Feeling horribly guilty!!

[luvthemagic]

I know I will get a bashing, but here goes. DH and I are leaving for WDW this Saturday, and leaving our daughter behind!(guilty part) Yes she is 19 years old, but has had life threatening illness in the past , and I feel bad leaving her. She has a job and just completed her first semester of college. Hubby and I have never been on a honeymoon or celebrated our anniversaries. It is our 26th coming up. We need to rekindle our lives and I thought this trip would help, but I feel bad leaving DD. Please boost my moral so I can spend a romantic time with DH of 26 years!! Thanks

 

[barnum42]

Why would you feel you are in for a bashing?

I think it's great you are going to Disney for a break from the everyday and aim to enjoy some quality romantic time with your Husband. Nothing to feel guilty about there.

Have a great time, take lots of photos, let us know how it all went and bring your daughter back a nice gift :wave:

 

[stranger]

Nothing to feel guilty about here. You and your husband deserve some time alone together...it's very normal and healthy. Enjoy your "honeymoon" and each other

 

[Erika]

You and your husband deserve some alone time now and then- surely your daughter can understand the importance of putting a little care into your relationship. Plenty of kids are not lucky enough to have parents who have been married 26 years. You must be doing something right :wave:

Have a great time!

 

[DisneyPhD]

Go have a great time. I totally understand, we took 12 year old niece last year, and I felt guilty not taking her again this year because we didn't get to do everything last time.

However, you deserve some time to yourself. You said your daugther had a life threatening illness in the past, that proubly ment you spent a lot of time and engery helping amd worrying about her. I would guess you need some as a couple to relax and reconnect.

WDW can be a wonderfully romantic for a couple. Go, discover WDW with out family. Just think, some day when she is older she most likely will go with out your.

oh, and here is to 26 years. :sohappy: :sohappy: :sohappy: Good for you.

 

[Nicole]

I have felt your guilt. On a different scale, but I think it is always hard for us to leave our kids to go to such a kid-friendly place. I've done it a few times now and let me assure you that the guilt magically vanishes most of the time you are at Disney! It helps if your kids know you are feeling a little guilty, mine were quick to assure me that they'd be fine and that they did not have any hard feelings about my having some "me" time.

Go - be free - have fun!!

 

[McArcDes]

You have no reason to feel guilty. My girlfriend and I are leaving Christmas night for a week alone together in WDW. Between us we have 6 kids. Hers will be with her ex and mine with my mom. Raising kids is tough enough with out any major illness etc ever happening. You (and we) deserve to go away and have time to our selves to work on the adult relationships that seem to always take a back seat to the needs and wants of the kids. Go! Have a grand time, spoil your selves rotten. Guilt not, indulge your inner child and make some memories to last a life time!

 

[Gail Hayden]

I agree with all of the above. Go, have fun, find that spark.

 

[Pigtails]

Aww, don't feel guilty! You and your husband deserve a honeymoon. My husband and I just celebrated our 2nd anniversary, we never had a honeymoon, and I hope one day we will be able to have a "belated" one. I'm sure your daughter will understand, and that she probably wants you to have a wonderful time. Like some others have said, WDW can be very romantic, so have a great trip and rekindle that romance!

 

[luvthemagic]

Thank all of you for your posts! It brought tears to my eyes that everyone is so supportive. It is just what I needed. I will read them all again before I go.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!

 

[Gail Hayden]

Thank all of you for your posts! It brought tears to my eyes that everyone is so supportive. It is just what I needed. I will read them all again before I go.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!

Welcome, welcome, welcome. I love Disney with just the two of us. A walk in the rose garden path at night at Epcot is really lovely. A walk in the opposite direction of everyone after Illuminations is really nice. IE: If you are in front of America, head towards Germany and walk that way around the lagoon. You avoid the exiting crowds and the walk is just AHHHHH.
You two saw your child through a BIG problem, go have some fun. God I LOVE romance.

 

[tigger248]

Don't feel guilty. It's normal to want to have some alone time with your hubby. You deserve it!

My mom left me at home to go to WDW once. :lookaroun Her and my dad took my half brother for his first time (he was 13, I think). I also joke and say they took the "favorite child" my younger brother without me because she was a few months pregnant at the time and technically he was there. In their defence, I was only one year old.

But, the last 3 trips have been girl weekends and we've left Brian (my brother) at home. I even felt a little guilty on this past trip. So, next year, we're taking him.

Just go out and enjoy yourselves! Bring her a nice souvenir (as was mentioned above). You're gonna have a great time!

 

[lamarvenoy]

Don't worry at 19 she's got plenty of other things to keep her entertained.

 

[goofyfordisney]

You Deserve it.

You have no reason to feel guilty! Go and have fun. Your daughter will be fine!!!

You and your husband need some alone time.

 

[Laura]

I think she can handle herself at 19. When I was 19 I had already been married for 2 years and had a new baby, I did not care that my parents vacationed without me LOL. In fact, my husband and I went on a Disney Cruise by ourselves for our honeymoon 2 days after I turned 18 (and yes we paid for it ourselves!).

You will have a blast!!!

 

[gobuckeye@wdw]

Well........ I know if my parents did that to me I would probably not talk to them for a LONG TIME!! And it's easy for me to do that seeing that I am away at college and their only way of contacting me is by my cell phone ......God Bless Caller Id!!!!!! Anyway, I probably wouldn't go that far!!!!!

Actually my dad went to Orlando in October for "business":lookaroun and made a quick stop at WDW!!!!! He called me on my phone while he was in the preshow for M:S (at least me let me listen to the entire preshow... so it was knida like I was there)
But it was kind of cool because every 10 min. or so he would call me and ask me what he should do next!!!!! I felt like a tour guide!!! But I got him through MK, MGM, and Epcot in one day!!!! That day he used 80 minutes on his cell phone!!!! Sooooo I forgave him for not taking me because it was almost like I was there!!! ALMOST BUT NOT QUITE!!!

 

[Indy95]

You shouldn't have any guilt if your 19 year-old didn't mind. I mean, if she thinks it was a good idea, then just go out and have a blast!

P.S. The best place to stay for you two would be the Polynesian. It's probably the most romantic hotel at the resort. :kiss:

Actually my dad went to Orlando in October for "business":lookaroun and made a quick stop at WDW!!!!! He called me on my phone while he was in the preshow for M:S (at least me let me listen to the entire preshow... so it was knida like I was there)
But it was kind of cool because every 10 min. or so he would call me and ask me what he should do next!!!!! I felt like a tour guide!!! But I got him through MK, MGM, and Epcot in one day!!!! That day he used 80 minutes on his cell phone!!!! Sooooo I forgave him for not taking me because it was almost like I was there!!! ALMOST BUT NOT QUITE!!!

He actually called us too. He wanted me to tell him whether he should park at Epcot or MGM when he was going to visit both parks. (I said MGM because the boat landing was right next to the parking lot) But yeah, he let us share the magic too!

 

[colliera]

You'll get over it.

For as much as you do Disney for your kids you also do it for yourself.

The first time the wife and I did Disney together without the kids was Jan 2004. Our last "at home" daughter had plans to see her fiancé and not having to take her made it financially possible for the two of us to go to Disney while she was on her trip. She didn't like it but I pointed out it was her choice.

The second time was Sept. 2004 and we didn't tell her. The "what she doesn't know doesn't hurt her syndrome." She had moved to be with her fiancé in late May.

Our next trip will be Jan 2005 and we did tell her. Surprise! She is OK with that. Just goes to show you that your kids aren't as self-centered as you might think.

BTW, when you get to Disney it will work it's magic and block out the "outside world" so you can enjoy being with your better half and tour at the pace and choice you two enjoy. We did things in Sept. that we never would have done with the kids with us because they wouldn't have liked it due to their youthfulness. As I told my older daughter when I took her and her family to Disney, "This is how you put it together to make memories for your kids." You have passed the torch. Now it's time to discover a new relationship and Disney experience with just your spouse.

 

[luvthemagic]

Thanks to everyone!! I am surprising my husband with 3 nights at WL.(he thinks we are staying at POR FQ) We are even leaving earlier so this will be my last post till my attempt at a trip report!
Wish us luck!! I will let you know how it goes!! :wave:

 

[tigger248]

Good luck, have fun, and I look forward to reading your trip report! :wave: