I'm going to Rant on all of My Problems...Any Advice? Desperatley need it.

[mpaul32001]

Well, here's how it goes....

I failed my English class and got a D in Earth/Space Science because of dumb relationship issues I had been having. A girl I was dating for 4 years decided to cheat on me twice. That felt great...

So I failed English and got a D in Earth/Space...I was keeping this from my parents as not to stir up conflict, and told them I would be attending night school to bring up grades from my Freshman year (C's and D's), which I really do have to do. After I make those up, I was planning on retaking English and Earth Space Science as soon as possible hoping my parents would not find out. I made the mistake of not showing them my report card and telling them I had better grades then I really had. That went over well after they called the High School to find out my grades! So now I am grounded from the phone, my HD Video Camera, and most of all my visiting of the Theme Parks every other weekend.

On the other hand, I am now taking Geometry and struggling to keep that grade as high as I can. I completely do not understand what it is we're doing, and how we're doing it...and I have a test on it Tomorrow.

Also, as I was in Spanish II today, my teacher caught me staring off into space today...He calmly called me to the side and asked if I had ADD problems, in which I replied that I was tested in Middle School and the test came out Negative. It wasn't until 4th block in Geometry when I noticed it the most. I was once again staring off into space (probably the reason i'm struggling) when my teacher caught me and called me out for an answer. It was an answer I should have known, and the whole class looked at me like I was stupid. Then again, at band practice after school, the director was working with the french horns (my section) when some stupid kids banged on the door. I thought it was locked and someone trying to get in, and completely forgot everything that was going on and went to answer it. I was then yelled at. Do I have ADD? That's exactly what's running through my head and making me feel even less confident about myself. Did this whole drop in ego happen after my months of depression after my ex cheated on me? Is that a chain reaction that has driven me into such failure at school?

I guess you could call this my life. Now I have to figure out what to do with it.

 

[Uponastar]

Well, here's how it goes....

I failed my English class and got a D in Earth/Space Science because of dumb relationship issues I had been having. A girl I was dating for 4 years decided to cheat on me twice. That felt great...

So I failed English and got a D in Earth/Space...I was keeping this from my parents as not to stir up conflict, and told them I would be attending night school to bring up grades from my Freshman year (C's and D's), which I really do have to do. After I make those up, I was planning on retaking English and Earth Space Science as soon as possible hoping my parents would not find out. I made the mistake of not showing them my report card and telling them I had better grades then I really had. That went over well after they called the High School to find out my grades! So now I am grounded from the phone, my HD Video Camera, and most of all my visiting of the Theme Parks every other weekend.

On the other hand, I am now taking Geometry and struggling to keep that grade as high as I can. I completely do not understand what it is we're doing, and how we're doing it...and I have a test on it Tomorrow.

Also, as I was in Spanish II today, my teacher caught me staring off into space today...He calmly called me to the side and asked if I had ADD problems, in which I replied that I was tested in Middle School and the test came out Negative. It wasn't until 4th block in Geometry when I noticed it the most. I was once again staring off into space (probably the reason i'm struggling) when my teacher caught me and called me out for an answer. It was an answer I should have known, and the whole class looked at me like I was stupid. Then again, at band practice after school, the director was working with the french horns (my section) when some stupid kids banged on the door. I thought it was locked and someone trying to get in, and completely forgot everything that was going on and went to answer it. I was then yelled at. Do I have ADD? That's exactly what's running through my head and making me feel even less confident about myself. Did this whole drop in ego happen after my months of depression after my ex cheated on me? Is that a chain reaction that has driven me into such failure at school?

I guess you could call this my life. Now I have to figure out what to do with it.

Yikes!
A whole lot going on there.
I think you need to bring everything out into the open, instead of trying to sweep everything under the carpet. It won't be easy, but why don't you ask your parents to meet with a school counselor (or advisor, principal, whatever it would be at your school) to discuss whatever is causing you to unravel. The fact that you are aware that things need to change is a big step in the right direction.
Now first....no more hiding. Ask for help. It's out there.

 

[figmentmom]

First of all, it isn't easy, being a teenager! We've all been there and done that, and you're not alone. Second, we ALL make mistakes - the trick is to learn from them and not repeat them.

That said, it's time to sit down with your parents and tell them honestly what's going on. Apologize for lying about your grades the first time, and assure them it won't happen again - because it WON'T, right? You may very well have ADD, or you could just be under a lot of stress right now, and that's what's making concentration difficult. You need your folks right now. Sure, they're upset, but they love you, and want to help. Tell them about your problems focusing at school. They can't help you if you don't tell them what's wrong.

Have you talked to your geometry teacher? Is extra help available?

Is there a counselor at school you trust?

 

[Nemo14]

Sounds like you have a lot more on your plate than what you can handle right now. The staring off into space is probably your body's way of dealing (or not dealing)with all the issues you're facing.

First thing - accept your punishment, but don't dwell on it. Use the extra time to concentrte on bringing up those grades. Do you have friends at school that could help you study? Also check online with the publisher of your textbook. They often offer supplemental help to go with the texts, and many have practice tests for you to try.

As far as the girfriend goes sounds like you outgrew each other, which often happens to kids your age. You'll get over it - there are plenty of other girls out there!

And lastly, take it one day at a time. You've had a lot to deal with, and in all likelihood all of these problems are interelated. Undo them one at a time and you'll be OK.

 

[Nemo14]

I-Moms to the Rescue!

 

[figmentmom]

I-Moms to the Rescue!

That's what we're here for.

 

[mpaul32001]

First of all, it isn't easy, being a teenager! We've all been there and done that, and you're not alone. Second, we ALL make mistakes - the trick is to learn from them and not repeat them.

That said, it's time to sit down with your parents and tell them honestly what's going on. Apologize for lying about your grades the first time, and assure them it won't happen again - because it WON'T, right? You may very well have ADD, or you could just be under a lot of stress right now, and that's what's making concentration difficult. You need your folks right now. Sure, they're upset, but they love you, and want to help. Tell them about your problems focusing at school. They can't help you if you don't tell them what's wrong.

Have you talked to your geometry teacher? Is extra help available?

Is there a counselor at school you trust?

First off, that is the only time I have ever really lied to my parents..Believe me, won't be happening again...

Also, extra help is available from my teacher. My bus just doesn't get to school early enough to get it...

And I have talked to my counselor, but she amazingly doesn't really care. She showed it the last time I went in for help. She said "Night School, that's all you'll need, i'll sign you up." and that was it. She scooted me out not even listening to the other problems I had to share and discuss. She takes the word guidance to a new level. I guess that's what you get when you live in Citrus County. The teachers have a real problem with guidance at my school as well...

 

[Uponastar]

I-Moms to the Rescue!

Go us!

That's what we're here for.

Hi Mary!

First off, that is the only time I have ever really lied to my parents..Believe me, won't be happening again...

Also, extra help is available from my teacher. My bus just doesn't get to school early enough to get it...

And I have talked to my counselor, but she amazingly doesn't really care. She showed it the last time I went in for help. She said "Night School, that's all you'll need, i'll sign you up." and that was it. She scooted me out not even listening to the other problems I had to share and discuss. She takes the word guidance to a new level. I guess that's what you get when you live in Citrus County. The teachers have a real problem with guidance at my school as well...

I'll never understand counselors who aren't interested in counseling.
You need your parents. You need a reorganization of your abilities and goals. Tell them you want to make things better and ask them to help you.
Unlike your counselor, they will care.

 

[mpaul32001]

Go us!



Hi Mary!



I'll never understand counselors who aren't interested in counseling.
You need your parents. You need a reorganization of your abilities and goals. Tell them you want to make things better and ask them to help you.
Unlike your counselor, they will care.

Thanks,
I have always thought of asking my parents, but have always thought they have had enough to deal with.

My dad has the stress of being a police officer and working from 5:00 AM - 5:00 PM.

My mom just started a new job and flies from Florida to Kansas City every week. She will be back tomorrow. I will talk to her then...

I love this community....

 

[figmentmom]

First off, that is the only time I have ever really lied to my parents..Believe me, won't be happening again...

Also, extra help is available from my teacher. My bus just doesn't get to school early enough to get it...

And I have talked to my counselor, but she amazingly doesn't really care. She showed it the last time I went in for help. She said "Night School, that's all you'll need, i'll sign you up." and that was it. She scooted me out not even listening to the other problems I had to share and discuss. She takes the word guidance to a new level. I guess that's what you get when you live in Citrus County. The teachers have a real problem with guidance at my school as well...

Sounds like you have a good relationship with your parents. Would they be willing to drive you to school early? If they can't, go back to your geometry teacher and ask about help AFTER school. I'm a teacher myself, and let me assure you that anyone interested enough to ASK for help won't be turned down! Be persistent. You sound like a good kids who's having a tough time right now.

 

[figmentmom]

Hi Mary!



I'll never understand counselors who aren't interested in counseling.
You need your parents. You need a reorganization of your abilities and goals. Tell them you want to make things better and ask them to help you.
Unlike your counselor, they will care.

Hi, Dot! :wave:

I agree, your parents care, and will be there for you.

 

[The Raven]

First and foremost, I do not think you have ADD or ADHD. One should never try to self-diagnose themselves because it is far too easy to convince oneself of the worst. Consulting a behavioral specialist would be your best bet.

As a general rule of thumb, I never say "I know how you feel;" however, in this case I kind of do. Somewhere between Freshman and Sophmore year something very similar happened to me. I won't go into detail but I learned from it and moved on. I am assuming you are a Freshman or Sophmore so my experience may help you. Most of my problems stemmed from the fact that I had a naive, romantic view of life and love. I thought things worked a certain way. People acted a certain way. Betrayal or abandonment from some one you loved seemed all but impossible. But I was very wrong. So this thing of sorrows sent me into a terrible depression. Like you, I too had a difficult time concentrating. I was a very good student but my grades slipped. I simply didn't care if I failed. To a small extent, I gave up in every way possible. I no longer cared about my grades or my friends. Once that concern is gone so is any motivation or desire to do well or pay attention.

You need to get that desire back and get a grip on your emotions. It took me a few years to figure that out.

 

[mpaul32001]

Thanks guys,

The force is strong with this community...

You guys have helped me out a lot. I will definitely take this advice to heart.

Thanks a lot! :wave:

 

[Nemo14]

Thanks,
I have always thought of asking my parents, but have always thought they have had enough to deal with.

My dad has the stress of being a police officer and working from 5:00 AM - 5:00 PM.

My mom just started a new job and flies from Florida to Kansas City every week. She will be back tomorrow. I will talk to her then...

I love this community....

I think if you talk to your parents about all this, you'll be surprised at how much better you'll feel.


BTW, I teach math, so PM me if you need some help with the Geometry. I'll see what I can do.

 

[mpaul32001]

First and foremost, I do not think you have ADD or ADHD. One should never try to self-diagnose themselves because it is far too easy to convince oneself of the worst. Consulting a behavioral specialist would be your best bet.

As a general rule of thumb, I never say "I know how you feel;" however, in this case I kind of do. Somewhere between Freshman and Sophmore year something very similar happened to me. I won't go into detail but I learned from it and moved on. I am assuming you are a Freshman or Sophmore so my experience may help you. Most of my problems stemmed from the fact that I had a naive, romantic view of life and love. I thought things worked a certain way. People acted a certain way. Betrayal or abandonment from some one you loved seemed all but impossible. But I was very wrong. So this thing of sorrows sent me into a terrible depression. Like you, I too had a difficult time concentrating. I was a very good student but my grades slipped. I simply didn't care if I failed. To a small extent, I gave up in every way possible. I no longer cared about my grades or my friends. Once that concern is gone so is any motivation or desire to do well or pay attention.

You need to get that desire back and get a grip on your emotions. It took me a few years to figure that out.

I am a junior. That's why I want to straighten my life ASAP.

Thanks for the great advice! I see how being in a depressed state I shouldn't just assume the worst. I guess that's what I did.

 

[mpaul32001]

I think if you talk to your parents about all this, you'll be surprised at how much better you'll feel.


BTW, I teach math, so PM me if you need some help with the Geometry. I'll see what I can do.

I definitely will do! Trying to figure out this Sine, Cosine and Tangent stuff now...ICK!

Definitely not my strongest subject.

 

[Uponastar]

Thanks guys,

The force is strong with this community...

You guys have helped me out a lot. I will definitely take this advice to heart.

Thanks a lot! :wave:

And come back and talk to us.
Especially if you're feeling overwhelmed.
Really, the best way to deal with that is talk it out. Sharing with others helps you put things in perspective.

 

[Nicole220]

Thanks guys,

The force is strong with this community...

You guys have helped me out a lot. I will definitely take this advice to heart.

Thanks a lot! :wave:

We have the greatest Imoms here.
They are amazing in so many ways.

About the staring off into space...we just learned about this in psychology. Doing that helps us cope with stress. Your mind is trying to take a break from all the stress going on in your life. So it might not be ADD.

 

[unkadug]

Sounds like you're in good hands with the iMoms...

They've handed you some good advice, hang in there buddy. :wave:

 

[mousefan1972]

I'm a little late here, but as everyone has said, its best to talk things out and not keep your emotions bottled up. Even if you just come on here and rant, we'll always listen. That's what IMoms do best. Hang in there, kiddo! :kiss: