MJ's Posse

[Uponastar]

I think my biggest fear is that he will get out there and then she won't want anything to do with him and he won't have the money to go or do anything about it.

Always leave the door open.
Let him know you're there if things don't work out.
That he can come home.

 

[Disnut]

Trying to do that. Thanks

 

[Uponastar]

Trying to do that. Thanks

Don't mean to sound like "Dear Abby". :lol:
I certainly don't have all the answers.
But I do have some experience with a child who went off on her own and needed to come home.
It would've been awful if she thought she couldn't do that.

 

[figmentmom]

But the good news is, we spoke with the caterer who services that hall and when I explained our time problem he told us his other location would allow us either the 4 hour reception at the same price as the first place, with an additional half-hour for the ceremony at no additional cost. Or, a 5 hour reception for only an additional $2 per person. We're going to see this place on Tuesday night. I'm hopeful and we all love this caterer and have heard great things about his food. So we will see!

Dot, go for the 5-hour option! Our daughter was married last April - in fact, tomorrow is their first anniversary - and that fifth hour really made the difference between a nice reception, and a terrific time!

Good afternoon, everyone. :wave:

 

[DisneyBunny]

I'm off. It's time for dinner. More "forced family fun" as DH calls it.:lol:


Talk to you all later!

 

[figmentmom]

I think my biggest fear is that he will get out there and then she won't want anything to do with him and he won't have the money to go or do anything about it.

Experience is the very best teacher of all. Sometimes we parents have to let our kids find things out for themselves. Of course, we draw the line - sure, your two-year-old will learn that electricity is dangerous if you go ahead and LET them stick that fork into the outlet, but you'd never do that! Other life lessons, though, are more subtle, and (unfortunately) the kids have to learn them for themselves.

...heh heh...see signature below...

 

[Uponastar]

Dot, go for the 5-hour option! Our daughter was married last April - in fact, tomorrow is their first anniversary - and that fifth hour really made the difference between a nice reception, and a terrific time!

Good afternoon, everyone. :wave:

Thanks for your input Mary!
That's what we were thinking of doing.
$2 more per person doesn't really amount to much.
But that extra hour will mean a lot.

 

[Uponastar]

I'm off. It's time for dinner. More "forced family fun" as DH calls it.:lol:


Talk to you all later!

Have a nice dinner, Bunny!
I hope the rest of your weekend improves!

 

[figmentmom]

Thanks for your input Mary!
That's what we were thinking of doing.
$2 more per person doesn't really amount to much.
But that extra hour will mean a lot.

You won't be sorry, Dot. :animwink:

 

[Disnut]

Don't mean to sound like "Dear Abby". :lol:
I certainly don't have all the answers.
But I do have some experience with a child who went off on her own and needed to come home.
It would've been awful if she thought she couldn't do that.

Don't worry about sounding like "Dear Abby" I need abvice about some of this. Sometimes it seems like he doesn't have a head on his shoulders.:zipit: I am glad I can sound off about some things here. Ya'll understand a little more than my DH.

 

[Uponastar]

Don't worry about sounding like "Dear Abby" I need abvice about some of this. Sometimes it seems like he doesn't have a head on his shoulders.:zipit: I am glad I can sound off about some things here. Ya'll understand a little more than my DH.

DHs have a different way of looking at things.
Mine was hell-bent on trying to stop our girls from making mistakes at all costs.
I felt we should let them live and learn, but always make sure they knew we were there for them.
It was hard to get a balance there, and we sometimes still butt heads over it, but we make it work.

 

[figmentmom]

DHs have a different way of looking at things.
Mine was hell-bent on trying to stop our girls from making mistakes at all costs.
I felt we should let them live and learn, but always make sure they knew we were there for them.
It was hard to get a balance there, and we sometimes still butt heads over it, but we make it work.

...and DHs look at things differently when they have one of each to advise. I sure didn't hear the same advice for our daughter that he's giving right now to our son!

 

[Uponastar]

...and DHs look at things differently when they have one of each to advise. I sure didn't hear the same advice for our daughter that he's giving right now to our son!

Interesting Mary!
I wouldn't know about that because we have 2 girls.
I often wondered if there would have been a double standard if one of them had been a boy.
I think I'm glad I didn't have to find out!

 

[Disnut]

there is double standard here . the boys had it tough the girls have their dad wrapped around their little fingers. They are 11, 9 and 8.

 

[figmentmom]

Interesting Mary!
I wouldn't know about that because we have 2 girls.
I often wondered if there would have been a double standard if one of them had been a boy.
I think I'm glad I didn't have to find out!

Interesting is the word. And the advice has not ALWAYS gone the way you might expect; it may have something to do with the fact that our daughter is our first-born, and our son is several years younger. Our daughter has always been more level-headed; our son is a whole 'nother story.

 

[figmentmom]

there is double standard here . the boys had it tough the girls have their dad wrapped around their little fingers. They are 11, 9 and 8.

Absoutely - Sara will always be her daddy's little girl. (And I am MY daddy's little girl. :lol: )

 

[Uponastar]

there is double standard here . the boys had it tough the girls have their dad wrapped around their little fingers. They are 11, 9 and 8.

Your girls are still babies!
How sweet for you.

And what a different set of worries you have.
2 boys in their 20s!

 

[Uponastar]

Interesting is the word. And the advice has not ALWAYS gone the way you might expect; it may have something to do with the fact that our daughter is our first-born, and our son is several years younger. Our daughter has always been more level-headed; our son is a whole 'nother story.

I will never, ever get over how 2 children can grow up in the same house and be so utterly different!

 

[figmentmom]

I will never, ever get over how 2 children can grow up in the same house and be so utterly different!

Sara and Jim are two totally different people, WAAAAAY above and beyond the fact that one's female and one's male. Totally different academic strengths as kids, completely different interests, contrasting temperaments ...Apropos of nothing, they don't look at all alike, either. :lol:

 

[Uponastar]

Sara and Jim are two totally different people, WAAAAAY above and beyond the fact that one's female and one's male. Totally different academic strengths as kids, completely different interests, contrasting temperaments ...Apropos of nothing, they don't look at all alike, either. :lol:

Neither do my two. At all.