Personal complaint

[garyhoov]

How does any of this discussion fit on a WDW chat board?

I think it fits. I think Disney is not just a place, it's a state of mind.

When we go to Disney World, everything is a little better than reality. Everyone is accepted. If you start out in a bad mood, people lift you up until you are laughing and bringing the people around you up.

I think the reason people post on these boards is to bring a little bit of that magic into their everyday lives.

Sure Sheri probably needs to take some responsibility for her actions, and that is between her and her parents. She's not reaching out to us so we can judge her, she's reaching out to say she's hurt. I'm not going to stop and try to determine if she is right or wrong (and I don't think any of us have enough information to make that call), I'm just going to send a little happiness her way and hope she passes it on to those around her. If we work hard enough at this and it spreads widely enough, every day could be like a day at Disney World.

Just my opinion.

 

[Sheri]

Sorry for thinking you guys would care, or see it my way. I was stupid to have thought that you would have the same thoughts as me. I shouldn't have posted, and I definitally shouldn't have read this. Excpecting all of you to understand why I was mad, and agree with me, I was in for a complete shock. Now I'm just in a bad mood, and it's nothin against you...I should have been ready for any response.


To "Becky" and whoever else said something about me staying out late:
My parents KNEW what time I'd be home, where I'd be, and who I'd be with. It's not like I told them I'd be home at 9, and just decided to stay out longer. And if it was that way, they knew they could have just called me, even though I would NOT do that anyway. Maybe my parents just trust me more then you know me, and if that makes me or my parents bad, excuse us.

I am actually really sorry I posted this. There have been a couple people telling me I shouldn't have posted it...But I only wanted to say something, and a lot of other people post problems here, so I figured, what the heck, right? So I'm really sorry for whoever thinks I shouldn't have posted this.

This thread will be deleted once I think everyone has had a chance to read it that need to

 

[The Mom]

Sheri, you got some of the responses you did because you witheld some vital information! It was not clear from your original post that your parents knew beforehand that you would not be coming home until 11...that makes a difference. WHEN they knew of your plans also makes a difference...if it was days in advance, they were unreasonable. If you TOLD them as you were going out the door, then the fault is yours. If they had advance knowledge that you had other plans for the evening (and they agreed to them... as I stated) they should have planned the family celebration on another night, or another time, mutually agreeable to all of you.

 

[Sheri]

The first time: My parents had known about it for a few months. We were late, about half an hour most likely, but that's not completely my fault, but SURE, I'll take the blame for that.

The second time: yeah, my friends and I only started talking about it probably 5 hours before I left. That's also when I called my dad to ask him. maybe if I had waited untill he got home, that would be bad, but, hey, I see to hafta take the blame a lot, why not now, too? :lol:

 

[CmdrTostada]

Now I take back some of what I said, I didnt know that your parents knew you would be out late. Maybe they thought that you would stay up and celebrate your birthday. Your brothers are just stupid, dont let them get to you.

 

[mickeyfan]

Originally posted by Sheri
Not that a party with the people I see way to much of anyway is that important to me
-Sheri

Sheri...........I know you have heard enough of this, but after reading through the thread, I had to respond.

I am the mother of a soon-to-be 14 year old!!

If I even thought that she felt the way you do in the above statement, I would be extremely hurt as her mother. I love her more than life itself and would even give my life for her.

I know friends are important at this stage in your life, but your family has every right to be disappointed that they were treated as second choice in your birthday activities.

And Josh, I commend Sheri for being involved in TaeKwonDo. I think it is very good for kids to be involved in activities. But don't you think she could have shown her family a little bit of courtesy on her birthday............. of all the days of the year!! My children's birthdays are very important to me as I gave life to them on those days and I would hope they would love and appreciate me for that also. After all, I am sure it is her family who has paid for this activity for her to be involved in, not to mention the "chauffering" back and forth from lessons and tournaments. A little bit of courtesy on her part can go a long way also. We "parents" make a lot of sacrifices for our children, but we do it out of love, not obligation. Which I hope would be a reason she would want to share her birthday with her family.

If she doesn't want anymore birthday celebrations with her family, she needs to communicate that with them so that it doesn't waste their time either. It sounds like she wanted a celebration, just when it was convenient for her and her friends. It may come as a surpise, but parents have a life also and it may not always work out for her convenience.

Her family may have eaten the cake, but I bet she still got the birthday present!!!

I know now that I am a parent, that there will always be the child's view on the situation and the parent's view on the sitaution. And I have to admit as a parent that we do not always act like the adults we should be when we are hurt or disappointed with our children. And even though Sheri might not feel it, I am sure that her parents were hurt over this incident.

Sheri, I don't expect you to comprehend or understand my point of view (a parent) on this issue. As with my own kids, I am sure I am just beating myself in the head to think you would understand or even care about a parents point of view on this issue.:hammer:

And I should have just kept my mouth shut because I know you just wanted a little bit of sympathy. Something all of us, even parents, need every now and then. :hammer:

 

[Goofette]

Originally posted by Sheri
I see to hafta take the blame a lot, why not now, too? :lol:

Sheri, I know you feel like the boards are ganging up on you here. Some of the people (like garyhoov and mom) gave some really good advice to you. Try to read what you posted again and imagine that you know none of the circumstances, and it was just one of the other teens posting the message. See how it reads to you and how you would feel about it. There are a lot of people saying about the same thing (which is very strange for these boards, because we usually have quite a diverse group here). I think you're going through a bad time, and now reading these posts you really feel even more angry and hurt. No one here wants you to feel upset. Sometimes people post their opinions and they come off as harsh, but usually there are several who really do make Great Points and give good suggestions.

Try to have a good day, and don't let this get you down.

 

[Goofette]

Originally posted by mightyduck
Happy birthday, Sheri!



I always tell the people I live with where I will be and when I will be back--if I don't show up, I want them looking for a body! And I sure don't want the embarrassment of having people looking for me for no reason!

I just read this again and it made me remember some of the most embarassing moments as a youth. Oh Geez, I remember coming home from college one weekend, telling my mom I was going to be playing tennis. We were having a tennis tournament and it was at night, anyway, here comes mom in her nightgown just furious at me for not being home yet. She said she'd looked all over town for me :lol: :lol: She had her hair up in a hair net, house shoes on, the whole works. My Gosh I was So embarassed. Madder than all get out at the time, but extremely embarassed. Now I look back on it and laugh....:lol: :lol: Nothing worse than a parent coming to look for you and Finding you with your friends.

Anyone else have this happen to them :animwink:

 

[Sheri]

yeah, I was upset, but it's no ones fualt but mine, sooo, it doesn't really matter

 

[Don L Duck]

Sheri I was not responding to the fact you were out till 11:00 pm.
I was responding to what Disjosh said about someone on this thread being ultra conservative about a 14 year old staying out till 11 pm. I felt it was very liberal of your parents letting you stay out that late.
Also I feel that if you can't take the fact that not everyone will not agree with how you feel when you post or say something,,, you should not do either.
That is a part of life that you will have to deal with not everyone will see it your way or agree with you or even understand how you feel.
The most important thing to remember is they are your feelings and opinions and never let anyone change them and... never get angry at others for having them.

 

[Sheri]

And if you noticed...I was blaming myself for that. I kept saying I'm mad but it's only my fault. Thanks for bringing that back up.