family who may not speak the language yet and might not do things the Dutch way!

She hasn't given me too much advice about the kids, though there have been comments here and there. Like, she REALLY got on me once when E's shoe fell apart. I had already taken her shoe shopping because her shoes were in bad shape, but she was REALLY picky and the only shoes she wanted weren't in her size at the store, so we had to order them to be delivered, and two days after we ordered them, the sole of her shoe came completely loose while we were at my in-law's house. MIL basically accused me of neglect because I should have gotten her new shoes sooner and I shouldn't have let her pick out shoes they didn't have in stock, I should have forced her to pick something out that she could put on and wear home, etc. And she was also constantly complaining that E's tights would kind of slide down, as tights do. She insisted that they didn't fit and SHE never would have dressed her kids in such ill-fitting clothing. But other than that, she didn't say much about the kids.

Her unsollicited advice was more about how we decorated our house and how we lived. Like she kept trying to tell me I couldn't have a bathtub, AND a dishwasher, AND laundry facilities. She didn't think I should get to have everything, so she kept insisting I had to give something up. And she kept insisting that we had to have more in our yard than just grass, and she would draw up designs for gardens. I have never been into gardening, I sunburn easily, have hay fever, and no green thumb. I have no desire to spend my time weeding a garden, digging in the dirt. But my FIL LOVES to garden and he always spent a lot of time in his garden, and they seemed to take it personally that I didn't want an elaborate garden. My FIL commented once that I shouldn't have a house, I should just rent an apartment because it was a waste to have a yard if I wasn't going to do anything with it. And my MIL didn't like the wallpaper we chose and told me she was going to take it down and go pick something out herself. I said no, she absolutely wasn't, because it wasn't her house and she didn't get a vote. She also drove DH to the store before we moved in, to get paint. We had already chosen the color we wanted, she was just driving him to the store to buy it. I have this thing about yellow....I hate yellow tints on walls and such, because to me, it just looks like someone peed all over. It just looks filthy to me, and I can't stand it. I also don't like stark white, because it looks so sterile and cold. That's one of the things I hated about our room at their house. Yellow walls, grey and white vinyl flooring, and all white furniture. It was kind of like everything I WOULDN'T choose. So anyway, she somehow persuades him that this other color of paint is nicer and gets him to buy it. He comes home with it, and it was a color I had specifically said no way, because it was too yellow. It was like this yellowish cream color. I was like "Um....this isn't what we agreed on." and he said "No, but mom said...." and I said "I don't care what mom said. Mom isn't living here and I already told you I don't like this color. This isn't what we agreed on. Take it back and get the stuff we picked!" She did a lot of that kind of stuff...trying to get him to get what SHE liked instead of what he and I chose together. I kept having to remind him that she didn't get a vote and that we had picked what we did for a reason.

Now she's got dementia, and she's really declining mentally, so she doesn't give us advice anymore at all.

Oh, no. I am sorry to read that. Is her diagnosis recent?
 

Sans Souci

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Just finished week 11 and tomorrow is the start of week 12. I know technically, Sunday is the start of the week, but my approach had been going Monday to Sunday. This one was a bit awkward because I took Friday as my break day instead of Sunday. I also shifted up my weekend approach to inject some variety in the process. This was also my second week trying a more gentle short walk on my break day. So, my weekend involved two longer walks instead of one long walk and one long bike ride. I put in 7 miles on the trails each day and 10 miles on the bike. I'm also trying to start stepping up my strength and toning work. I'm shifting more to my 12s for the every day stuff, I increased my number of reps, I've added in some more the lower ab strength and sculpting I used to do back in my dance days, I upped my reps on the squat machine today, and I've even added some arm work while I bike. I tried bumping up the tension on the bike one of the days but I wasn't feeling it...at least not for the full ride. So, it may need to be a gradual thing...like 5-10 minutes at a higher tension and then normal sprint for the rest. I go to the dr this week, so I'm curious to see how much I've lost. I was able to get my wedding band and engagement ring on together one of the days which was a big goal. I also have some clothes... even things that I bought recently...that are starting to fall down on me when I walk or sag a bit, so we're getting there.

The new Planet Fitness FINALLY opened in our town. It's about a 5-7 minute drive from the house. David wants to pop in to sign up this week, but I'm mixed since I'm seeing success with what I'm doing. Then again, I can feel the pedals are starting to go again on the bike. The bike is around 9 years old but I can get a new replacement for under $150 and the pro has always been that it keeps me from having to go out. Ideally, I'd like to do both but I have to assess the $ situation.

Yeah...1. Voodoo is having the same kinds of issues she was having back in the fall. I'm skipping the emergency vet this time now that I know what it is, but I'll find out tomorrow how much this is going to run me. 2. Kendall decided to pledge a sorority. I am good with it but working out the financial details when she already needs a car and we're going to have to figure out the college finances for the future years...it's all $ on the brain. It's also not helping me shake my thoughts about the past. I actually got an odd sign that maybe I need to lean into this and just keep exploring my feelings. I was shopping today at TJ Maxx and was thinking about a new perfume. There's a scent I used to wear all through college and the 3-5 years following. I haven't worn it in ages and it's not really popular anymore, so I haven't seen it in at least a decade and a half. There were three unopened bottles at TJs and they were cheap. So, I now smell like I did in college.

I find it's so much easier to workout at home. I never have to shovel to get my car out of the drive to go to the gym, I never have to wait for equipment, I can workout whenever I want and I can wear whatever I want. lol Some days I wear some really beat up stuff that would get me weird looks if I was seen in public. lol

It sounds like you should write about your experiences. You're getting signs. :) Let me know if you ever put it on Substack.
 

Sans Souci

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I never had any desire to join a sorority....is it expensive? Do you have to pay dues or something? Or is it the cost of living in the sorority house that's expensive? I remember some kids decided not to live in their organization's house, but you COULD. But I didn't realize that just joining costs money. I figured the housing costs were paid by the people who lived there, just like roommates, and that activities were paid for with fundraisers. But I never looked into it, because it wasn't something I wanted to do.

Sorry Voodoo is having issues! I hope you can get it all fixed without it being too expensive.

What scent did you find? When I was in elementary school, Electric Youth was all the rage, and in High school, Navy was popular, and Vanilla Fields.

Electric Youth! I got three bottles from three different people for my 16th birthday. I didn't even wear perfume back then. I can still remember what it smelled like.
 

Sans Souci

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Hello-

I have been lifting weights and walking. Today was a full body day.

My husband brought this gnarly upper respiratory virus from work. Everyone is showing up sick because they are afraid of getting fired. He was pretty bad and he's turned the corner, but I started feeling off and coughing my head off this afternoon. I just got over something like this a few weeks ago (that he never picked up). I did buy NyQuil when I had that and I have loads left.

I watched a bit of the Oscars last night. It's not really my thing. The only movie I have seen from the Best Movie nominations was Anora. I liked it. I want to see Conclave and I have been debating watching The Substance. I just have such a visceral reaction to body horror. 🤮 I watched a clip on YouTube where her "younger, more perfect version" emerged from Demi Moore's spine. NOPE!
 

Songbird76

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Oh, no. I am sorry to read that. Is her diagnosis recent?
Well, she had a stroke a few years ago and lost her short term memory. It's just gotten worse and worse. Several months ago, she was having some issues where suddenly her blood sugar and blood pressure both spiked, but her heart rate plummeted or something like that....she was rushed to the hospital and DH got the call to come, this could be it. She pulled through and I don't think they ever completely figured out what happened, except they said she was retaining fluids. But he had to stay in the hospital overnight with her for several nights, because she didn't remember what happened, where she was, why she was in the hospital, and she'd wake up in a panic, so he had to stay with her to calm her down and explain. She's not happy that they are in a nursing home, but she can't do anything by herself. At Christmas, we told them we'd be there for lunch and we'd bring it with us, so they didn't need to go downstairs to the cafeteria, and BIL would bring them dinner. We got there and they were still in bed. We got the lunch stuff out, had lunch, and they kept saying they needed to go to the cafeteria for lunch. We told them they had just eaten. They didn't remember. DH was like "Do you feel hungry? No? That's because you just ate. Now you can go take your nap." They always sleep after they eat lunch. "Oh, but don't we need to go to Erik's?" "No, Erik is coming here for dinner tonight." "Aren't you staying for dinner?" "No, you don't have enough space for all of us. That's why we did lunch, and Erik will bring dinner." "Dinner at Erik's? Do we need to put our shoes on?" "No, Erik is bringing it here." "Oh.....I guess we should get our coats on to go to lunch." "No, you just ate lunch." It took us 10 minutes to get out the door without them trying to follow us downstairs to eat lunch. They have no idea what's going on. She's completely incontinent, but doesn't want to wear the adult diapers, so they've put towels all over the seats for when she has an accident, and we can't take her anywhere. She can't follow a conversation, because she doesn't remember what was just said. Both of them are just really in poor health.
 

HouCuseChickie

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Yeah, I look back now and wish I had done something different. I love singing, but it's never been something I can explain how to do. I don't feel like I can give voice lessons because I can not tell someone how to sing. And I can't play the piano well enough to accompany someone so that doesn't work. But at the time, I didn't feel like there was anything else I could do. I wish we had been exposed to more things. We only had very basic classes in school....standard English classes, US and World History, Biology, Chemistry, Physics, and Math. Some other schools had things like Psychology as a science. And I really would have liked to continue taking Spanish, but the teacher was a jerk. But now, I see things on TV and think THAT looks fascinating!! I wish I had gotten my degree in THIS! There are a lot of things I could have done if I'd been introduced to them. Anthropology is fascinating, and if I'd have gotten a degree in English, I could work in editing or publishing. I would love to be an elementary school teacher, but I specifically like working with the littles, and you have to teach them to read. My accent would make that VERY hard here. There are certain sounds in the Dutch language that I can't hear a difference between two things when I'm speaking, and they are VERY important to spelling. I will not be the reason 30 kids can't figure out how to read or spell, so that's not an option, and I don't really like teaching the older kids. My classroom management skills are lacking. But I can't really go back and do something different either. Psychology would be super interesting. Architecture would be really cool. Working in the travel industry would be fantastic, but I'd need to speak a lot of different languages for that, and I don't.

E was actually very smart. She took the most difficult profile there is and then took Biology as her elective, which gave her a double profile. She can major in anything she wants. She can always go back and change her mind if she doesn't like Micro Biology. She could switch over to antrhopology, or become a teacher, or study music. Most things, other than the sciences, don't actually require you to have taken those classes in high school. You start over in college with the basics anyway, but you don't need a degree to write music, or to travel, or to write a book. So for the most part, you can change what you want to do. It's only really the sciences that you have to have studied, and you CAN always go back and do those at the adult high school. It would just take you longer. But I do think there needs to be a kind of middle of the road profile for kids who aren't sure yet. It's hard to know for sure what you want to do for the rest of your life when you are 15. And I'm over here, stuck because I can't use my music degree here, and I have nothing else and apparently I'm not cut out for working in a store. I have no skills except that I can sing, and I really don't want my own business.

In the early days, even before applying to college, I knew I wanted to sing but wasn't sold on doing it all the time or the academics behind it. It's why I immediately eliminated anything that was strictly an arts-based school. It also helped me eliminate schools that wouldn't let me freely change majors if I was accepted as a music major. I switched to psychology, but in hindsight, I wish I'd taken a different angle. Not exactly sure what, but I wish I knew of campus resources at the time that could have better guided me on my options for a change. It didn't help that many of the degree paths of interest were tied to our communications school, which at the time was harder to get into than Harvard and I just didn't have the first year grades or courses to make it happen. Still, psychology was a better fit than a music major. With the exception of voice lessons and choir, I took all core classes for psych during my sophomore year. I came to the conclusion that I will always love singing but I am a performer vs. a musician. Seeing your likes and interests after the fact reminded me of how I thought about going back to school to start over. I went as far as getting admitted to UH for post baccalaureate studies. At that point, I was torn between law and veterinary, but it became an unrealistic goal and I started losing interest as I started learning more. I've come to realize that I'm one of those people that likes a lot of things and just has a hard time picking one.

E has always sounded super bright and a kid that's really going places. I'm glad that she has options to shift if she decides she's not on the right path. That middle road is really where I was thinking. Granted, I've seen a lot of kids get lost there too, lacking the guidance and drive to decide on something. Still, not everyone knows until they've taken some college level courses and matured a little.
 

HouCuseChickie

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I never had any desire to join a sorority....is it expensive? Do you have to pay dues or something? Or is it the cost of living in the sorority house that's expensive? I remember some kids decided not to live in their organization's house, but you COULD. But I didn't realize that just joining costs money. I figured the housing costs were paid by the people who lived there, just like roommates, and that activities were paid for with fundraisers. But I never looked into it, because it wasn't something I wanted to do.

Sorry Voodoo is having issues! I hope you can get it all fixed without it being too expensive.

What scent did you find? When I was in elementary school, Electric Youth was all the rage, and in High school, Navy was popular, and Vanilla Fields.

While she joined a cheaper house, it's still like a car payment each month. Sisters who live in house will pay more because they have room and board to cover, but everyone has dues on top of that to cover the wide variety of social activities and other essentials that go with them. Things like parties, happy hours, supplies for contests, participating in fraternity charitable events (which is usually just a lot of partying and games), homecoming activities, and other social gatherings and chapter requirements are all part of these dues. Any fundraisers you see being done by houses are usually to benefit their organization's philanthropy and never actually goes back to the girls associated with the house. Everything we did charity-wise either went back to our literacy foundation or one of the community groups we'd chosen to support. New members, like K, have higher fees because there are all kinds of extra activities with pledging that cost $ (like new member education and required dinners at the house) as well as costs behind things like their official badge and any chapter traditions for gifts to new pledges and initiates. She was semi-interested last summer but decided to give herself time to acclimate before jumping into Greek life. I was hoping she'd wait until formal recruitment so she could see all of the houses, but she signed up for something called open bidding and was invited to several houses. The one she picked is known for being the smart girls. I'm a little sad that she won't be going for my house, but from what I've seen and heard, that chapter would not be the right fit for K.

It was MUCH cheaper to take Voo to the regular vet. We walked out of there spending $100...and that's including medication. We spent close to $1,500 at the emergency vet back in September.

Giorgio. It's now considered cheap stuff and old, but it used to be really popular back in the day and it was my go-to. Sung and Design were my others, which I also still wear...but Giorgio was really me.
 

HouCuseChickie

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I ended up watching it all. I even started from the beginning. I had been watching it while I was working out, but it's one of those shows where you have to really watch and listen because they drop hints that make sense later on. When I am lifting heavy weights, I am focusing on that, so I missed out on some references that appeared as the show progresses. It's about a guy who undergoes this procedure where his work life and home life never intersect. When you're at work, you have no idea about your identity outside of work, You don't know if you're married, have kids, etc. They work underground, so they don't even know what the outdoors looks like. They also get tortured when they mess up, but you don't see it. You just see the bruises the next day. When you're not at work, you have no idea who you work with, what you do for living. He did it because his wife was killed in a car accident and he thought it would be a good idea not to have to deal with grief 8 hours a day. But his wife is alive and she, too, is "severed". She works at the same office, but they don't know each other and they don't realize they are married. The company is cult-like and wants to push this procedure on everyone. I feel like Scientology is inspiration. lol I feel uneasy and unsettled when I watch it, but that's the intent, I suppose.

I have seen Ted Lasso a few times, because my husband really likes it. I am not into musicals, so I didn't click with Shmigadoon. But you might like "Shrinking" if you haven't watched it before. It's a comedy, but all of the characters are dealing with some sort of loss, so there is a bit of drama.

David seems to really be liking it. I know what you mean about needing lighter entertainment during workouts. I've been strictly music this time, so it hasn't been as much of an issue, but last time I got really serious I had to find fairly fluffy things that would keep my interest but not require my undivided attention. We are looking to ditch Apple soon, but I may watch it if I find the urge. I know it's very popular.

I loved Ted Lasso and am thinking of watching it again for the same reason. I like musicals, so that is right up my alley. A friend recommended Shrinking. I started watching ep 1 but I was too tied to a project and it required too much of my attention to have it running on the side. I MAY try again if I can find the right time.
 

HouCuseChickie

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I find it's so much easier to workout at home. I never have to shovel to get my car out of the drive to go to the gym, I never have to wait for equipment, I can workout whenever I want and I can wear whatever I want. lol Some days I wear some really beat up stuff that would get me weird looks if I was seen in public. lol

It sounds like you should write about your experiences. You're getting signs. :) Let me know if you ever put it on Substack.

It's funny you say that but the clothes part is truly a perk. I'll even slum it with my clothes for my shorter walks because they are usually at off hours when next to nobody is going to see me...and if they do, it's for a fleeting second. I'll even opt for mismatched socks. They are the same socks...I just own five pairs each in different colors. So, they look different but feel the same. Last week, there was a day where I left the house in brown leggings, a gray tank top with a hole in the bottom, a semi exposed aqua sports bra with a small visible rip on the side, one pink sock and one blue sock, and my bright orange sneakers.

I just wish I knew what the signs meant. Although, I did have a bit of clarity on something tied to one of the people on my mind right now in all of this. It wasn't directly regarding him and I don't think it's random enough to classify it as a sign, but it was a past experience with someone else (with some similarities) that gave me not only a comparison point as well as a forgiveness angle that I hadn't even considered. Long story, but I think it's given me a little peace. I do think I need to write, but I'm still working in my head. I'll keep you posted in case I do go public with any of it. I will say that it will probably be pretty explicit at times if I want to paint an honest picture.
 

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