nibblesandbits
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I told her. I'm not gonna take credit for something I didn't come up with! :lol:
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MJ Birthday Blessings II
- Thread starter Dukeblue1016
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nibblesandbits
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Jess...are you just trying to be friends now? Or more? Or is that too personal? It's been something I've been curious about for a while now.:lol: that's not too personal... yes. He's in court ordered counseling... and we see a pastor from our church for a marriage counceling... and an outside therapist for couples therapy. The big reason we do both is that our church counseling focuses alot on getting our lives right with God so that we can grow together... and our couple's therapy is helping us just get along in regular life. :lol: It's a looong story...
nibblesandbits
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rlaeromech
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:lol: that's not too personal... yes. He's in court ordered counseling... and we see a pastor from our church for a marriage counceling... and an outside therapist for couples therapy. The big reason we do both is that our church counseling focuses alot on getting our lives right with God so that we can grow together... and our couple's therapy is helping us just get along in regular life. :lol: It's a looong story...
and I don't mean to get too personal and don't expect alot of info. I had read that somewhere when you where chatting and it kinda pricked my heart for you and Lizzy. I meant to ask you about it but right in the middle of a food fight didn't seem like the right spot.
Court Ordered, that can't be good, I hope it was nothing too serious. you are right about the getting counseling through your church, that is a good idea. Don't worry about your religion, get your relationship right with God first and you will find the strength to handle whatever life throws at you....
When I look at pictures of Lizzie, they remind of just a year ago or more with Kayden, these are so special years and I hope your husband isn't missing out on it... that would be a tradegy!
nibblesandbits
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mmm....good vanilla, peanut butter, chocolate chip milkshake! :slurp:
nibblesandbits
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Oh...and you can send the soup here. But you can keep the sausage! :hurl::sohappy: Sure!Although... is it that your wife is eating for 1 and 1/3 or is that extra 1/3 you? :lookaroun
I actually made WAY too much. I forgot that when I make this usually both my BIL's come over and inhale it. :lol: I'll have to freeze some of it so I can break it out on a cold day... probably tomorrow.
rlaeromech
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Yeah, thanks, so how about a trade, I give you a nice location, you give me a name!!!
Honestly much of it is up in the air... but my hope is that he get's the help he needs to turn his life around for good. I'm trusting God with the rest. The divorce hasn't gone through yet. My lawyer is holding up the final hearing until I give him the go ahead one way or another. At this point I'm just watching and waiting to see if this is a long term change, or just a show.
rlaeromech
Member
He's missing out on alot less now than he was at first. At the begining of all this he wasn't legally allowed near me or the baby... but as time wore on we've compromised to where now he can come and go at will, but I still have an Order of Protection basically saying - you hurt her again you go straight to jail, do not collect $200 do not pass go. That's helped my sanity, having those boundries in place.
nibblesandbits
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gotcha. I understand.
My one friend who just broke up with her boyfriend who was a jerk...(whew!) had always claimed he had changed...but then he always seemed to revert back to his old ways whenever we (her friends) were around. I finally asked her...is he trying to change because he wants you in his life or because he wants to actually change. I then said if he's only trying to change to keep you in his life, chances of it sticking are slim, but if he's actually trying to change for him...it will. Just some advice, although I don't know 100% about what's going on with you.
But...whatever does happen, you know we are here for you anyway. :kiss:
I'll make the dinner! You make the dessert! :slurp:
nibblesandbits
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nibblesandbits
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I wanted to put chocolate syrup in it...but I couldn't find any.
It's still pretty delicious.And that sounds like a plan!!!
rlaeromech
Member
That's the biggest reason why I'm so slow to a second chance. Jay did this 3 years ago, got into church, claimed he'd changed - but 3 months later all those old anger habits caught back up with him. So this time around I'm giving it enough time to convince me it's for real. And honestly... last time he refused to see anyone (this time he had no choice on the court ordered stuff, but he was the one to set up the pastoral counseling and the therapist) For the longest time i was so embarassed to admit that we were seeing anyone... but then it hit me, that the more people I felt accountable too, the less likely I was to let him get away with anything again.. and sure enough... I'm alot stronger this time around.
I realized that if I allowed those things to happen, then something wasn't right in my own life and i wasn't as strong as i thought i was.... so I took a long hard look at myself and realized I had many things to work on too. So it's been a journey... one that won't end any time soon - but hopefully one that will result in a stronger lasting marriage in the end. And if not, then at least i know i tried my darndest.
