Am I a terrible person :-)

JillC LI

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So for my hubby's 50th birthday I planned a surprise romantic getaway for us. I know how he thinks, and he's going to want to do something special in kind for my 50th (although that is not for over 4 years). He is very good at picking up on subtle gift idea hints from me. Is it awful that I have begun dropping hints about my dream Disney getaway "someday" including the deluxe resort I'd love to stay at, restaurants I'd love to try, tours I'd love to take...? :rolleyes:
 

epcotisbest

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So for my hubby's 50th birthday I planned a surprise romantic getaway for us. I know how he thinks, and he's going to want to do something special in kind for my 50th (although that is not for over 4 years). He is very good at picking up on subtle gift idea hints from me. Is it awful that I have begun dropping hints about my dream Disney getaway "someday" including the deluxe resort I'd love to stay at, restaurants I'd love to try, tours I'd love to take...? :rolleyes:
My wife's 50th is coming up. Oh how I wish she would drop some hints. I want to do something special for her and she keeps saying there is nothing she wants. Take it from a hubby's point of view...drop those hints...heck make a poster with diagrams, specifics and photos...we will thank you and have a better chance of making you happy at the same time. Not being thoughtless, actually caring about what might make you happy, and making you happy makes us happy at the same time.
 

Dog Ate Mouse

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First off let me say as a husband that I do at times appreciate a hint for a B-day gift once in awhile. Now for a special B-Day, this case 50th I would take my wife to WDW and stay at the resort of choice and buy her dinner at a resteraunt of request. In this case of yours, your husband has 4 years to save and plan. You see to me I feel taking the wife to WDW and staying at a better resort and then getting her a wonderful meal to boot is a win-win scenario for me that I would love too. Yes I feel it is a special B-day and she should get what she wants for that special one. To me giving her this kind of gift is also giving me a gift as well. How could you not love going to WDW and staying somewhere you really don't do and then going out for a big and really great meal. I would not think twice about doing this for my DW if this is what she wanted. I honestly feel that is an awesome idea and a wonderful time to spend together and honor your B-day and you with nothing else than what you asked for and really wanted. With me, I always go the extra mile and would surprise her with a new necklace and pair of ear rings, That way I know she knows she truly does mean the world to me.
 

epcotisbest

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So, I was thinking about a cruise...just a short Bahamas cruise to coincide with our next trip to WDW. Having never taken a cruise, I think maybe a 3day to start and if we like it maybe a longer, better cruise later. The thing is, she has never expressed an interest, and I'm kinda afraid she would think I was just getting something I wanted to do and she could come along. Sorta like if I got her the big new fancy grill that I really want. "But sweetie, you'll love the grill, and I might use it too!"
 

epcotisbest

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Both of the men on here just proved that romantic men are not dead!!

Also, I love your comment @epcotisbest. I may not be married, but I've seen my mom's "subtle" hints to my dad. They don't work. Make a dang presentation if you want it so bad, a slideshow and current rates is probably good too.
Yes, a multi slide PowerPoint presentation with moving transitions would be great!
 

JIMINYCR

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Heck no... Us guys need to have hints dropped sometimes to fill us in on stuff you wives think we should already know. A little nudge in the right direction to start us off is always appreciated. Just dont be too pushy with the hints. Maybe a comment to his parents or best friend too as long as you are on good terms with them. They might mention it in passing too.
After the trip, dont clue him in the fact that you slyly got him to do it, let him think the trip was all his idea and he will be proud of what he pulled off.
 

CAPTAIN HOOK

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OK - for my wife's 50th I designed and ordered a cake for her at the local confectioners.
I also booked a table at a local restaurant for the two of us, plus our daughter who lives at home with us, our eldest daughter and her boyfriend (who live in London over 200 miles away), then there was my wife's mother (who lives locally), my wife's sister and her husband (who also live in London), my sister, her husband and their daughter, not forgetting our next door neighbour, her husband and her sister, and, not forgetting our two best friends who live in North Wales. Everybody arrived at the restaurant without my wife knowing they were even going to attend and boy was she surprised when we got there.
Oh yes, I mustn't forget the new (larger) engagement ring which she got.

Romantic or what ??
 

Tinkwings

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Oooh thanks, I have that milestone coming up too and nothing I would like better than a trip to WDW just the two of us, never been without kids, so best start dropping those "subtle" hints asap....might take awhile to sink in! ;) When DH had his 50th he bluntly said he didn't want any attention to that number given....so he got his wish.:D
 

Kuzcotopia

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I took a anthropology class in college, and I wrote a paper on the cultural and economic significance of gift giving.

I should try to find that paper . .
 

75disney

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If I waited for my husband to take my hints and do something, I would never go anywhere. For my 40th birthday lat year, I booked the trip to WDW, including the hotel at which I wanted to stay, the activities that I wanted to do, and the restaurants at which I wanted to eat. Then I handed him the bill. We had a great trip! Plan to do it again for my 50th!
 

PigletIsMyCat

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So, I was thinking about a cruise...just a short Bahamas cruise to coincide with our next trip to WDW. Having never taken a cruise, I think maybe a 3day to start and if we like it maybe a longer, better cruise later. The thing is, she has never expressed an interest, and I'm kinda afraid she would think I was just getting something I wanted to do and she could come along. Sorta like if I got her the big new fancy grill that I really want. "But sweetie, you'll love the grill, and I might use it too!"

unless she has a fear of ships or the ocean, i think this is a nice idea. 3 and 4 day cruises out of port canaveral are very reasonable - usually 4 days are only a tiny bit more than a 3 day. does she really like disney? maybe do one of the short 3/4 day disney cruises then hit wdw. you'll pay for it but it's amazing. if you choose one of the other lines, i'd recommend royal caribbean. the issue with the short cruises from florida is that the cruise lines often use their older, smaller ships - don't expect the ridiculously fancy ones you see on the commercials.

except for disney. disney's ships are ridiculous and amazing.
 

Mr Anderson

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As a young married man (just about to hit our 5 year mark) some hints would be GLORIOUS. My wife has never said it, but her friends have said things like "You should know her well enough to know what she wants!" OH COME ON!
I know what she likes, but if she has something specific in mind that she wants, without hints, how on earth am I supposed to know that? However, like @Chef Mickey said... most of the time, being bold and outright works out better for everyone involved. It does not make you a bad person at all. Something along the lines of...

"Do you have any idea how wonderful it would be to celebrate my 50th in Walt Disney World?!"

He can certainly still manage to have some things up his sleeves for you, but y'all can plan the trip together, which is even more fun and you can get all the little details of your dream trip worked out.
 

JillC LI

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After that long, just tell him what you want. Better for both of you. When I'm 50, I foresee not wanting to mess around.

Since the day we met 19 years ago, he's been quite good at paying attention to my subtle hints, and I like to be surprised at least somewhat about the details of his gifts! LOL

Something along the lines of...
"Do you have any idea how wonderful it would be to celebrate my 50th in Walt Disney World?!"
He can certainly still manage to have some things up his sleeves for you, but y'all can plan the trip together, which is even more fun and you can get all the little details of your dream trip worked out.

I probably don't even have to say "celebrate my 50th" there if I continue to drop hints about my "dream Disney vacation." Oh, and I think I'd actually like it if the kids came too. They'll be old enough by then (19 and 17) to do some things on their own so my hubby and I can have some romantic time alone together.

I love to see romance is alive and well @Dog Ate Mouse and @epcotisbest! She'll probably love the cruise.
 

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