What should I do...

[AliciaLuvzDizne]

Ok here's the deal...
Im supposed to be going to WDW with my "friends" but i have just found out that my roommate has been dating the guy i like behind my back (both going on the trip) WDW is my favorite place on earth, but they dont know i found out... I feel like if i spend a week with these "friends" of mine it will be the worst week of my life.

What does everyone think I should do??


~unhappy alicia~

 

[Maria]

Confront her and let her be the one that doesn´t go! Did she know you liked the guy? If so, she is not a friend!
If she didn´t know it, then I think you have two choices: remain quiet, let him go and enjoy WDW, or try to get his attention too.... after all, you don´t know they are dating! :goodnevil

:animwink:

 

[AliciaLuvzDizne]

Well that sounds like a good plan, but if someone wasnt going to go it would be me... unfortunately...
She absolutely knows that i like him. I have told her and we have talked about it a lot...
this makes me so sad
thanks for the advice....

 

[cindrelly31]

you could go, but plan to visit the attractions on a different schedule than they have. who knows, you might find a new "friend" while you are there. :wave:

 

[AliciaLuvzDizne]

so then...go off bymyself?? is that fun? i dunno maybe... She just called me and hasent said a word about it so i dont know if i will ever really find out until i see it for myself...
backstabbing not good

 

[aim]

i would say something to the girl! i mean, if she knew that you really liked him...i just could never do that to a friend! and you said that if anyone would not go, it would be you....why you?

 

[cindrelly31]

unless you could get things worked out before you go. i would not know where to begin confronting your "friend" about this. she did backstab. you could always buy a new bikiuni and show the guy what he is missing. what would be the odds of recruiting another friend to go and hang with?:veryconfu when is the trip?

 

[AliciaLuvzDizne]

The trip is on the 29th.
I used to be REALLY excited...

And the reason I would be the one to not go is because this trip was planned by her (new) ex. The guy I like is one of his bestfriends. (AND the OTHER guy also going, is his bestfriend too, and she has been kinda dating him as well) :brick:

 

[CmdrTostada]

So shes two timing?

 

[AliciaLuvzDizne]

not really
dating is dating, they arent like an item or anything
but i bet one doesnt know she's dating the other...
and i KNOW that the ex doesnt know shes seeing his bestfriends

 

[CmdrTostada]

Now that is revenge. If you told all of them. But If you did that you might split up a friendship. ( I must be really bored to get in on this )

 

[AliciaLuvzDizne]

hm...
she is my bestfriend, and we ARE living together again in september... this is more delicate than just getting my revenge...

 

[aim]

Yeah, it sounds very delicate! I'm kind of lost. She planned it all. Are there other people going?

 

[CmdrTostada]

I think if want everytihng to stay in tack theres pretty much nothing you can do. Unless your friend is understanding

 

[AliciaLuvzDizne]

Her ex planned the trip.

im not sure im strong enough to sit back and watch her be with the guy i like... you know?

im thinking once i get to WDW all will be merry (but i know its probably not so true) grr

 

[aim]

hmmm, i totally understand what you mean! well, you know, you could always find some cute guy down there! and have him hang with you guys or something? i don't really know what to tell you!

 

[AliciaLuvzDizne]

good idea

ATTENTION ALL CUTE GUYS!!
lol
sigh...they'll probably just end up liking her anyways

 

[lil'sis]

I hope you don't mind me intruding, but don't say guys will probably end up liking your "friend" anyways. There are different tastes for every guy and I am pretty sure you are alot of guys type. If you walk around feeling sexy, guess what you're sexy. :animwink:
On another note, since supposedly you don't know they're dating why not try to win him over on the trip. It's worth a try because your "friend" knows how you feel about this guy. :fork:

Good Luck!!!

Marlene

 

[Erika]

Hey, this girl sounds like a REAL winner *rolls eyes*

Don't worry about whataver future you think you have with this girl. This is a TOXIC FRIENDSHIP and I don't think it's going to improve! Look at the way she treats people!

It hurts, and it's hard, but sometimes you have to cut 'em loose. You'll be happier in the end.

But the Disney trip...that is a toughy.

 

[Erika]

Hey, just one more thing-

I know this isn't going to help much now, but just my 2 cents-- when I was younger-- I NEVER got "the guy" and yes, there were times I lost a guy to a friend here or there!

I understand your comment about the guys probably going for your friend anyway because I have been there so many times!

But I WON in the end.

I am probably one of the happiest married people you'll ever meet (or not meet, LOL, I guess this is just a discussion board!).

Those old times seem like a million years ago...and I am only 25. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. I promise!!!

So for right now, hang in there- I know it is so hard! -- but aside from this whole guy thing, I really think you need a change of friends. Remember the best ones are not necessarily the cool ones. Same goes with boyfriends! Keep your options open!

Good luck! And I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I feel for you, I really do!