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21stamps

21stamps

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dryerlintfan said:
Should and should not is subjective. The school disagrees with you, as do the parents that seem willing to put their kids through all that for the school team. If your job says you need to work 70 hours a week like everyone else or leave, you make the choice to either work like everyone else or find something that's a better fit.

Again, I'm so sorry that this is something you guys are going through, and it seems like T is pretty young to be learning this lesson and that's unfortunate.
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I will agree to fervently disagree here. We’re taking about school sports that are open to all. The kids/parents on the team aren’t doing that training for the school team, it’s because their kids play on AAU (select teams), I don’t have a problem with that. T does the same for soccer. With school soccer though, we still play kids in a game who don’t play select, they don’t play an entire game, but they do play a minimum of half a game. This is fair imo.

It’s not the school disagreeing with me.. It’s the mentality of a specific coach that I’m dealing with.. my post here was wondering if I should bring it to the attention of the athletic club at our next meeting. I’m in the athletic club and also a coach at our school.
I either stay silent, or bring it up.

I’m still undecided.
 
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DryerLintFan

DryerLintFan

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21stamps said:
I will agree to fervently disagree here. We’re taking about school sports that are open to all. It’s not the school disagreeing with me.. It’s the mentality of a specific coach that I’m dealing with.. my post here was wondering if I should bring it to the attention of the athletic club at our next meeting. I’m in the athletic club and also a coach at our school.
I either stay silent, or bring it up.

I’m still undecided.
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It sounds like it's heavily impacting your experience so I vote at least speak your peace.
 
21stamps

21stamps

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dryerlintfan said:
It sounds like it's heavily impacting your experience so I vote at least speak your peace.
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It’s what we as adults should be doing for all kids, imo. Making sure that we are providing experiences within a school setting. It’s our responsibility how we choose to lead these kids, and what we’re ok with in the process. That’s part of being a coach and the reason for school athletic organizations in the first place.
 
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Figgy1

Figgy1

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MySmallWorldof4 said:
Oh no! Are they all home?
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Eldest is sleeping, next eldest is "resting" and James is doing school work and eating me out of house and home. I'm staying as far away from them as I can. Today was going to be a sewing day but the bathrooms got sprayed down, Mount Laundry climbed, more deChristmasing done and some much needed time with Adrienne practiced. Maybe I'll at least get one pattern traced out:joyfull:
 
MySmallWorldof4

MySmallWorldof4

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21stamps said:
We have an athletic club meeting coming up.. I’m deciding if I want to say something.. or if I just want to let this go.

I’ve composed an email several times, then deleted. I’ve thought of what I should say in the meeting, then think twice before creating waves. I just don’t know what to do in this situation, all I know is that it’s wrong. We’re a catholic school for goodness sake, that should mean more than just having the best sports teams.. playing to win is fine, but not in the way that we’re seeing.

I don’t know the best path here.
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Was this basketball? Did they not use him in the game?
 
21stamps

21stamps

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MySmallWorldof4 said:
Was this basketball? Did they not use him in the game?
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Yes basketball.

What do you think, should I bring it up at the meeting? I’ve already spoken to the coach and nothing has changed.

Just to be crystal clear.. of course I’m upset that it’s happening to my own kid.. but that’s not what discussing it in the meeting would be about. The purpose would be to get us all to agree on what we think is ok with playing time and coaching styles within our school sports at this age. Not an arbitrary number, there will be times where a kid shouldn’t be played (ie not listening to the coach, misbehaving in practices, not trying in a game, etc).. but agreeing that half a game* should be standard if a kid is committed to a team and especially if there’s only 1 sub.
*excluding teams that have tryouts.. the A teams that start in 5th grade, or the national team for school baseball. Tryout teams are different, I’m just talking about the teams available to all students.
 
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MySmallWorldof4

MySmallWorldof4

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dryerlintfan said:
That's the beauty of it is that you can use literally whatever veggies you like! Tonight we're doing wild rice, asparagus, brussels sprouts, orange bell pepper, cucumber, carrots, mushrooms (blech), garbanzo beans, and more of that sesame ginger sauce since it was so good. I wanted more avocado but A is an avocado addict and she ate 1.5 of them last night.
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If I leave now, I will make it to your place by dinner. ;) :hilarious:
 
MySmallWorldof4

MySmallWorldof4

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21stamps said:
I do know the 10,000 hour saying. I just hate to see a school sport in this fashion, I would feel differently if this was an A team or select team that he made. Having only 1 sub and 1 kid sitting out every game is the most obvious thing. All I can really do is hope that it doesn’t drive him away from the sport.

I’m a huge fan of high level sports and the mentality that goes with it.. but at the same I do think there should still be a place (school) where kids can be on a team and not have to feel like they need be at a competitive level to play. Some kids enjoy multiple sports, but don’t need to train to be “the best” in each of them. For my kid, baseball, golf, and soccer are his passions. Basketball and volleyball are fun for him.. he wants to do good, he’s lucky that he’s athletic and decent in them, but he’s not going to do trainers and a bunch of camps for these sports. He’s not going to be on the same level with the kids who do. That should be OK at a school level, it’s the whole point of school sports, there are leagues who choose by skill alone- that’s good for kids..but that’s not what 4th grade school teams should do, this is my main problem.

Anyway, thanks for listening to me go off on this tangent. Lol
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Honestly, I think it is okay for you to tell T that doesn't have to play on this team anymore. It is probably obvious that if he wasn't their he wouldn't be missed since he is benched most of the game. Sure it's great that he shows great sportsmanship by cheering his team on, but it also is interfering with something he is really good at. It adds more stress to your life as well.

He is so good at other sports, and not being perfect at this one doesn't make him any less of an athlete. Everyone has their "thing", and it is fine if basketball hasn't worked out. He has tried so hard and made you so proud of his effort. This only shows that he will become a very successful adult. It is also an adult thing to let some things go. He can let the basketball go and accept that he won't be as good as the other kids who have been playing for half of their lives.
 
MySmallWorldof4

MySmallWorldof4

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21stamps said:
I will agree to fervently disagree here. We’re taking about school sports that are open to all. The kids/parents on the team aren’t doing that training for the school team, it’s because their kids play on AAU (select teams), I don’t have a problem with that. T does the same for soccer. With school soccer though, we still play kids in a game who don’t play select, they don’t play an entire game, but they do play a minimum of half a game. This is fair imo.

It’s not the school disagreeing with me.. It’s the mentality of a specific coach that I’m dealing with.. my post here was wondering if I should bring it to the attention of the athletic club at our next meeting. I’m in the athletic club and also a coach at our school.
I either stay silent, or bring it up.

I’m still undecided.
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I would speak your mind.
 

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