Bus etiquette

Marco226

Marco226

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buseegal said:
what would you do Marco226 if you were my 37 year old daughter? last June she had a heart attack and has devic that shocks her heart and anyone who is touching her at the time. nothing shows to look at her if you did not know. she has been asked to give up her seat because she looks young. the shock yo restart her heart could kill, stop that person's heart. how would you feel if she did as you asked and then someone else is hurt or worse because you had your way. just something to think about
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If that's the case, then the person with the heart device should respond by saying that he/she has a heart condition and should not get up. No one will argue with someone with a medical issue (I hope). I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. I'm glad she's ok now!
 
CaptainessKylie

CaptainessKylie

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I will always give up my seat for those that need it, but I also think if you have a medical condition that means you need to have a seat on the bus you should try to avoid them at peak times, or be willing to wait for the next one. I am currently 6 months pregnant and bumpless! I look like I ate a big bowl of pasta, but my gosh do I need a seat on the bus so the morning sickness doesn't rear its ugly head or the backpain can get some relief! But from the outside, to strangers I look like I don't need a seat so it's not fair to judge those not giving the seats up, nor do I think you should ever ask someone to give up their seat. If you need a seat you might just have to wait for the next bus, or plan your day better!
 
acishere

acishere

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If you don't look like you need it, I'm not moving. So the elderly, people carrying kids, or injured I'll give up a seat for. If there is only so many seats left, I'll offer it to a woman in my group. Otherwise I'll take the seat. That is the etiquette I see used when I take the train/subway to work. It was what we did in college when we took the buses between campuses. Then again this is the etiquette from a place where people are used to being packed onto a crowded space on a regular basis. After riding a bus everyday for class the idea of chivalrously giving up your seat for a girl every time just sort of wore away as time went on. Offer the wrong girl your seat and they WILL chew you out for implying that they are weaker than you and therefore need to sit down (actually happened to me). After that it was just an opening to flirt with the pretty girl standing next to me.
 
Marco226

Marco226

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CaptainessKylie said:
I will always give up my seat for those that need it, but I also think if you have a medical condition that means you need to have a seat on the bus you should try to avoid them at peak times, or be willing to wait for the next one. I am currently 6 months pregnant and bumpless! I look like I ate a big bowl of pasta, but my gosh do I need a seat on the bus so the morning sickness doesn't rear its ugly head or the backpain can get some relief! But from the outside, to strangers I look like I don't need a seat so it's not fair to judge those not giving the seats up, nor do I think you should ever ask someone to give up their seat. If you need a seat you might just have to wait for the next bus, or plan your day better!
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Aww.. grats on your new baby!

I understand that people are afraid of others judging them because of the fact that no one can read minds or know every single medical condition about them. If you have a legitimate medical condition that no one can see or observe from the outside, then just speak up! :) Don't worry about what people are thinking. If they wanna ruin their day and be angry with you and not say anything about it, then that's their problem. Your primary concern should be the safety of your baby. And that goes for anyone else with a medical condition.

About asking people to move for another person... I only did that because the old lady that I mentioned earlier really did almost fall on her face when the bus started moving. What made me angry was when the teenagers that I was standing next to were giggling at her. That's why I spoke up and made one of them move for the woman. People can criticize me all they want, but I don't care because I know I did the right thing by helping that poor elderly woman when nobody else wanted to.
 
the-reason14

the-reason14

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While I'll agree that the elderly, injured, small children and pregnant women should have a seat on the bus and should not stand, I would not be the one giving up my seat. I only ever remember doing it once, and if they really 'need' to sit down, then they can do what I do when I see there are no more available seats, get off and wait for the next one.
 
minniemickeyfan

minniemickeyfan

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I'm glad to see there's people out there who think pregnant women should have a seat. Thank you!

I just spent two weeks at the world when I was 33 to 35 weeks pregnant. I knew I would do really well with all the walking, etc. but try standing on a moving bus-that was terrible! NOT ONCE was I offered a seat by anyone.
I also saw a woman with a guide dog, and she was made to stand also on the same bus I was standing.
 
Animaniac93-98

Animaniac93-98

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tsaintc said:
In my opinion, any decent man should not offer, but insist on giving up his seat to any woman, any elderly person or any individual who may need it more than himself.
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Any woman? Sorry, I don't buy that. Especially from my experience (in non Disney buses and subways), they don't take it even if it's offered.

If you ask polietly or look like you need it (and not by default of being female) I will give the seat to you and not be bothered by it, but if not, I'm staying put.
 
shmmrname

shmmrname

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yellowb said:
So is there anyone you ever give your seat up for? Or is it first come, first serve regardless of the situation. We've had mixed reactions while carrying our sleeping kids where some people will be kind and offer their seats and then some others will just keep their seats and make you hold your child and stand up the entire trip back to the resort. We'll never complain, but it is nice when some people recognize the situation and are helpful.
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I give up my seat to nearly everyone. I am a healthy adult male, and it doesn't bother me in the least to stand an extra 10-20 minutes. I think it's polite, like opening a door. No, I don't 'have' to do it, but that's kind of the point of manners.
As a benefit, I find that giving up my seat usually helps the loading process a bit on busy nights. Mostly, because it seems a lot of tourists either aren't familiar with public transportation, or they have a severe fear of invaded personal space. They tend to think a bus that's half full, with a few yards between every passenger is somehow the best way to get the masses to their destination. So, by standing, I can at least try to herd some of the less-than-reasonable people, giving an extra 10-20 people the chance to enter AND letting us leave the bus stop a bit faster.
 
Samoht

Samoht

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Jimmy Thick said:
I think a lot of the negative in this thread is simply trolling.


Don't let this thread discourage anyone, most people have a sense of decency and honor when sitting comes to standing.

Jimmy Thick- Like really.
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While I agree most of the negative comments in this thread are examples of people trolling, I have had to carry my sleeping kids on packed busses more than once on Disney busses at the end of the night. To me it's a matter of right and wrong. Maybe a strong opinion but I was raised to do the right thing, especially when it's as trivial as having to stand so someone else can sit who has a reason to need it. To go a little further, I usually offer my seat to women who are standing , be it on a monorail or bus if I have a seat and they don't.
 
Clever Name

Clever Name

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You can always get a seat on a Disney bus. If all the seats are taken when it is your turn to board, don’t board and wait for the next bus. You’ll be first in line (except for the wheelchairs) when the next bus arrives. However, if you get on a crowded bus and rely upon the kindness of strangers to give up their seat(s), then you are guilty of poor planning. Had you given just a small bit of foresight to the situation at hand you could have gotten your seat(s) and not inconvenienced anyone else in the process.

In the case of a sleeping child, I assure you that the child will not mind waiting for the next bus.
 
tsaintc

tsaintc

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Tigger1988 said:
Offering me, or any other woman a seat on the bus simply because of our gender implies we are somehow weaker and incapable of standing. Yes, there are sexist undertones and it's precisely why I politely decline when I'm offered a seat.
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I truly apologize if that is how you interpreted my post. My opinions and actions are rooted in some simple acts of etiquette that I was taught as a child. Nothing more than that.
 
Animaniac93-98

Animaniac93-98

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tsaintc said:
'sexist undertones'?? You need to brush up on your reading comprehension skills.

"Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt"
-Abraham Lincoln​
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Take your own advice, I said in my post "Especially from my experience (in non Disney buses and subways), they don't take it even if it's offered." Implying that I have done the act before, does this mean "Chivalry is...dead"? No, it just means I don't believe in doing it every time I see a woman on a form of public transportation.

And yes, I did not mean to call you, personally, sexist, but the roots of the act itself instead as Tigger elaborated.

My "bus ettiqute" at WDW is the same as it is at home. At home, I'm one of millions who use the system everyday and it is generally accpeted by everyone that seating is very limited and on a first come, first serve basis, with the exception of the elderly and disabled who get "proprity seating". Mostly I do not see single, healthy (in appearence), younger women offered seats by those whom they've never met before. The closest is typically letting the womam get the seat first, without saying any words to her. With so many women on the system, it's impossible for them all to have a seat (especially when all on board, men and women, are packed as tight as can be) so I suspect it's just customary to treat everyone the same, regardless of gender. Maybe not "chivalrous", but hardly disrespectful.

Sometime I get a seat, many times I don't. So long as I'm going where I need to and not waiting around, I'm fine. I suspect women where I live are the same.

I also notice, if given the chance, people will avoid filling every seat, taking every other instead and volunteer to stand than sit next to a stranger.
 
bethymouse

bethymouse

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tsaintc said:
I truly apologize if that is how you interpreted my post. My opinions and actions are rooted in some simple acts of etiquette that I was taught as a child. Nothing more than that.
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I understood you perfectly. And as a woman, I would not be offended if a man offered me his seat. I do think that is kind. I don't mind standing though, so I may politely decline, but it's always nice to run into a man who is a true "gentleman".:)
 

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