A VERY sensitive topic

[WaltzingMatilda]

Our trip is booked for the last week of September and a member of our party has...don't know how else to say it..."weight" issues. My hope is that this person will make an effort to get into shape but every time I've tried to broach the topic I'm rebuffed (which I understand...who wants to be criticized?). I want everyone involved to have a good time, but most importantly this person and I think they will have a better time (in life, not just Disney) if steps were taken to address this issue. I don't care about looks, just health and general enjoyment of life. There is no medical condition involved, just poor nutrition choices and lack of execise. I think this person will enjoy their visit to the park much more if steps were taken towards a fitness goal.

Wow..I'm kind of freaked out about even posting this.

Thanks for your understanding.

 

[masterv]

I was only meaning that as long as the OP (or anyone, for that matter) has the other person's best interest at heart then I think they'll be okay. :wave:

A person can have "good intentions" and still offend someone. I was at a conference a few months ago for work and this lady walked up to me and handed me a brochure. She said she saw me over at the table and wanted to give me some information. It was a brochure on gastric bypass surgery. What nerve! Do you think she hurt my feelings? Yeah! Duh! Again, I have mirrors in my home and don't need some 100 pounds soaking wet bleach blond telling me I need to lose weight.

 

[shoppingnut]

I always love my phone calls from my sister that all she talks about is her weight and how she gained so much and is a fat pig. Okay, when she has "gained so much" she is usually talking about 3 pounds!! She is 5'7" and weighs about 120, so when she starts going on and on about her 3 pounds, I tell her to come back and talk to me when its 30 and then I just tell her I have to go because I can't stand the insane discussion anymore.

 

[masterv]

I always love my phone calls from my sister that all she talks about is her weight and how she gained so much and is a fat pig. Okay, when she has "gained so much" she is usually talking about 3 pounds!! She is 5'7" and weighs about 120, so when she starts going on and on about her 3 pounds, I tell her to come back and talk to me when its 30 and then I just tell her I have to go because I can't stand the insane discussion anymore.

OMG I know exactly what you are talking about shoppingnut. We have friends like that too. "Oh I've put on 5 pounds during my pregnancy. I'm so fat. I'm so disgusting. Wha Wha Wha Wha Wha...." Give me a break! Oh dear. Now you weight 105 instead of 100. I'm sure the sun will fall from the sky now. I really want to club these people when they open their mouth and start to say stupid stuff. One time I actually told a friend, "Gee if you think YOU are fat and disgusting. I hate to wonder what you think of me." Her face turned red and she was speechless.

 

[vilegirl]

As someone who has lost alot of weight (120 pounds) and would still like to lose about 50 more...this subjuct is near and dear to my heart. One of the hardest things for someone not overweight to understand is that the overweight person may very well wish they were thinner, but getting the mindset to do it is a totally different thing. For years I was miserable, but I kept right on making bad food choices and not getting enough exercise. I wanted to be thinner, but I just didn't have it in me to do anything about it. People told me I should lose weight, but that only made me feel worse. Then one day...it just happened. I woke up and just knew that until I lost weight, I was trapped. And that was the day that it all started. Now I look at my life and I wonder how I ever survived as I was. So all I'm trying to say is...nothing you say or anyone says can make a person lose weight. Maybe they'll go on a diet for a few weeks, but it won't last. To truly lose weight, your mind, heart and soul have to be in it. Obviously your friend just isn't there yet. Or maybe they never will be. If they're happy, then they should be able to live their life the way they choose. If they're unhappy, like I was, then I hope that they one day find the strength to make a change.:kiss:

~Linda

 

[hcswingfield]

My weight loss changes started after the doctor told me it was the only way to get my blood pressure, cholesterol and triglycerides completely under control when none of the medicines were doing the job. Someone very close to me started his program of weight loss when the doctor told him if he didn't change his diet and exercise, he would probably start having to take insulin shots. Like any other behavior, diet and exercise habits can be changed if you really want to, and you seek out whatever help you need. You also have to be willing to take responsibility for being willing to change, and not look for something external like a magic pill or a fad diet to make things easier. I'm not talking about being thin, I'm talking about being healthy. Thin does not necessarily equal healthy.

 

[COOLKID007]

I ain't fat so I don't know what it's like being fat, but I'd go on a diet.
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