Memories - Good & Bad

[SilentRascal]

It seems that my memories of this last trip to WDW in September will now always call to mind bad memories of news my family received this weekend. In September my family and my younger sister's boyfriend spent a week at Wilderness Lodge. We had a great week going from park to park, riding everything we could, coming back to the lodge at night and playing cards in the lobby. My sister is 19 and her boyfriend was 23 and a good friend of our family. I say "was" because this past Friday evening he was killed in a car accident. Needless to say we're all in shock and quite devastated. So I say the memories are good and bad because while we all had a great time, it'll always conjure up thoughts of him. I shared a room with him and I'll always remember waking up in the middle of the night most times because he fell asleep with the t.v. on. Sometime in the near future I had planned on transferring our trip video to a tape, but it may be too painful to do, since he's in most of it. Now I wonder if it would be better if our next trip back there was in a different resort. I'll always have a great time at Disney, but from now on I think the memories of the trips will be somewhat bittersweet.

 

[ToTBellHop]

I don't really know what to say other than you have my condolences...just try to remember those good disney memories.

 

[Mikemc]

Always move forward and take the opportunity to remember the good times you had together at Disney. Pull together those precious moments you shared so they make a life time of memories. Life is short and Its times like this that allows us to learn to enjoy and reflect the present and share what little time we have with family and freinds in the places we enjoy most.

 

[Pan]

My sincere condolences, SilentRascal. Our prayers will be with you and your family.

 

[Fievel]

Believe me when I say that we are family around here...and we are here for you...PM me if you need anything, or just need to vent or talk.

 

[SilentRascal]

Thank you everyone.

 

[DisneyPhD]

I am so sorry for your loss. Remember greif is a process that requires time to work through. It may be too painful now to look at the tapes and remember the good parts of the trip, but when you are ready, you and others will vaule those tapes and memories. When a loss like this is so sudden and traggic, sometimes we shut down and only deal with as much as we can at at time. And each person does in there own way. Because you are willing to share this memory and event with us makes me think you are attempting to cope with this in your own way and time. Reaching out for support from others is good.

There is a great deal of info on greif and loss on the internet. If you look at mentalhealth.com there are links to a varity of sites that may be of interest to you or your family. If you want to PM me I am a clinical therapist, social worker and always willing to listen.


God Bless

 

[markymark]

That is such a sad story. I am so sorry for your loss. Try to think of your trip in September and remember good things you did. I am sure in time the pain will get easier.

Once again, my deepest sympathy to you and your family.

 

[Al]

I am very sorry for your loss. Try to remember the good times you had with him, at disney , and everywhere else. my thoughts are with you and your family.

 

[The Mom]

My heart goes out to you. Remember that there is no right or wrong way to grieve...it is different for each of us. If you can find any comfort here, we would be honored to help you in any way. Sometimes it's easier to share with people who aren't just as caught up in their grief as you, so you don't feel you have to be the comforter all the time.

 

[Camelot]

May I also extend my sincere condolences to you, your family and the young man's family.

You will all be in my thoughts and prayers...

 

[SilentRascal]

Please believe me when I say that all the kind thoughts and words here are very much appreciated. Just a day or so before it happened I was in here watching our video of our trip, so you can imagine how fresh those images are in my mind. I roomed with the guy for the whole week. He, my sister, and I basically walked around together most of the time, rode the rides, saw the sights.... it's so surreal right now. I loved staying at Wilderness Lodge but now anytime I think of it, I think of how we'll all never get to go together again like this last time. Things are just still in shock around here.

 

[General Grizz]

Rascal, ole buddy, I'm very sorry for your loss...I'm always here if ya need me.