Are we doing armchair philosophy? (Suddenly appears out of nowhere a centimeter from your nose, staring at you.) Hi.
Seriously, though, I find the core assumption here that “maturity” and “comfort with aggression and violence” are so linked fascinating and depressing (Without getting too much into spoilers, this was actually a theme in the newly released Elio.) I don’t mean this in regard to you specifically, it’s a common assumption.
Don’t get me wrong. I do think there’s a case to be made that solid equanimity towards a variety of experiences is a mark of maturity. But in arguments like the one you’re making, it’s not about a broad experience in general. It’s not about having visited different cultures, gone out of your comfort zone in a variety of ways, experienced joy and sorrow, ecstasy and despair, and everything in between. It’s about exposure to violence and sexuality equaling maturity.
To which I would say - a focus on what is gentle, positive and kind has often represented a step forward for culture. Remember when gentlemen (literally “gentle men”) ran around in foppish wigs, tunics and tights while attending the ballet? Ok, well, probably you don’t remember as that would make you hundreds of years old, but you know what I mean. That was during a time of rapid and important intellectual development in Western culture. Not to mention, one could make an argument that while Disney parks have narrowed in allowing displays of violence, they have broadened in representing different cultures, cuisines, lifestyles and technology.