Hard situation for me, personal?

WDW2010

WDW2010

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Well I've been going through a rough month or so and finally 2 days ago my girlfriend and I of about just 3 years broke up. For reasons I honestly don't even understand, immaturity on her part is the reasoning I guess but whatever..

My first trip ever to WDW was with her last year, and we went again this past March. Now my hard situation is, I have soo many memories with her such as photographs, t-shirts we bought each other, souvenirs etc.

Now my best friend actually is working in Disney for the CP program and really wants me to go. My ex-girlfriend and I actually had a trip planned together on my 21st birthday for me to go (this up coming October) and now that obviously isn't going to happen..

I'm not sure if its a temporary thing or what but I don't know how I feel going alone without her, or even to bring anyone else there with me because I experienced it with her, and it hurts like no tomorrow.


Any comments? suggestions? advice? I would really appreciate it everyone, I need it. Thank you!
 
Magenta Panther

Magenta Panther

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WDW2010 said:
Well I've been going through a rough month or so and finally 2 days ago my girlfriend and I of about just 3 years broke up. For reasons I honestly don't even understand, immaturity on her part is the reasoning I guess but whatever..

My first trip ever to WDW was with her last year, and we went again this past March. Now my hard situation is, I have soo many memories with her such as photographs, t-shirts we bought each other, souvenirs etc.

Now my best friend actually is working in Disney for the CP program and really wants me to go. My ex-girlfriend and I actually had a trip planned together on my 21st birthday for me to go (this up coming October) and now that obviously isn't going to happen..

I'm not sure if its a temporary thing or what but I don't know how I feel going alone without her, or even to bring anyone else there with me because I experienced it with her, and it hurts like no tomorrow.


Any comments? suggestions? advice? I would really appreciate it everyone, I need it. Thank you!
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I'm sorry to hear about your difficulty. But if I were you, I'd go. I'd focus on the PARKS and the fun they offer, and not on sad memories. Maybe that would help you heal. Best wishes! :)
 
WDW2010

WDW2010

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Scuttle said:
You have to move on. Go create new magic memories without her.
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I know and I do keep telling myself that it just really blows that my first time was with her and she seen how happy and excited I really was to even be there just like a little kid again.. And it was my first flight ever with her just us two, ugh. Thanks guys.
 
Oddysey

Oddysey

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I had a similar situation where my ex fiance and I were passholders for a few years, and made many memories at the parks. When we broke up I was a little apprehensive about going to Disney because I thought it would make me think of her. I took about a several months away from the parks after the break up.

When I finally went back it made me think of her on occasion, but nothing that really messed with my enjoyment of the parks. Fast forward about 5 years later, and I dont even think about her at all when I go there. I got married to someone else, and she enjoys the parks more than my ex did. We have a great time together, and have made many memories of our own.
 
bayoubelle

bayoubelle

amuck, amuck, amuck
Go, you'll have a great time and a change of scenery helps to put things in perspective. Don't get stuck on the what ifs.

When I was your age, my boyfriend and I broke up and I was devastated. I hated men, etc. Then about 1 month after the breakup, one of my friends called me to go out. I met my husband that night. We have been together 31 years and our 30th wedding anniversary is the day after Christmas this year.
 
acishere

acishere

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Take the trip. Bring a friend along if possible.

I have this Italian restaurant near me that I love. The food is amazing. It was introduced to me by a girlfriend. We shared moments and memories there But, the relationship over time fell apart, there was a bad breakup, and I was affected by it. Do I never go to that place I love because now it has "history?" Or do I go in with some friends and order some amazing comfort food? Neither of us should have to give up eating an amazing Penne Vodka or Carbonara because things didn't work out.

You experienced a new place and had a great experience there. It belongs to neither of you, therefore you both should be able to enjoy it. Every experience is different from the last so when the both of you return (separately) to a place with history, just try to separate the past memories and focus on the present experience.

I have had some crappy, ugly breakups, but if I avoid every place where I have a memory with them after the breakup, I would have to move to Alaska until I get over it.
 
stlbobby

stlbobby

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This will sound crass, but it will be the best thing for you.

Go visit your friend. Find a girl. Have an amazing Disney fling. Keep it casual and don't try and make it a relationship.

You will excise all the ex-girlfriend demons and be ready for a new relationship back home and be re-instilled with a love of Disney.
 
WDW_Princess24

WDW_Princess24

Active Member
I'm sorry about everything that's going on. I can understand how you feel, I too share so many Disney memories and experiences with my BF and often wonder how I would be able to return if we were not together.

In time, you will heal, and return to the parks when you are ready. When the time comes you will be ready to make new and better memories there.
 
Pioneer Hall

Pioneer Hall

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A little different for me since Disney was my place long before I took a girl there. However, I went there with my last serious GF a few years ago and we broke up a few months later for reasons I didn't quite understand at the time either. Memories might hurt, but if you like Disney then you can't let it affect that. It might sound crazy now, but before you know it you might be sharing it with someone else that you find even more special.
 
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Wdwron

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Hey dude take stlbobbys advice go and have a good time and maybe a few brewskees at the Rose And Crown. Like my dad always said "Women can't live with them, can't live with them. But he did always seem to have a frying pan shaped bump upside his head!:lol:
 
isman250

isman250

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Its just a girl now, if she wants to be dumb and let her be dumb by herself. Frankly take the vacation and take up epcot drinking lol. Im sure you have friends, so go have a good time and who cares if your first time was with her. You werent married, and she is not worth it, so it will be hard, the dumb thing to do would be to sit around and cry yourself to sleep. Go on a vacation and keep yourself busy, thats the key right now.
 
cowanfamily

cowanfamily

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Sitting around and dwelling on everything that was, will only keep you from moving on. Take the trip, it will be a positive step in moving forward and showing yourself you've put it behind you.
 
Pooh Lover

Pooh Lover

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Actually, the sooner you go the better. Don't allow the doubt you feel right now to grow. Dive in, test the water and you will realize you've done the right thing. The sooner you start making new memories, the sooner you will get past these feelings. And have fun! :)
 
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DisneyDebNJ

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If ANY of us here stopped going some where, due to a failed relationship, we are hampering great times with others! There isn't any reason why you wouldnt have a fabulous time, if you were in the proper mind set. (meaning, don't let past bad experiences stop you from moving forward, thinking... this is really cool!!) There are sooooo many wonderful things to do at Disney, you don't need to repeat the same experience you had with your ex. Go with friends, family etc... make POSITIVE memories. Gear yourself up for having a great time, other than thinking what could have been. Take the bull by the horns, and enjoy the ride!! :sohappy:
 
jaques21

jaques21

Active Member
go! you will have fun and your gonna be with your buddy so do it! besides u could meet someone there....who knows it could happen! :)
 

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