Oh, I don't know about not being able to meet the type of girl you like in a bar...but I think it would depend on the type of bar.
I mean, I think you're looking for a girl who's pretty down to earth and the whole bit...and as a relatively normal, down to earth, not totally into herself kind of girl...I think you'd be surprised by who goes to bars. She won't be the loudest, the won't be the one at the bar, slamming shots, she'll be the one enjoying herself more quietly. Maybe she was drug there by friends, maybe not. She might be just sitting down in a booth somewhere. I don't know...but trust me, they do go to bars...just for different reasons. That's how I met WHF. In a bar. (Country line dancing bar, but a bar.)
But I think you're going about this all the wrong way. I'm thinking for you, a bar isn't the place for you to go meet a girl anyway. This is gonna take a little more effort then, but is doable. You'll meet your next potential girl either through a mutual friend...or by doing some activity. Maybe it's at the gym, maybe you take a class somewhere and meet there (you like cooking...that might be an idea of a class you could take...you could learn, and I'm sure you'd meet girls.) But bars, it would seem, are definitely not the place for you, personally, to meet women. I think that you probably think you have to try to hard and of course, it would seem that most (not all) women who go to bars are looking for "a good time." and that's it.
You seem like the type who has to befriend a girl you'd date. There's nothing wrong with that...and I personally, almost prefer it (and was usually what I did when I was interested in guys...with the exception of WHF, go fig). I think if you really just enjoy your life...the right girl will come to you. If you go out looking for her, you're going to have trouble. Take it from someone who knows that firsthand too.
(cuz i'm awkward Joe on the phone)
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