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mousermerf

mousermerf

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I need advice...

The merf and merf's-other-half are going to WDW for NYE, staying over for a few nights.

It's supposed to be a semi "romantic" getaway (we both enjoy the crowds and excitement) because of family engagements we didn't rally get to spend the actualy "Holidays" together much.

Now - the other-half's family is going to be at WDW the first day of our trip. They just announced it today. They're bringing everyone, even grandma.

Needless to say, merf is a little miffed.

Today, is of course, just a day outside of merf's cancelation/modification window too.

What should merf do? Avoid them for a day? Ugh... Convince them that going during that period is horrible? Slash the tires on their cars? Break the plumbing in their toilets?
 
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PyxiiDustt

PyxiiDustt

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I'd slash their tires.. but that's just me =]

Just attempt to convince them how absolutely horrible it will be down there with all of the crowds (even though I'm going and can't WAIT!! dispite the crowds).

You can attempt to put up with them too.. or just avoid them. Make reservations somewhere that you can't miss.

Some suggestions.. =]
 
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Monty

Monty

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It's only one day, be nice and embrace to opportunity to spend time with relatives. Let them share that first day and tell them how nice it was to see them in your favourite place and kick off the rest of your semi-romantic get-away on a positive note.

Once they're gone, you'll enjoy your special time with merf's-other-half that much more.
 
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MaXXimus

MaXXimus

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I myself would play off everything as normal and have them meet up with you and pick someplace where you wont be... example: tell them you will meet them at the Animal Kingdom and you go to Magic Kingdom... both parks have Kingdom in it so its very easy later on to just say "You must have missunderstood me... I said Magic Kingdom, not Animal"
 
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slappy magoo

slappy magoo

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if your other alf is on board with the little white lie, tell 'em you have the entire day planned with romantic things, meals, backstage tours, carriage rides, etc. and it's to late to change 'em. worst case scenario, throw 'em a pity appearance at breakfast.
 
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Yellow Shoes

Yellow Shoes

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MaXXimus said:
I myself would play off everything as normal and have them meet up with you and pick someplace where you wont be... example: tell them you will meet them at the Animal Kingdom and you go to Magic Kingdom... both parks have Kingdom in it so its very easy later on to just say "You must have missunderstood me... I said Magic Kingdom, not Animal"
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This is just mean. It will also come back to bite you in some way.
Don't do it.

Throw them a bone, i.e., a meal together, or half a day standing in line, then make your exit.

"Wow, it sure was nice to see you. We have to leave now for our _____." (spa treatment, tee time, behind the scenes tour, nap, etc.)
 
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Zummi Gummi

Zummi Gummi

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I think you have to spend part of the day with them. Meet them at a park in the morning, visit a few attractions with them, then say you have to leave for lunch reservations, which you cannot change.

Purposely avoiding them will only cause problems that you do not want to dea with later on.
 
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MaXXimus

MaXXimus

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I not trying to be mean, but if their day didnt include anyone then sometimes you have to do what ya have to do. I only tossed out my idea because pretty much all the other bases were covered and mistakes can be made by not hearing things properly... and my idea is for sure betetr then tire slashing lol... and even better then just avoiding.

If they really want to be alone then there arent too many options outside of just coming out and saying "Listen, this is suppose to be a romantic getaway and we prefer not to have any company". My idea at least makes it out to be an "Oooops" and not a game of hide-n-seek.
 
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mousermerf

mousermerf

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Nick_A said:
I think you have to spend part of the day with them. Meet them at a park in the morning, visit a few attractions with them, then say you have to leave for lunch reservations, which you cannot change.

Purposely avoiding them will only cause problems that you do not want to dea with later on.
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Just a note...

The whole Holidays were a bit of a sour note because of "the family" already though. They're demanding.

On Thanksgiving, we were supposed to do a late dessert/dinner with my family but "the others" grandma dragged things out and threw a fit over anyone leaving before they were completely finished (even though it was announced well before hand that people had made other plans with exact time frames). In short, they have no qualms messing up my plans.

For Christmas, we spent the day before Christmas Eve together because of all the family obligations just to make people happy. My family is like "oh, you can com and go as you please, no big deal" but that side is like "you have to be here at xx time and until we say so you can't leave and you can't offend so and so and..." so we decided to just be apart and do our own things to try and keep them happy rather then even try to merge the schedules.

And now - knowing we had these plans - they decide they're going the same day as our first day there.

I really feel like they're doing it on purpose. I don't know who exactly is the ring leader, mother-in-law or grandma on that side, but i'm upset.

Really - at what point do you stop being nice about stuff like this..? *sighs*
 
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MaXXimus

MaXXimus

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Well use my idea or just be the better person and tell them that your not up for company. Heck... using my idea at least in some small way may give you a giggle that your getting one over on them and kinda like a payback... LOL
 
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frankd1962

frankd1962

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The only thing I can think of is first talk to your other half and tell them what you're going to do before you do it.

Next meet the family someplace away from where you both are really going to be. Tell them that you have plans that you can not break and if they don't like it, too bad. You and your other half are a family also and need your time apart from them also. If the breakfast gets a bit messy, just thanks them for the meal and leave without telling them which park you're going to be at.

It might make for future rough times but it will also show that you can and want live your lives as you see fit.
 
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Master Yoda

Master Yoda

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With a group like that you have no choice but to put you foot down. Explain to them what you are doing and that your plans can not and will not be altered. You are not playing tour guide. If they want a tour guide tell them to reserve a VIP guide at guest relations. The day you are going is the busiest of the year and you have a particular way to handle it that you will not modify it for anyone.

If that does not work I would recommend removing the valve stems. You can reinstall them and re-inflate the tires when you get home and won't get stuck paying for a new set of tires.
 
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VT GAL

VT GAL

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I agree with Master Yoda (Interesting part about the tires...), especially if you have your other half's support in the matter. Also, it may be better coming from the same family.

There are times for diplomacy and there are times for a stand, and if this is a "romantic" trip I would fight rather than run.

Just my two cents....I hope that you figure everything out and have a good time!
 
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smk

smk

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How about this...can the "other half" calmly inform the offending relatives that this get away is for the both of you? If it were my family causing the difficulties I would/should be the one to speak up, if it is my in-laws then my DH speaks up. I know how diificult this can be, painful too. :brick: If the situation is such that speaking up is not possible then offer to meet for a meal. They will get the messege if a meal is all that is offered. Say something like "we have our AR all planned for two but can put one aside and meet for breakfast" or meet to watch the fireworks and enjoy a snack. If you end the day with meeting them they will be too tired to ruin your night, everyone can use the "oh boy, I'm tired" trick and go off on their own. Either way, it's your happy place, go and enjoy the company of the one you love and count the relatives as part of the rest of the crowd, be polite, wear deoderant (as we all have read by now) and make secret plans to get away again....soon!:xmas:
 
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SewIn2Disney

SewIn2Disney

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Speaking from my mother who lives the "Family Guilt Trip" and just returned from bringing "Grandma" home after spending Christmas day with us, says take a deep breath and tell them you have made all of you reservations for "two" and you will be glad to meet them for dinner somewhere when you get home. My mom has a sign that says "My mother is a travel agent for guilt trips" .... How True!
 
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