I've gotten so frustrated with my kids' school. They have Kanjer Training, which is basically supposed to teach kids how to stand up for themselves and use words and think about their own behavior. So they have different colors of caps and they say for example the yellow cap is being a whiner/cry baby. Red is being bossy. Black is being a bully. And the kids can just say "Hey, you're wearing a black hat today" which is supposed to make the bully think about his actions and change the behavior. And if they don't, the kid is supposed to tell them 3 times to stop whatever it is, that they don't like it. If, after 3 attempts, it doesn't stop, only then are they supposed to go to a teacher. But bullies don't really care about what hat color they are wearing, and it's my son telling them to stop that they find amusing and it gives them more incentive to continue than it does to stop. I actually walked around the corner to the school to pick my kids up to find my son being held up against the wall by a boy 3 years older than him, shaking him. My son was in tears and screaming for him to stop, and the bully's friend was standing on his other side so DS couldn't get away. I went up and ripped them off of him and screamed at them. They ran off, I went and reported it to a teacher and the only thing that happened was that my son had to go with the teacher the next morning to ask the kid why he did that and to tell him he didn't like it, and the boy had to apologize and promise not to do it again. It was apparently never recorded, because a month later, another parent saw the same boy following DS around on the play ground nudging him and intimidating him, DS using the kanjer method of telling him to stop. She reported it to a teacher, who then did the exact same thing as the first incident...DS had to ask him why he did it and tell him he didn't like it, and the bully had to apologize and say it would never happen again. Then a few weeks later, there was ANOTHER incident. The bully was never punished in any way and it was never recorded by the school, so no one knew to watch for it. I WISH there was a program in place like your CAPS!!